What determines your future

To do good things, you must first have a deep understanding of yourself, know your strengths and weaknesses, know how you learn new things and work with others, and understand what your values ​​are and where you can make them. The biggest contribution. Because only when all the work is focused on your own strengths, can you truly achieve excellence.

What is my strength is that I don’t know what I am good at, rather than knowing what I am not good at. There is no need for the former people to understand their strengths, because the origin of a person determines the status and career of his life. But now people have a choice. We need to know our own strengths in order to know ourselves. The only way to discover your strengths is to give back the analysis. Whenever important decisions are made or important actions are taken, you can record your expectations of the results in advance. After 9 to 12 months, compare the actual results with your expectations. By consistently using this simple method, you can discover your strengths in a short period of time. At the same time, you can also find out which things make your strengths unable to play out and which aspects are not good at all. According to the feedback of feedback analysis, it is necessary to take actions in several aspects. First, focus on your strengths. Put yourself in places where you can take advantage of your strengths. Second, strengthen your strengths. Improve your skills or learn new skills. Third, find any prejudice and ignorance caused by arrogance and overcome it. Fourth, correct your bad habits. What is the way I work? The first thing to understand is whether you are a reader or a listener. Most people are unaware of this difference and have caused great harm to their lives.

Dwight Eisenhower has been the darling of the news media when he served as the supreme commander of the European Allies. No matter what questions the reporter asks, he can answer the questions. Ten years later, he became president, but the same group of journalists who admired him that year publicly despised him. They complained that he never answered questions positively, but he kept humming other things.

Eisenhow obviously does not know that he is a reader, not a listener. When he was the supreme commander of the European Allies, his assistants ensured that every question raised by the media was submitted in writing half an hour before the press conference began. In this way, he fully grasped the questions raised by the reporter. When he became president, he even did not even hear what reporters were asking.

A few years later, Linden Jensen screwed up his presidency, largely because he didn't know he was a listener. His predecessor, John Kennedy, was a reader-type person who had collected some excellent pens as his assistants. Jensen left these people after taking office, but he couldn't understand what these pens wrote.

There are not a few listeners who can work hard to become qualified readers – whether active or passive, and vice versa. Therefore, those who try to change from listener type to reader type will suffer the fate of Linden Jensen, and those who try to change from reader to listener will suffer the fate of Dwight Eisenhower. They are all impossible to play their talents or achieve success. How do I learn that all schools follow this way of thinking: there is only one correct way to learn, and everyone has to follow. However, for students whose learning style is not the same as others, it is hell to be forced to learn according to the way the school teaches. In fact, there are probably six or seven different ways of learning.

Some people rely on writing to learn, some people learn in practice, and others learn with detailed notes. For example, Beethoven left a lot of essays, but he never looked at it when he composed. When asked why he still had to take notes, he replied: "If I don't write it down, I will soon forget it. If I write them on a small book, I will always be I won't forget it, and I don't have to look at it again."

Among all the most important self-awareness, the easiest thing to do is to know how you learn. When asked, "How do you learn?" Most people know the answer. But when asked: "Do you adjust your behavior based on this understanding?" No few people answered "yes".

We must be clear about ourselves: Do I perform well under pressure, or adapt to a step-by-step, predictable work environment? Am I better suited as a decision maker or as a consultant?

Some people work best as team members. Others work best alone. Some people are particularly talented as coaches and mentors, while others are incapable of being mentor. To be clear about yourself, you can better work with others and clearly define your direction in your studies.

No matter what, don't try to change yourself, because it's unlikely to succeed. However, efforts should be made to improve the way they learn and the way they work. What is my value?

To self-manage, the last question I have to ask is: What are my values?

The ethics we follow requires us to ask ourselves: What kind of person do I want to see in the mirror every morning? Is it ethical behavior in one organization or situation, and in another organization or in another situation? Moral? If an organization's value system is not acceptable to itself or incompatible with its own values, people will feel frustrated and inefficient.

There is very little conflict between the way a person works and his strengths. However, a person's values ​​sometimes conflict with his strengths. A person who does a good job can even be said to be a fairly good and quite successful thing, which may not match his value system. In this case, the work done by this person does not seem to be worth the effort to contribute to life, or even to contribute too much energy. Responsibility for interpersonal relationships is first and foremost the fact that others are individuals who are just like you. They will insist on showing their personality as a person. Therefore, in order to be effective, you must know the characteristics of the co-workers. This makes it easy to understand, but few people really pay attention.

A person accustomed to writing a report is a typical example, because his boss is a reader-type person, and even if the next boss is a listener type, he will continue to write those reports. The boss therefore thinks this employee is stupid, incompetent and lazy. But if the employee has studied the situation of the new boss beforehand and analyzed the way the boss works, this situation could have been avoided.

This is the secret of "managing" the boss. Everyone has the right to work the way they want. The first secret to improving efficiency is to understand the people who work with you to take advantage of their strengths, work styles and values. The second part of interpersonal responsibility is communication responsibility. Most of the conflicts are because we don't know what others are doing, and what kind of work they do, focusing on what kind of contribution they make and what they expect. The reason I don't understand is that we didn't ask.

People trust each other and don't necessarily like each other, but they must understand each other. The challenges in self-management seem obvious, and the answer is self-evident. However, self-management requires individuals to do things they have never done before. Every society in history, even individualism

Individualism Seeing more individualism refers to a loosely integrated social structure in which everyone cares only about their own or immediate family members. The most inclined society considers two things to be taken for granted: first, organization Longer than employees; second, most people never move.

Today, the opposite is true. The life span of workers exceeds the life of the organization, and they come and go. Thus, the need for self-management has revolutionized human affairs.