Learn to accept your own strengths

Jews often encourage themselves with such a sentence. The greatest weakness of mankind is self-deprecation, that is, selling themselves cheaply. This problem is shown in countless ways. For example, John saw a job he liked in the newspaper, but he did not take action because he thought: "I am afraid that my ability is not enough, why bother asking for trouble!"

For thousands of years, many philosophers have advised us to know ourselves. However, most people interpret it as “only knowing your negative side”, and most self-assessments include too many shortcomings, errors and incompetences. It is good to know your own shortcomings, and you can seek improvement. But if you only know your negative side, you will fall into chaos and make yourself worthless. To know yourself correctly and comprehensively, never look down on yourself. Words are like a projector that projects your mind's thoughts, and the images it displays determine how you and others react to you. For example, you said to a group of people: "Unfortunately, we have failed." What pictures will they see? They will really see the blows, disappointments and sorrows conveyed by the word "failure." But if you say, "I believe this new project will succeed." They will be excited and ready to try again. If you say, "This will cost a lot of money." What people see is that money can't go back. Conversely: "We have made a lot of investment." People will see profits coming in, very happy pictures. Successful Jews summed up the four self-regulation methods they used:

Describe your feelings with great, positive, and enjoyable sentences. When someone asks you: "How do you feel today?" If you answer, "I am very tired," others will feel bad. You have to practice doing the following, it is very simple, but it has incomparable power. When someone asks, "How are you?" or "How do you feel today?", you have to answer: "Great, thank you, what about you?" At every moment you say that you are very happy, you will really feel Merry, and, this will make you more weighty and win more friends for you.

Describe others with clear, cheerful, and favorable words. When you talk to someone about a third person, you should praise him with constructive words, such as: "He is a very good person." or "They told me that he did a great job." Be careful to avoid saying Destructive words. Because the third party will eventually know your criticism, and the result will in turn hit you.

To encourage others with positive words, just praise people if you have the opportunity. Everyone is eager to be praised, so every day I have to say something to your wife or husband. Be careful and praise the partners who work with you. Sincere praise is a tool for success, and it must be used constantly.

Use positive words to present your plan to others. When people hear something like "This is a good message, we have a great opportunity," the heart will naturally raise hope. But when they hear "Whether we like it or not, we all have to do this work," their hearts will feel dull and bored, and their actions will be affected. Therefore, in order to let people see the hope of success, they can win the support of others. To build a castle, don't dig a grave. To see the future development, don't just look at the status quo.

This self-imposed approach of the Jews has a huge effect. Because you are better than you think, do you know your own strengths? The so-called advantage is any talent, ability, skill and personality trait you can use. These advantages are the factors that enable you to contribute and continue to grow. However, everyone always feels that their advantages are not right, and they will not be too modest. In fact, he does have some advantages in some respects but denies it. This practice is neither human nor honest. It also shows that you are dishonest. Affirming that one's strengths are not bragging, on the contrary, this is an honest performance. What are your advantages? Are you clear? Do you know all the advantages of yourself? Can you tell these advantages? When others ask them what advantages they have, they may say, "I don't know, but I think I have some advantages"; but when others ask them what advantages they have, they quickly list one Big pile. Most people have been taught a concept: it is wrong to say what advantages they have, and what are the shortcomings of their own is absolutely appropriate. I hope that you can really understand what advantages you have, because you must make good use of your strengths in order to succeed.

For example, if someone says that your food is burning well, maybe you will say, "Where, where, in fact, it is not well burned." Or: "This is not a special talent." But the dish is burning. Well, it is definitely a special talent. It takes quite a few conditions for a dish to burn well: to be creative, to have time to master, and to have organizational skills. The cooking of the dishes is also closely related to the happiness and happiness of others. If someone tells you: "You can talk on the phone." You might say: - It is easy to talk by phone, which is nothing remarkable. However, you have to know that many people find it difficult to talk on the phone, so it is a great advantage to make a phone call. Of course, finding your own strengths is not easy.

A famous saying by the Jews in the mall is that you should never be praising others, and don't forget to praise yourself. Sometimes, we are inevitably afraid to express our feelings. If you don't have the habit of appreciating each other in your home, don't be discouraged. You can still change this situation. It may not be possible to change at a time, but as long as you patiently practice and experiment, success will definitely belong to you.

There is a saying that says: "When others mention your strengths, don't say: 'You haven't really understood me yet. 'Please be sure to accept your own strengths." So you must take some time to put your own advantages. Make clear, and continue to discover more advantages and develop new advantages. Don't just use 1/10 of your potential. You often hear people say, "He is really ruining his talent!" What about yourself? In order to make yourself more mature, you should consistently develop your own strengths. Therefore, you should always seize the opportunity to engage in a considerable degree of risk. For example, if you are not sure if you can play tennis, but you don't have the opportunity to go to the court, pick up the beat and play in the field, how can you know if you have the potential to play tennis? Of course, going to the court is quite adventurous - can you play, when you get to the court, you can, can't just can't. But don't, how can you find out that you really have the talent to play tennis? If you really find that you have the potential to play, and you also like to play tennis, then you can start practicing, and soon, the potential becomes your advantage. You may become a tennis player, then you have one more advantage. In short, you must try your best to seize every opportunity to develop your potential, which will increase your strengths and develop your talents.