Young people, don’t think about breaking through yourself

A child sent me a message. Ta first asked me if the relationship was not important. Then I asked: Can the wood sister, IQ and emotional intelligence not break through?

From my personal point of view, the standard answer is this:

Interpersonal relations can be handled well, of course, if you don’t handle it temporarily, don’t worry too much;

There are not many people with poor IQ and EQ, and most people are of a medium standard. What does it mean to break through? Is it necessary to turn yourself into another look, from the inside to the outside, from the good to the calm, is this? !

If this is the case, then I suggest that you should not break through yourself. You are fine now.

To be honest, I think that most people find it difficult to break through and surpass themselves.

And those "winning the self" and "beyond yourself" are basically playing the chicken blood, giving you an example of a person who has already become famous, and telling you that they are successful beyond the self;

You followed a few slogans, and the blood was boiling. After a few days of excitement, it was relapsed. The lazy and lazy, the delay and delay, the inward and inward, the impetuous impetuous, can not solve the problem.

If you are not satisfied with your present self, what you have to do is not to change or break through yourself, but to try to find some ways to do something to make yourself better and become the so-called best self.

When you become what you like, what you think is not how to break through yourself, you will find that you like yourself very much, from personality to personality, from being human to talking and acting, you become confident and change Be more open.

You find yourself very good and don't need a breakthrough at all.

I have read too many stories of inspirational idols before, saying that they have overcome the weaknesses of their character, defeated the inherent weaknesses, and made great achievements and famous history.

For example, if a person has a stutter, he will practice his speech skills desperately and become a very good speech master. This kind of story is exciting when you look at it. When you read it, you are yearning for it: Wow, as long as I am willing, I can overcome myself and become another person, and achieve great achievements!

To tell the truth, most of us are hard to achieve this kind of qualitative leap. This kind of perseverance, perseverance and persistence are not what ordinary people can do; and the qualitative leap seems to be a moment, but it is a particularly long process, full of ups and downs. There are a lot of twists and turns, frustration, hate no points, and there are some surrenders.

For example, King George VI in "The King's Speech", he did not intend to be a king, because his brother Edward VIII did not love Jiangshan Aimei, he was pushed to the seat of the king.

As a king of a country to give a public speech, and he was despised by his father because of stuttering, all of which forced him to change his stuttering - the role of external force is actually greater than the motivation of his heart, forced to do so.

When I was a teenager, I was particularly eager to become a docile, docile and popular girl. How many children do not want to be like this?

But I have a restrained and awkward side. I saw people who are embarrassed to talk. People who are unfamiliar are also embarrassed. In a strange environment, I will win the six gods without a sense of existence, and pretend that no one cares.

Therefore, I hope to break through this disgusting part of my personality, I hope that I can control the source and the long sleeves.

But this kind of change is very painful. You have to force yourself to say a lot of things that you don't want to say or want to say, forcing yourself to deal with people you don't like. You have to force yourself to hide your personality and become a gentle cotton group without edges and corners. child……

Every time I counted the overall performance of a semester, I found that I didn't want to "break through myself"; but every time I started school less than a week, I would surrender and surrender: forget it, I should still do it. Why bother, forcibly change your own personality, and take a stance that you don’t even know. You are very tired and others are very awkward.

So, just like this.

From the age of 16 to the present, for nearly two decades, the things in my personality have not changed much. I still have a part that is very embarrassing and introverted. I have seen life not to talk, and I feel embarrassed in a strange environment;

On the other hand, I am doing a little bit better doing my favorite things, watching myself grow a little bit, this feeling is really good, let me slowly believe that "I am good, I like me very much." If you like it, you like it. If you don't like it, I will pull it down."

That's right, I became confident.

When you become self-confident, the factors in your character that you think are negative will slowly disappear. You may still be restrained, but you will not make a statement because of inferiority; you may still be very strong, but You won't push all the questions to your personality in the event of failure - how good is the personality, so many people in the world are mediocre, you lack the personality.

Breaking yourself is very, very difficult, but it is not difficult to make yourself better - do what you like, try to make yourself better, work as best as possible within your ability, you are getting better If you have a good life, you will have less doubts about yourself, uncertainty and even disgust.

The question that children especially love to ask is not how to break through themselves, but how to change their destiny.

Your questions are too big.

It seems that everyone can't be Jobs or Ma Yun, and I can't wait for them to fly to the branches and become phoenixes. At least they have to return to the hometown.

It is of course good to be ambitious. But I still suggest: starting with a little things, starting with getting yourself better, starting with being a favorite.

As you walk on this road, you will feel more and more confident, gradually broadened, and gradually have your own understanding of success, and gradually have a deep understanding of happiness... really.

Sometimes I also think, does it mean that I changed my destiny?

I think I count.

I realized my childhood dreams, I write, write books, have time and ability to travel, buy things I like, interact with my favorite friends, and most importantly, I have my favorite life, this is Success and happiness.

Doesn't this change the fate?

In the process, I did not really break through myself. My personality is almost the same as before, but my mood is completely different.

What I have done in these years, the books I read, have penetrated into my life a little bit, and although I have not broken through myself, I am getting better, isn’t it? !

Therefore, young people, don’t always think about breaking through yourself, and don’t always think about what to do.

Let's start with the things in front of you, learn the English you have been thinking about, and do the internship work at hand. If you want to write something, you should start the computer and start writing. Don’t just talk about it...

Obviously what you need is not the way to break through the self, but the courage to put down too many ideas and pick up a little thing to do well.