"Being the best parents" after reading

During the holidays, I read the book "Being the Best Parent" by the famous educator Li Zhenxi. At the beginning, I took the task to read. Because the school had requirements, the children recommended the parents to read the book when they opened the parent conference. Later, they picked up the book, but they couldn’t let it go. Read article.

Like many parents, I share a common doubt: "My children are very ordinary, very general, how to teach?" The famous educator Li Zhenxi believes that every child can be a talent! Li Zhenxi's education is magical. He has been a class teacher for a long time. He is very familiar with the child's psychological characteristics and growth rules. He has long-term thinking, exploration and wisdom on the difficulties and priorities of youth education. This is reflected in the author's effective parent education. . This is a unique parenting education monograph. The author elaborates on all aspects of parent-child education by educating his daughter as a case: the cultivation of good habits in the early childhood education stage, the shaping of good personality, the guidance of adolescent education, the method of learning, the practice of strong will, and the “generation gap” The transcendence, the cultivation of reading habits, the edification of traditional culture, the expansion of broad-mindedness, and the care of the senior sprint stage provide a rich case and specific mode of operation for the tutors of children at all stages. The author's daughter is a very ordinary girl. Many distresses and frustrations between father and daughter are universal. The author and daughter work together to overcome one difficulty and one difficulty in the growth path to form a good tutor model worth learning. Many practices have collided with my thoughts and resonated.

The first parent is also a lifelong educator.

Our dual status is parents and teachers, and I have the deepest experience. Most parents give their children to the teacher and everything is fine. The education of the children is completely pushed to the teacher, Cheng also teacher, defeat teacher. . We also give it to our teachers and we can rest assured that as long as it is for the sake of children, it is necessary to fight casually, never to protect, and absolutely support. I have seen too many parents like this. I think that I have joined these parents since I started school, but I am not aware of it. I often sigh: I can educate other children, but I can’t do anything about my children. After reading this book, I am shirking responsibility. Parents need to raise children, not only to raise children, but also to raise children. Not only do you have to eat and drink, but how to grow. Parenting begins with the child’s first cry, and we become the child’s first teacher, the Enlightenment Teacher, who educates the child every moment of our lives. How to dress, how to talk to others, how to talk about other people's affairs, how to express joy and unhappiness, how to treat friends and enemies, how to express pain and anger... affecting the growth of children in a subtle way, unwittingly serving as an educator Identity, go with the child and grow with the child. Don't give up halfway. When the child goes to school, the education task is completely handed over to the teacher. The child is not a baton, but a stone that needs to be carved. It requires the hard work of the craftsman. It requires the master's fulcrum and excavation to achieve a stunning work. Parents are lifelong teachers of children.

The second is to develop good habits.

Sowing behavior, harvesting habits; sowing habits, harvesting character; sowing character, harvesting fate. Habit is the foundation of life and the source of virtue. Let the child develop a good habit, let the child have a sound personality, and give the child a happy life. Behavioral habits are not only about learning, but also about people's behavioral habits. Teacher Li's training of children's behavioral habits is almost perfect. They discuss with the children to formulate learning and living routines, and the good habits they hope to develop include them. Working with children to turn routine into action and stick to it. Compared with Teacher Li, my parents are embarrassed. Many behavioral habits of children need to be improved. Children are dragging their feet, especially when time is abundance. The homework of the most outstanding holiday is not in a hurry until the last moment. The use of our teasing is good psychological quality. After reading this book, I suddenly became more open and motivated. Let children establish the concept of time urgency, clear tasks, reduce hesitation, formulate daily learning time and study task schedules, often do the same thing in a fixed time, and form conditioned reflexes over time. When you study, concentrate on your work and do your best. That is, it is required to complete the learning task that should be completed within a limited time. When a child is doing homework, there is always an error in the calculation of the question, and the basic and high-level questions can be answered. Originally, I always thought that the child was sloppy, forgive me, and read this book. I don’t think so. I would also like to learn from Mr. Li’s approach: do the wrong question and redo the 5 times of this type of question, and return the carelessness to the wrong question. Class analysis, then intensive training; training the habit of quick one-time confrontation, not endlessly checking, trying to be right; then preparing a wrong book, recording the usual wrong questions, constantly pondering, deepening the impression, helping to overcome error. Children's reading habits like to be strengthened. The child's reading habits are being developed. Although I am like Li, I create a family reading atmosphere, read a good book with my children, play together, and walk into classical poetry, but the child does not seem to realize the benefits of reading. The pleasure of not acquiring knowledge from the book may be directly and easily influenced by the knowledge gained by the external visual media, so the child's interest in reading has been in the bud, and there is no rapid growth. My child's reading habits still require my long-term unremitting efforts, and I must persist. Other habits such as loving labor habits and writing habits have been basically developed. When I am not at home, I can cook myself, such as fried eggs, fried rice, and instant noodles. Wash your own socks. I cleaned up the table after eating every day; now I practice writing 2 pages a day... I look forward to the child’s habits, good character, and good fate.

The third is to be the best of yourself.

"Being the best self" emphasizes that you are better than yourself - yesterday's self and today's self, constantly surpassing yourself.

Some parents are always dissatisfied with their children's achievements. This is because in their hearts, they always regard their children as geniuses and not treat them as ordinary people. It is a genius, and every exam should be a perfect score, so parents always express disappointment with their children. A person should not simply compare with others, but should compare with himself. I used yesterday's comparison with today's me to see if there is progress. Don't be too demanding on your own children. Many external factors and internal factors such as heredity and environment are doomed to the difference in the growth of children. I am born to be useful. As long as you are in the same field, you will progress day by day. If you continue, you are the best. Yourself.

The same is true for teachers, in their own jobs, dedication and due diligence. "The best self" is close to the child with a childlike heart in front of the three-footed podium, and keeps a common hobby with the students. Pouring children with a love, teachers and students are attached to each other. Light a child with a sense of responsibility, grow with the child, and cultivate a modern citizen for the Republic! Do not pursue the name, not profit. Excellent, advanced is good, you do your own best.

Looking back at the philosopher's words again, I think that the avenue is conspicuous, but the path also has its own flavor of the path; although the sun is sung by people, it is concerned, but which star is not the "sun"? It's just that it's too far away from us, but in fact it may be bigger and brighter than the sun.

In short, everyone has a place that suits you. We don't have to pursue those dreams that are out of reach. Just make a real, best one, you can, right?

As a parent, I read this book and gained a lot of more scientific educational concepts and educational methods. As a teacher, I read this book. If I get the treasure, the window of my heart is open. This book has been placed on my bedside, I will read it again in my spare time, in comprehension, in taste. Growing up with children is my way forward.