How many detours we have to go before we can return to where we left off

This spring is a bit long, always hot for a while, seeing the summer is coming, a storm will flash back to the feeling of the early spring, the hurricane is cold and rain.

Then, he was dragged by several colleagues in the past, drinking tea, rock tea, Zen environment, rain outside the window, pot on the stage, pots of cast iron, and slanting on the oblique case. It was also a year that I hadn't seen it. When I saw it, it was nothing to be unfamiliar, the moment was lively, and the tea was warm.

Then, there are some embarrassment. First, everyone seems to have returned to the state of working together in an instant. Individuals play their respective roles and personalities, and re-enact the original character and way of getting along. And when the tea is light and fresh, it suddenly feels cold and smothered, and the stomach is also searched for by the air, and it keeps protesting.

Occasionally, I was not very comfortable in a similar flashback. It seemed that at that moment, after a big lap, I returned to the plausible starting point. Therefore, when talking and laughing, I always ask the current changes and developments deliberately, and intentionally or unintentionally circumvent the old days and the people who used to.

Generally speaking, I am a savvy, always saying: You can think about it before you choose, and don't hesitate in the process. As a result, some decisions appeared to be abrupt and decisive when looking back. In fact, everyone's life experience, only to see the beginning and end, always seems incredible, but really want to go to the end, but it seems chaotic, no purpose. Reality is always romantic and unrelenting, but it does not mean that we must face despair, because there is also a state of ambiguity called "苟." Therefore, most of the time, we feel that we are very embarrassed and disappointed, and then numb, and then do not know why we live, and then fantasize or grieve the starting point and the dreams that once existed.

We are over-excited, we begin to numb, and repeatedly pursue more stimulation. Our life is not too boring, it is too boring, boring may bring thinking, we only need to accept now. Suddenly, there is a day, a moment, you start to ask where your starting point is, are you stepping from the starting point to the destination, or are you going around and forgetting where you are?

People always hope that the journey of life will be easier and easier. The dream will make you easy and brave, but there is no light load on the road, and one or two bags of luggage are thousands of miles away. You know that you can give up, you know what you will get, so there is no hope, the most useless at the moment, you choose to throw away is the most appropriate. This is in line with "broken off" and "scientificism", and even conforms to "simple life, serious love." So, forget the starting point, throw away the dream, referred to as "put down the burden, throw away the fantasy, start the machine."

But the people who are tossing, but the rest are all thinking, and they want to return to the starting point. We always feel that we have been killed, whether it is the original dream or the distance in today's thoughts. The mood is so simple that there is only joy and sorrow, but today there is only sadness and fear left behind. "Happiness" has become a coincidence and fleeting. "Anger" has become the exclusive possession of powerful people. "Sorrow" is always feeling that you are not living what you want. "Fear" is not only not far away but even today. difficult.

We only have the place to think of tomorrow, but we never know why it will come today. Whether it is facing the past, the present, the future, not only do we look blank, but our memories are also blank. Then there is a black wind high night, and between the rumors, I suddenly realized, where is my starting point, what is it?

How many detours do we have to go before we can return to where we left off?

Identify the simplest goals. A friend said, I want to be a "team with strong team learning ability, high executive force, competitive industry and advanced model". I said, "Speaking people, it’s simple." He said, "You can continue to make money stably." enterprise". We always romanticize our goal, and give it to the most famous name. As a result, you don't focus on where you should be when you start. From the beginning, it runs counter to the purpose. All the detours are just for a day when you repent. For example, life is nothing more than a happy life. Who are you unhappy?

Dreams are used to achieve, not to fantasize or to prove how unbearable you are now. Our dreams are always incompatible with reality, and most of the time is just to prove the darkness of society and the helplessness of reality. The most unnecessary thing for any dream is to hold on to you. If you want a big house, you will have less leisure. If you want more leisure, then you will live in a dwelling place. All the rich second generation has fallen, and you can't be a rich man. Will there be a pie in the sky? Yes, but it is possible to kill you.

Always remember the starting point to get to your destination. Happiness is a comparison, but it is not necessarily compared with the surrounding, but it must be compared with your past. Knowing your starting point, you know what kind of path you should continue today. We are always lazy to care about the starting point of others, and the destinations of others, so we are always making ourselves feel unhappy. Often, we look for reasons for the happiness of others, just to tell ourselves that they are not lucky enough or start to blame others. The reason why you are not happy most is because there are too many reasons why you feel unhappy.

Learn anger and face fear. We forgot anger, but learned to fear at any time. So that we can't protect ourselves and we will never be convinced about the future. Society always keeps increasing your fears, and the outside world is the only way. Only then can you not be angry and full of fear. All the "no" you say may give you an opportunity to say "yes". Fear makes you wake up, but the fear of all the time will only destroy your life. If you are afraid of something, 99.9% of the possibilities will not come, so face up to fear, it is possible to eliminate it.

Rejecting numbness would rather be sad. The opposite of happiness is not sorrow, but numbness. You are numb to you now, numb to the past, numb to the future, the reason is just that you are not happy, just because you don't want to be sad? When you are "sorrowful", you know what you want; when you are "angry," you know who you are, what the bottom line is; when you are "fear," you understand your vulnerability.

Protect yourself and be kind to others. Learn to protect yourself, you will wear your own fragility or increase your resistance. And all happiness comes from being kind to others. All the mischief or hurting others will bring you happiness, and you will worry that the same thing will be transformed into yourself. Happiness becomes the fear of the future. Only harmless happiness will make you unwilling to forget, and know who you are, happiness.

We always take too many detours, either forget the starting point or go back to the starting point.

The tea teacher said that Dahongpao had the most taste for two or three years, but I drank the daffodils 10 years ago. I said, I am used to the taste, I also know how good or bad. Summer is always coming, tea is almost drunk, hungry, it is time to eat.