You can regret it, but you can't stop chasing it.

Occasionally I heard a conversation between two company employees in the elevator. A complained to B about her dissatisfaction with the status quo of her work. Although the salary is good, but 365 days are doing the same thing, can not learn other knowledge. A also said that he wants to change a new environment and change his job.

Today, I met A again downstairs. This encounter has been more than three months since the last meeting. Unfortunately, her brows are wrinkled, and it seems that the situation is still not very good. At this moment, I have a question in my mind - how is she still working here?

Many people will encounter situations like A. Especially in a career, it is not surprising. At work, more or less revealing dissatisfaction with the status quo is actually a good thing! On the one hand, you should be strong, know how to progress, and hope to improve your life through hard work. On the other hand, it shows that you know how to vent your negative emotions. It is very beneficial to release the inner doubts and anxieties that are often talked to the family or actively. At the same time, you can also find out the doubts in the feedback and appease the negative emotions triggered by anxiety. But after we vent our dissatisfaction, if we do not take any decisive action to solve the problem, then the negative sentiment that affects us still exists. As time goes by, the situation will intensify.

So, one day in a certain month of the year, you no longer complain - you start to regret. Only one thought per day is infinitely circulating in my head for 24 hours - if I didn't make this decision at the beginning, if I didn't hire this company at the beginning, if I didn't do it at the beginning... Of course, you made a decision without thinking, you thought This decision will not have any effect; or you have thought through it, you think it is very wise - after your "thinking" is counterproductive, you repent, you hope that time can go backwards, you can't wait for yourself to correct yourself through time and space. Negligence. Then the question is coming, is this necessary?

Human cognition of the two concepts of "right" and "wrong" has gradually formed in the initial stage of the process. When the baby is learning to crawl, because he does not have the ability to distinguish dangers, he can only rely on the expression of his parents. If the expression of the parents is happy, then he will boldly climb forward. If the expression of the parents is serious, maybe he will change direction. For another example, if the baby does something that his parents think is wrong, then he will be punished. On the contrary, if you do the right thing, then he will be praised. When we grow up, we reject everything that is equated with "wrong" without hesitation, and make unremitting efforts for what we consider to be "right".

Regret is one of the equivalents of "wrong". The ending of the story is not to be foreseen - we begin to hate, exhaust, anger, repentance. The ending of the story is not just one! Because we did something wrong, because of the mistakes of choice, because of other factors, our resume has added a fortune - from that day on, we grew up and matured. In the same way, from that day on, we learned to see an imperfect self in the mirror, how much!

Everyone is coming to Earth for the first time. Every day, we learn how to communicate, learn how to acquire, and learn all the skills that human beings must have. These are the “first time” we have experienced, even parents! The child has just been born, we have no experience how to be a competent parent. However, we know how to translate responsibility into the love and care that children need – why we blame such a good self! We should learn to be tolerant of ourselves! We should know not to regret "repent", it is better to go to your dissatisfaction!

WillSmith in "When Happiness Comes Knocking" never stops pursuing the happiness of being a son and a son. However, he also thought that he could make a fortune when he was young and could sell a expensive and impractical medical device. He must have regretted the night when his son was curled up in the MRT public toilet.

Perhaps one day, I met again with A. Do not! I hope that I will never meet her again.

Don't complain, don't regret, look for opportunities to change, chase your happiness.