The road to life is not smooth, but it’s good to go.

My sister's friend came to the house to be a guest, and I kept talking when I knocked on the keyboard. Finally, when I got up and took the water, I said coldly: "Sister, do you know... Is there any shady thing in the online writing platform?"

I was so surprised that I missed the unspoken rules: "I haven’t heard of it. What do you think of the shady scene?

The little girl said with a grin on her face: "We have several classmates who use that platform to say that the homepage review is to see the relationship, you don't know the rejection of the manuscript, you want to go home without a door. Only with the rejection of the manuscript Good relationship, she will push your article, but also give her a red envelope or something. We are rejected every time, but the articles on the homepage are clearly not much better than us, not relying on the relationship depends on?"

"I can't edit only one," I looked at her with a black line. "Do you have so many people on the front page every day, do you rely on relationships? You have to believe that there must be basic professional ethics in editing."

"Sister, how are you simpler than me," she said, the young man who looked at the old man with a little disdain and a little grief, looked at me and handed his mobile phone to me. "Look, There are several people in our group who say this, not me alone."

I quickly sneaked through hundreds of spit and asked: "Do you have any evidence for this speculation? Or is there someone who has succeeded in bribing?"

She looked at me with that kind of gaze and sighed: "I still need evidence? Look at the articles that are not as good as ours, but we have been rejected. Is this not an obvious fact?"

"Don't look at your own article so high, don't look at other people's works so badly," I advised her. "With so much time and energy to go out of nothing, it's better to read more books and ask the editors who refused to edit. Opinion, think about how to improve your own article."

She heard my tone serious, there was nothing to gossip about, so I smiled awkwardly, opened the subject and chilled a few words and got up and left.

My little sister sent the guest back and immediately went down to the sofa: "This is why I don't like to play with her more and more. I complain that the teacher is not fair, complaining that the student election is unfair, and complaining that there is a problem with the scholarship selection. I don't know if it's true or not, I can suppress it if I hear it."

“Before she was the most serious in our dormitory, she was smart and motivated, she was good at learning, her writing was good, or she was a deputy class. Now it’s just like being a personal person. When I see people all over the world, I’m going to have a nap, then I’m going to endless. Complain."

I remember the first time I went to a suburban pasture tour many years ago. From the starting point to the destination, I had to go through a steep and long slope.

At that time, it was still in the early spring, and the bare grasses on the hillside could not cover the squirrel hole in the slopes. The three of us walked and spit in the sun, the new shoes were filled with sand, the jeans that had just been washed were stained with dirt, and if we accidentally we stepped on the stone or stepped into the voles and smashed our feet.

The leading lord silently listened to us complaining. When someone screamed in the hole, he said, "Children, don't look at the road, look at the road. The more you stare at the unevenness under your feet, The worse it is."

We will be suspicious, and the battle will be looked up at the slope. When the attention leaves the mud and the voles in the foot, the two-thirds of the road is left, and it is really miraculous to go a lot.

Life is not the case. Complaining and suspicion are really things that are difficult to stop once they start. Whenever you are powerless or unintentional to resist the pressure of reality, complaining about this behavior can make it easy for you to transfer pressure from yourself to others.

It is bad for others, it is not good for parents, it is bad for society, and the environment is not good. And you have nothing wrong with it, but it is powerless to go back to heaven. It allows you to blame it for your exhaustion, loss and helplessness, and to give birth to a wonderful and false sense of superiority.

The reason why the complaint is terrible is not because it is a kind of negative energy, but more importantly, it will distract your focus, waste your energy, let you no longer believe in your own ability, let you stop growing, Losing interest and curiosity about most things, focusing only on picking up other people's problems and finding out what is wrong.

It makes you feel deeply weak and will erase all the efforts you want to change. Over time, it will turn you into a burnout and cynical monster, huddled in his own shell, blaming the world.

After my girlfriend Jasmine was promoted, when she had a meal, she smiled and said: "I know what it means to be a step by step. After a bunch of people who are ready to pick your thorns, I am really afraid to make a mistake."

The place where she is now working is the company opened by her uncle. Although she is very low-key and insists on starting from the bottom, there are still many good people who know the fact that she is related to the boss. So the wind said, she said that she climbed the branch, saying that she had nothing to do with the skirt, saying that she is an embroidered pillow-like "rich second generation."

"They said that I depend on relationships, but please, our department is customer-oriented and not for the company. I am relying on relationships, and I can't rely on customers." Jasmine has been crying for countless times.

"When I worked overtime, they all went home to rest; I was on a business trip for a month, when they ran a lot, they all aired in the office; when I stayed up late, they were at the drama party. Dreaming. But some people just can't see your efforts, you get a little result, they will say, it's because you rely on relationships. Every day, the ghost is staring at you, waiting to see when you make a mistake. ”

Jasmine spent a year in management and finally decided to jump to a better platform to work. After she left, the new manager promoted by the company was actually a little girl who had been employed for two years.

"I knew it would be like this," Jasmine said. "The minds of other people are not at work. They are perfunctory things every day. They are picking up my thorns and picking up the irration of the company. How can such a person be promoted? Only the little girl is as always. Seriously doing things, her current level, even if she jumped out of the box, it should be no problem."

When a person pays too much attention to others, they lose themselves. People who are biased can't see the merits of others, and they lose the opportunity to learn from each other.

They used blame and suspicion to dig a big pit on their own life path, and they refused to move forward in the comfort of the pit. Just rely on the shadow of the passers-by to bite and pull for a living, let yourself face thin and thin, let yourself be full of grievances.

Your life is still so long, don't look flat, you have to look at the road.