Grasp the happiness that you have now

The tragedy of life is not how much suffering people suffer, but what people miss.

Focusing on what we want, not what we already have, is one of the most common and devastating psychological tendencies I have ever seen. It doesn't seem to matter how much we have, and our list of desires continues to expand, making us never satisfied. "This wish is fulfilled, I will be happy." Once this desire is satisfied, the same desire will emerge in the future.

We want this, want that. If we don't get what we want, we will continue to think about things that we don't have yet, and always feel unsatisfied. If we get it, under the new conditions, we will have the same mentality. So, although we got what we thought, it was still unhappy. If we have been eager for new desires, we cannot find happiness.

Fortunately, there is a way to make us happy. That is to change the focus of our thinking, from the desired to the possession. We can try to think about the valuable qualities of a partner, rather than deliberately changing each other. Be grateful to have a job for yourself, not complain that your salary is too low. Think about the fun you get near your home, not the one you want to go to Hawaii for a holiday. Things that can be considered in this way are endless! Whenever you find yourself trapped in the trap of "hoping that life is different," take a step back and rethink. Take a deep breath and think about what you have, so that gratitude will come to life. When you are no longer interested in what you want, but what you have, you end up with more than you want. If you are concerned about the virtues of your partner, you will find that she is more than ever. If you are grateful for your work, not complain, you will do better, work more efficiently, and your salary may increase. If you can enjoy yourself at home instead of waiting to enjoy in Hawaii, you will find more fun. Suppose you really go to Hawaii, of course you will be happier' but if you can't get it because of some accidental factors, you still have to be happy.

Remember to think more about what you have from now on, not what you want. If you do this, your life will be better than before. Perhaps, in your life, you will know the meaning of contentment for the first time.