Your extravagance is worthy of your ability

Once, I had a god-like nanny who had an unparalleled status in my family.

She only drinks the black tea she brings; she has to sleep on a hard bed, and the soft Simmons is impossible, because she is worried about hunchback; she must eat scallions made with soda ash instead of baking powder every morning; she is every week. I must rest for the day; she also strictly controls my diet, and I have to check it out at home.

A few days before Christmas, I was going to attend the year-end party of my girlfriend. I was so upset for a while before I made up my mind not to tell her and sneak out. When I painted a beautiful little smoke, wearing a blingbling mini dress, swaying the little high heels, and the cat was on the waist, trying to escape her torch-like gaze, a faint voice sounded behind her:

"Xiao Li, where are you going? At 3 o'clock in the afternoon, our home economics association holds the annual general meeting. I want to speak on behalf of the governors. You have to stay at home to look after your baby."

Yes, I decisively washed the small smoke, took off the little dress, put back the little high heel, quietly guarded my little baby, and completed the meeting report of the god-level aunt.

Why do you have to bear it?

Because at that time, my baby was just born, every little child came to this world, and he would not bring his own instructions. In the face of this little man with a crooked leg, the whole family is guilty, and I have to continue working. Only she can get everything done.

Ignore her temper, she is the best nanny I have ever seen - she can afford the word "excellence".

The child is completely a little trick in her hand. In addition to all the basic skills of taking the child, she will touch the massage, and she will cure the disease. When the baby arrives, she will wake up and eat. If she doesn’t cry, she will be in a good mood. She is a This encyclopedia about children. In addition, she personally gave me a solid yuan paste, taught me the knowledge of Chinese medicine, understood all the tips in life, washing and unloading curtains, tidying up, ironing clothes, cooking, cooking, reading newspapers, except for English, her Skills and standards are simply international.

Her ability can withstand her temper, so I am willing to admire and endure.

Today, she talked about her long absence because I received a question. Some sisters asked me: "How can you live better?" For example, let the boss give me a promotion and find a decent income and a heart. Man, have a group of desirable friends?"

The expectation of the sister is not low, it is a home run about life, so I thought of a god-level nanny who once had a high demand.

One person, when the TA asks for life, life will also make a reverse request to the TA. Therefore, the more realistic approach is to first measure how much skill you have to meet the requirements of life and to see if your ability and desire match. Then give the answer to the question.

Being awake and objectively understanding yourself is an extremely difficult and painful process.

Whenever I look in the mirror at home, I often feel that my skin is black and white, and all kinds of beauty are calm and temperament. However, when I left the door, I even found that I was inadvertently swept through some reflective glass doors, only to find that the figure was not bumpy, the hair was fluffy, the face was shiny, and the expression was awesome. In normal times, I live in the world of Mito Xiuxiu. I know the secret to making myself beautiful:

Make-up has three treasures, BB cream, eyeliner, concealer;

The camera has three treasures, bow, half, and hands on the hips;

PS has three treasures, repair, liquefaction, tone.

Many people in this world, including me, knowing about themselves, intentionally or unintentionally stay in the world of PS, automatically select the most perfect angle to observe themselves.

TAs are afraid to admit that they are unable to reach the height of their dreams because they are not working hard enough. TAs refuse to understand that they are not good enough to attract the love of the goddess and the goddess; the TAs refuse to see their own personality. Defects, stubbornly believe that everything that is currently adhered to is incomparably correct; TAs abandon the good faith advice of the loyal words, and feel that the truth that is not heard is a blow to envy and hate.

In short, the TAs consciously deny the truth given by life, preferring to see their ability and ability to be beautified after the PS through the Mito Xiuxiu, and then denounce the world for being too unpreferential to themselves.

The cruelty of life is that after trying hard, I admit that I am nothing but an ordinary person. Some grand blueprints will never take root in the territory of my life.

Being able to face the smallness of the self, admitting that one's ability is not enough, and being willing to lower the goal to a viable level is courage and wisdom.

My friend Gao said: "There are a lot of women who work hard in the world, but some people are admirable, some are distressing. The former is elegant and the latter is tragic. Some women, no matter how to create excitement, It’s hard to hide the collapse of the heart. It’s a technical job. It’s too hard to get out of shape. You’re so confused because your talents don’t match your dreams, and it’s hard to live because of your ability and The wishes don't match."

This is what I took for a long time in the early morning, and I found out from her WeChat.

Going back to today's question, how can I get a beautiful life? How can I have a good career, a good man, a good friend?

First look at the cards in your hands, measure the price you can pay, calculate the hard work you have to put, and then set a goal that you can achieve.

As a member of the thousands of ordinary people, we need to accept the fact that even if you are diligent, Bill. Gates has only one; even if he is deep, Brad. Pete's wife can only be Angelina. Julie; Even if I am close to my heart, the friendship between Marx and Engels can be met.

Everything we get today is the result of the final negotiation and compromise of desire and ability.

Remember the fisherman's old woman in the story of "Fisherman and Goldfish"? She wants money, wants a big house, wants jewelry, wants a servant, wants to be a queen, but in the end, she has nothing - because her luxury looks far beyond her The ability.

When ability and desire match, all expectations are legitimate needs; when ability is less than desire, all requirements become greedy delusions.

The difference between hard work and hard work is that the former is facing the dream that is readily available, and the latter is looking forward to the distant hope. Although the former is hard, it is happy; even if the latter is lively, it will inevitably lead to cold weather.

I and my god-level nanny are finally inevitably different.

After my wallet can't keep up with her salary growth requirements, I am separated from her heartache. The heavy feeling is like being beaten by people. I know deeply that I don't have the ability to continue to have her, my ability and my The wishes no longer match and had to give up.

I am looking for a big sister with a monthly salary of RMB2500. When she took the children, she couldn't care about cooking. When she made the meal, she couldn't have time to wash her clothes. She couldn't read the book and couldn't read the newspaper. Her name was also written and twisted.

However, she only takes a day off every two weeks. Every time she rests, her husband comes to my house and happily picks up her hand and walks home. As long as I have a job, she has no complaints to adjust her rest time. I am sick, and she is really telling me to pour water to buy a dose of body temperature.

I like her, she is the one who matches me.

And the one in front, I climbed high, so I should be tired.