No useless things, only unintentional people

This is me, 30 years old, today's values: life is not easy. We are only suffering in different places, different fields, and for different goals.

-1- You are the one who came out of the town. One day I saw an advertisement for real estate: "I would rather have a bed in the city, not a small town."

The heart suddenly tangled. In this city, “I feel that I have no friends, except colleagues who are not salty or not, but I don’t have any friends. So I’m a “lost, have a sense of return”, I want to go back to a small city and be a small business. Raise the dog to raise some flowers to raise a child. So ask me -

Want to go home, is it fallen?

The fall is not so serious, it is only obvious that you can't adapt to urban life and want to choose another lifestyle and values.

The key issue is that you seem to simply and rudely equate your lifestyle and values. In your subconscious, you think big city = boring, small city = ease. You think that as long as you return to a small city, you can complete your inner expectation, just like coloring the Secret Garden with colored pencils.

When most of us are very young, the biggest misunderstanding of life is that we can reduce our desire to reduce our efforts.

We thought that if we were tired of taking 10,000 monthly salary in the city, we didn't want to fight it; so we went back to the small city to find a job with a monthly salary of 2000, and we only need to pay 20 points.

Slowly you will find that this account seems a bit wrong. You seem to take the initiative to shrink your salary by 80%, from a monthly salary of 10,000 to 2000; but you find that the level of hardship is still maintained at 80 points, not your dream of 20 points. In addition, you want to take 80 points to raise flowers and raise children to make a child.

For this 2000, you still need to pay 80 points of energy -

You still need to go nine to five. Even, you can't find a company that manages formality. The local boss will put your own nephew sitting across your office, and then she will get paid and work.

At this time, you discovered. Before the age of 40, I talked to myself about the years, and I was arrogant about myself.

-2- You will realize more:

If you want to be a small business, you can do it in the city. You don't have to go home to do it.

If you want to raise flowers, you can raise them in the city. You don't have to go home to raise them.

If you want to raise a dog, you can also raise it in the city. You don't have to go home to raise it.

why? If you have a relatively equal opportunity, a relatively transparent competition, a harvest, a gathering of all kinds of human beings, a more inclusive, and no family-linked city, you can't get a poetic life. You actually Dreaming of going back to a three-step road will meet acquaintances. If you are not married at the age of 25, you will be given instructions. The values ​​of marriage and love will remain in the place where you live in the third and fourth linings before liberation, and realize your free pastoral dream.

Is it too ridiculous?

But the only thing you think about is that it is in place: after a while, when you return home, you will have a child and walk for three years.

why? Because, the greatest value of a woman in a small town today is still married and have children. If you don't want to, you have to prove that you are worth more than breeding, and this effort is no less than living in the city.

-3-If you don't have the ability to prove it, you will quickly embark on the path of married people in the regular mode. Because this is a woman who should live in a small city. You have to do something to prove that you are alive.

Don't underestimate the eroding power of your living environment.

When you hold your child late at night, you will start thinking about your value, your choice.

How do I know? Because, I am the person who returned to Changsha from Shenzhen. I was the little fool who thought that if only 20% of the desire was needed, it would only cost 20% of the effort.

Fortunately, when I realized this, I began to be responsible for my personal life in Changsha. In recent years, my contribution, my loss, my entanglement, my courage, are true and reliable. I decided to pay, maybe not less than those in Shenzhen.

A woman, remember: when she chooses to live in a small city, the difference is just to replace the place of hard work, instead of throwing away the word effort. If you dream of a paradise, it is even more dangerous.

Yesterday and the old girlfriend, discuss her title. There is a bitter word inside. She said that she is a little afraid that readers will feel too pessimistic, but we already know that bitterness and loneliness are the normal state of life. This is not pessimism, but letting go.

This is me, 30 years old, today's values: life is not easy. We are only suffering in different places, different fields, and for different goals.

And the most helpless thing is that bitterness is just like bitter gourd. You are used to eating and eating, and even love to eat. If you have been escaping, not eating and drinking, you will always feel it is difficult.

Choosing to suffer is also a value. Values ​​are a very strange thing. It doesn't matter if you eat and drink Lazar, it doesn't matter; but one day, you will find that all your happiness, interpersonal relationships, and choices you make are related to it.

Whether you choose a big city or a small city, it is better to say that you are in the evaluation period of values.

Girl, when you are about to wake up in the morning, half-dream, half-awake, put your left hand on your chest, deep suck, seriously ask yourself a few questions - this time, is the moment you and the heart are connected, you want What, what are you afraid of, what are you fearing, what are you escaping?

You only have to face those fears, fears, and escapes to understand whether you really want to go back. Where to go, the place of peace of mind is not necessarily a hometown.

The strangest person you are is actually yourself. You know that you are harder than knowing anyone, struggle and embarrassment, light and darkness, all of your coexistence, courage and escape. Sometimes, the shares they share in your heart are only 49% and 51% different. With this 2%, you find that it takes a few years to identify; this 2% determines your truest ideas.

When you understand this 2%, you will grow your wisdom, and you will know what your experience is.

I will see the life of each of us, in fact, it is a real estate that I created for myself. What outsiders see is always the "Glory of the Great Market, the masterpiece of the world, the life of Taoyuan" that we draw on the billboards, but we ourselves know that we are our own property. What we have to face is the embarrassment of not being able to collect management fees. In the leaking external wall, the neighbors who complain in 24 hours, the interpersonal relationships that need to be maintained all the year round, need to kill insects and ants, and they are very busy.

No matter where you build it, you can't escape it and you can't hide it.

In this life, we must face a lot of boring and lonely, in order to exchange for peace. In "Alice in Wonderland", the Queen of Reds has a saying: You have to run all the way to stay in place.