What is stopping you from moving forward?

When you don't know what your wishes are, there must be something that is hindering. Some kind of invisible force makes you hesitate to think and can't find and pursue your true wishes. You should find the resistance of the elbow so that you can try to eliminate it. As long as you are sure that you really want to reach and start approaching this, your resistance will jump out of the cover and begin to persuade you not to act rashly.

All you have to do is find a temporary one, it's very tempting. This will induce your resistance and you really want to achieve it. Then you will act now to pursue this.

I have listed the four reasons why I have to act as soon as possible:

1) Action will help you;

2) Action will improve your feelings about your self-image;

3) Action will bring information, increase, and bring good luck;

4) Action will make your intuition come alive.

Here's the fifth and most important reason: If you have a feeling of getting stuck when you are pursuing yourself, then please reveal all the obstacles that have caught you and then make them clear.

In theory, you can choose your own, and if not, you can change your own. Most people think so. If this is the case, then, what's the big deal? Then why can't you move? Obviously, there is something you have to take care of, or you have already gotten out of your embarrassing situation.

The only reasonable conclusion I can draw is that you are aware of some danger ahead of you, and the power that prevents you from moving forward is trying to protect you.

When you act to achieve your "dangerous" desire, every resistance in your mind begins to scream. It will stop you from moving forward by making you feel guilty, or ashamed, or desperate.

This is exactly what we want to figure out.

We need to expose the resistance of these constraints, because once you know exactly what you are facing, you can design a disposal plan to overcome it.

First, let me change the topic and ask you a few questions.

Some work

There is a difference between "dry work" and "work". Although both of them require energy and physical strength, although you can get paid from both, you can no longer have any meaning for you except for work.

And the work that is part of you is what you think is worth doing, and whether it works or not, work means rich meaning to you.

Here, you also need to know what you think about "meaningful work."

Exercise 1: "Meaning work"

Have a piece of paper on the "meaningful work" in the eyes of the world that you think. Write as much as possible. If you like, you can also write down some names that you think their life seems to be particularly meaningful. Explain why you think so.

What makes the work really worth doing? Now read what you wrote, are you thinking about something similar to the one mentioned below?

“Meaning work is a job that must be beneficial to the world. It must help humanity in some way.”

"If you want to make sense, what you do must cause a sensation, you must, this has nothing to do with what you do."

“I think those who do meaningful work are completely uncomfortable. They sleepless and forget to eat because they are as immersed in the greatest discoveries as Columbus and Newton, or like Beethoven, with the most imagination.”

"I think that in the eyes of the world, you have done your best in life. For example, you have become a family, have a house, have a good job, and become the pillar of society. You have it."

If you think you don't have to face this problem, don't be so, since you are excited when you find something that will please yourself.

However, when you hear someone say the following words, will you still think like that? "When I walked into the back hall of the bookstore and piled up the American 1890s journals from the ground to the ceiling, I It feels like someone is taking off a heavy coat from me - just like I went home, although I have never been in such a realm before! I know that most people may not pay attention to that bookstore, but I I feel that the work there should be what I did."

I dare say that you are sure to be willing to give him all that feeling when doing labor protection. Yes, you will get that feeling. It's just that you have to forget what you have learned from others about what is “meaningful work” and start to pay attention to what makes sense to you.

Everyone is unique and unique from childhood, so the objective existence of your personality, you can't, but only to find it. The individual is to connect a deep qualification with the whole world. Whether you are a gardener or a construction worker, a producer or a doctor, as long as you are doing the work that suits you, you will feel that you are connected to your own heart and the world outside you. A gardener will feel that he is creating beauty, and he will feel that he is good at the skills he is good at to create something that can bring beauty to the world; a doctor will feel that he is using his superb medical skills to heal the sick.

The first step in finding the right job for you is to understand the connection between doing what you do and doing what is worth doing.

Simple entertainment won't make you feel. I advise you not to take the long vacation as your life. If you are engaged in something that is indifferent to your own nature, then even if you are already in the sky, living a prosperous and expensive life, you will feel empty. If you are not committed to what you really love, no matter where you are, you are in jail. You have to think that when you do your favorite job, you can make the greatest contribution to the world! Picasso painting is not to help anyone. In this regard, Einstein did not establish relativity. They only focus on their work. That work occupies all their thoughts. At work, they are highly personal, self-focused, and even selfish. When they work, they don't remember the welfare of others. What they do is to comply with their inner impulsiveness, not just the desire to be kind and benevolent. It is generally believed that what people do is either meaningful or self-imposed, and the two cannot be combined. It is necessary to choose between the two. It is time to break this myth.

In fact, if you choose one of the two, you must do another.

If you have a passion, you will have a "great" job. After all, you can only do this kind of work. Thinking of this world requires you to do what you are best at and love, and your heart may be happy.

Know what it would be like to do your favorite job? I asked some people and got some answers like this:

"It leaves you with no worries, exhaustion and exhaustion."

“I love my job because it is always extended and updated.”

"When I was sleepless, I knew I was infatuated with what I did."

You can get this kind of work. To this end, you have to get rid of any shackles, let your imagination run fast, and be prepared to imagine as you wish. What is it that hinders you?

Find one thing

Exercise 2: Heavenly things

Part A: Heavenly fun

Let your imagination fly freely and design the world's most enjoyable things you think. Feel free to design your own activities and the most comfortable environment, without having to think about whether it is realistic or feasible. The only restriction is that it must be a thing, not a style of life. As long as these conditions are met, you are free to think about it. You can choose to be a cowboy. After you finish your work every week, you can take a helicopter to the luxurious spa for a week, or you can take a winter vacation with a report.

Remember that your design includes the following elements: What to do, where and who?

Where would you do what you came up with? Describe the environment: Do you have a fireplace in a small villa? In Antarctica, or in the suburbs of Manhattan? Or on a large farm in Kentucky? Because you are feeding Arabs there. horse.

Don't forget to imagine who will be with you. Keep in mind that this is one thing, so you have to figure out who you are willing to do with you – collaborators, employees, business partners or helpers – or are you willing to have such a helper? , with no complaints to cooperate with you?

What is the heavenly pleasure you imagined? It is also very interesting to do some design.

Bill, once a famous baseball player, said: "I am looking for the wrong person. I can't think of the best thing. If I can think of it, I will do it."

Chris, a stage props, said to me: "You don't know, I have no enthusiasm for anything. My problems are here."

Is it the same for yourself?

Part B: Hell-like suffering

I don't know why, everyone knows clearly what they don't want. If you feel that you are having trouble with heavenly things, you may be able to describe in great detail what you feel is hellish. Please list the various things you have done or that you can imagine that you hate. You can think about it this way. If the devil personally goes out and spends designing a job that will definitely make you uncomfortable, what kind of work will it be like?

Remember, the work you design should include what kind of activities you are engaged in, where and who is engaged in such activities. By the way, since you can design a heavenly job, he can also try the most disgusting work of design.

Martina is a single mother with two, she said: "The worst thing for me is that the whole office is messy and messy. It doesn't matter how long it takes. But my job is to organize the office. I am doing this. Every day, they are scolded with stern words. They don’t let me stop. Every Friday I have to be called into the office and reprimanded.”

Is it stupid to do such an exercise like this? In fact, doing so is very important.

For you in the midst of repression, it is always good to have a catharsis of negative things. This will make your performance that tends to be negative and not positive. This way you will be able to relax and move your energy.

Positive

I am negative. The opposite is both intriguing and useful: in order to overcome the unrestrained internal tension that suppresses your imagination, the best way is usually to resort to the opposite. Since you have conceived a nightmare job, this will just tell you how to design your favorite job! This nightmare job is like a map that will lead you straight to the deepest wishes in your heart. And need. These wishes and needs have been there, but you may not remember now. Let me tell you how to rectify it:

Grab every detail of the nightmare work you envision—work hours, specific activities, environments, colleagues, and even climates—especially including your own feelings—and then turn them upside down. In other words, find something that is the opposite of them.

Know how to do it? Then pick up your pen.

Exercise 3: By the opposite

Write the opposite of a piece of paper on the least disappointing work you have conceived. If you like Louisa, you hate living in a high-rise apartment in the city center, write: "I live in a wonderful country house", or something else that is completely opposite to you; Like Eliot, the most annoying thing is that there is no work break, then you write: "I only work for six months a year." If your least-appreciated job makes you have to stay in a deserted mobile home and keep you away from the crowd, then let yourself be in London or downtown Paris, eat, drink, and dance; if you least work in secret, imagine Out of its own unique work, the job is to design the clothing? In short, it is to design the opposite of all the details you mentioned - so you will see that you are most satisfied with the work The outline has already appeared!

You have already seen that what you do is much better than just venting it. This is similar to rinsing a photo. You have to rush out the film and then print it out, so you can see the positive film opposite the film, so you reveal to yourself the things that are most important to you. In fact, what you sketched shows that you know what you want, you can never realize it before. Whether you start with a positive idea or a negative sketch, you now have a picture of the work in question.

Cheer up for you, go ahead!