A letter from the parents to the teacher

Part 1: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Teacher Mu:
Hello!
I am very excited to hear your speech at the parent conference, so write this letter to you and tell me about my feelings.
Really, I am very glad that my child has met an open-minded and advanced teacher. On that day, after listening to your speech, I agree with your idea of ​​cultivating children's subjective initiative, but in modern society, I think that children's classes are too heavy, and parents look at children too poorly.
For a long time, I only had one wish, that is, let the children sleep well and without any task, until they wake up naturally. But since the beginning of school, this wish has never been realized. Every day, he was awakened by the cry of "Hurry up, hurry, you have to go to class!" After waking up, I always said to me with a sleepy eye: "Mom, sleep for another three minutes." "No!" Sleep for another minute." He also bargained with me in his dreams. Looking at the child's sleepy look, I can't bear to call her again, always waiting for him to wake up and ask him to get up.
When you finish your homework at home, you must set a time for your homework. Generally speaking, the writing work of the upper grade children should be completed within 1 hour to 1.5 hours. Don't rush to give answers to the problems your child has in your homework. Let him think before giving some help.
As the mother of the child, I have too much helplessness and feelings. I hope that you can criticize and correct my education methods and methods and help me. Thank you very much!
Sun Yu Parents: Qi Xin
XX XX, 20XX

Part 2: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Dear teachers,
The new semester is about to start, and the Teacher's Day is coming soon. Your students and your former students will express their high respect and sincere gratitude to you! You are the engineers of the human soul, the fruit of your dedication and dedication to the growth of generation after generation.
My child is in the second year of the middle school year. I and all my parents are very concerned about the growth and change of their children. Because my daughter grew up, I once again intimately contacted the excellent group of teachers. On the occasion of Teacher's Day, we have unlimited reverence and gratitude to express to our teachers, and some have the heart to talk to the teachers.
We all know that children are growing up in encouragement, especially for new students who have just changed their living environment. They need teachers to have more patience and love to cultivate their confidence and courage.
My daughter's teacher asked them to speak out loud to cultivate their confidence. I feel very good. However, I also think about how teachers can make students more confident. My daughter started to be afraid of going to school a few days after school. I asked her why, she said, the teacher is too powerful. I said to my daughter, in fact, every teacher loves you very much. When they look at you seriously, what he thinks is: "This little guy is good, the little guy must grow up, I am much more Teach them something," my daughter asked. "Really?" I said, "Yes,
Because the teacher loves you too much, he is strict with you. So don't be afraid of the teacher, just do what the teacher asks. The teacher will praise you when you see your progress. So the daughter ran to the school happily.
I also saw that on the campus, the teachers almost did not smile, and some teachers were quite harsh. Would it be better if the teacher could reasonably tell the students like a parent? If students have positive performance, can they give them a smile, a compliment or encouragement? Walking into the school gate in the morning, when the children say hello to the teacher loudly, can the teacher say how good the classmates are? In this way, you and your child will have a happy day.
I am not an education expert, not a psychologist. I don't know how to be the best. I just worry that the teachers are too embarrassed to praise and encourage the children, and too much to show their majesty. Children are also self-respecting, love and encouragement, protection and respect may have a better educational effect. Education is a comprehensive art. Although teachers have some differences in knowledge level and literacy skills, education is ultimately a loving art. As long as teachers who love students have the preconditions to become educational artists. When you can let the children feel that you love them, maybe the children will love the school more, love the teacher, and listen to the teacher.
I have also had an unforgettable memory with my teacher. I transferred from Heilongjiang to Xinjiang because of my father's work transfer. I am one of the best students in my hometown, especially in mathematics and physics. In the middle school entrance examination, I am one of the two students with the full score of mathematics in the whole region. The mathematics and physics teacher often praises me and says that I have good understanding. I am also very confident and hard working. The ideal of being a child is to be a scientist or an engineer. I came to Xinjiang to pass a test and entered a key high school. The teaching progress of this school is half a book faster than normal. I began to read my own books every day. One day, the chemistry teacher asked me about the new class I was going to talk about that day. I said that I have not had time to read it. The teacher criticized me and said that wherever I make up the lessons every day?
I silently shed tears, I feel very wronged, my sensitive nerves think of her saying that I must have seen me and the boys speak at the school gate, thinking that I did not use my mind to study. The teacher's accusation deeply hurt my self-esteem, and then she never ignored me anymore, and I no longer like chemistry. The fate of the game, I was admitted to the Department of Chemical Engineering. I spent the four years in college, and I was thinking about taking individual graduate students away from chemistry. Fortunately, I finally turned to be a reporter today, but I am very saddened by the college time I spent too much, and I was saddened by the disillusionment of my ideals.
I have always remembered the image of the teacher, thin and serious. It is said that she is informed from Shanghai, is the pillar of the school, is a very famous chemistry teacher. At that time, I was already a high school student. Her casual accusation also struck my interest and self-confidence. The pain that was misunderstood by the teacher has been in my memory for a long time. It can be imagined how far a teacher's influence on a child is!
If the teacher can give the students more understanding and communication, more love and tolerance, how lucky and happy these children will be.
Dear teacher, you have to know that you are not an ordinary person, you can light the sparks in the depths of your child's heart, and you may also extinguish the torch that your child has already flashed. Every child has a flashing starlight, can ignite it, illuminate the child's life, teacher, your responsibility is great! Your words and deeds will be deeply engraved in the child's heart, affecting the child's character and quality as well as interests and hobbies. People's teacher, this is a noble and sacred profession! People's teachers, this is a profession that is more important than Taishan!
Teacher, maybe you feel a lot of pressure. Maybe you think you are just an ordinary person, and you have a lot of troubles and disappointments. We all understand this very well. However, if you choose to be a teacher, you will assume the trust of a family and assume the sacred mission of cultivating and educating the next generation of the Chinese nation. Your mission is noble! Your responsibility is significant! You are no longer an ordinary person! You can no longer ask yourself by the standards of ordinary people. You are an amazing person. You are sacred in the eyes of your child. It is an example of your child's life. Your body carries the future of the motherland and the hope of the nation!
We hope to see more and better teachers around us emerge. We also know that every student wants to be a good student in the eyes of the teacher and hopes to be affirmed and encouraged by the teacher. We also believe that because of your appreciation, your students will be better and will give you more glory.
Dear teachers, you have worked hard! We love you as deeply as our children. Please accept your students and former students for their sincere respect!
Parent of child
XX XX, 20XX

Part 3: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Hello, teacher!
You are busy, please pay attention to work and rest.
We are worried that your work is stressful, especially psychological. Or it is because of the school you came to - it may be more utilitarian. So I want to tell you that we don't value the score. We value the physical and mental well-being and health of teachers and students; we value the true feelings of human beings; the second is the cultivation of learning interests and the development of self-learning habits.
All along, we feel the most dissatisfied with the school's excessive "tension", "mechanism", "heavy burden", which makes everyone suffer and work hard to "school education" - the crazy operation of this machine. In this regard, can we only say "no way"?
We don't know what your "personal attitude" towards educational reality is, and it's possible that our feelings are more biased and our views are out of date - so you can't talk about it because people's worlds are different.
Our education for children seems to be just a form of being busy with the task of completing the school. It is equivalent to “psychologically” giving up her, or having to use her as a tool to force her to focus. Therefore, when we read the word "Aura" that you wrote to her, our psychology has a deep helplessness and sadness! Before she went to school, she was still learning ballet, violin, and painting. We were also preparing to let her learn calligraphy, but after school, she had to quit halfway. Now our biggest wish is to keep the bottom line, that is, to ensure that she has enough sleep, and to ensure that she can sleep at eight o'clock, and that her homework must be completed before eight o'clock. As long as she is not sick, we can already thank God. So, up to now, our original educational measures have been "eliminated", and I don't know when it started - "How many homework is there today?" - became "everyday must ask."
But no one is asking: Why can't we still or not try our ideal education? Otherwise, what is the use of education concepts?
We would love to hear your feelings and experience in this area.
Thank you very much for your compliments and blessings to the children - this will be a lifetime for her!
I wish you a happy National Day!
Parent of the child
XX XX, 20XX

Part 4: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Dear teachers,
You are working hard!
Teach your child with a little conscience! You can of course pay for your own labor, but your reward is a bit disgraceful. What did you teach the children? You are smearing your holy title with shameless behavior to pollute the young and pure heart. You poisoned a generation of children, you ruined the name of the world!
The teacher of our time is respectable! You are poor, keep your teacher, love your disciples, and teach you, like a parent! Even if you are a private teacher, you are responsible for the sun. Although you teach while you are farming, you have taught us how to choose; you teach us without reservation, even if you don't have much, you are all about it. Even though we didn't send you a penny, you love every child. Regardless of whether his family is rich or poor, you are treated the same. Speaking of you, I will tears and flowers, I can’t wait to scream: "Love the teacher, you will re-educate and teach my children!"
Your child's current teacher is sad! You love wealth, back to morality, love money, teach lightly, you are like dung! You are holding the salary you should get. In fact, you are not lower than the civil servant at the same level, but are you still shouting? You take advantage of the sense of crisis of a parent and a child, and change the pattern to capture the dry pockets of the parents. You are also cheeky and said: I only accept tuition fees. Yes, you only recognize that you have money. For poor children, you will be sarcastically and sarcastically! There are ancient students who teach in accordance with their aptitude. sorrow! How many of the children in the cram school are voluntary? Parents and children are not willing, you give the child a side blow and then call the parents. One hundred parents are unwilling, but who is afraid to go because of your face? Going, not the market price, is your unilateral pricing, you charge more than the teachers you don't know, parents have to bite their teeth! What is the money, what is the tears and bitterness! Parents are afraid to speak out because we only have one child and cannot be destroyed in your hands. The education department is not allowed to sell counseling books. You want to do your best to let the children buy them. Are you blushing? How high you think you are, in fact, the child knows that the teacher is going to do it! You taught them that even the teacher doesn't trust, don't you blush? Little children, talking about the relationship money is a set, all the campus version of ... ... more, I am tears, dear teacher, you are not like this! Gentlemen love money and have a good way! This road is not what you are going. These phenomena are very common, especially in the state-run small country. My child can only go to a private school because the teachers here are dedicated! This money is sunny, comfortable and willing.
Dear teachers, please go back to the high platform and let people look up; return to the bright classroom and be respectful.
Sincerely
salute
Parents: Respecting teachers
20XX.5.1

Part 5: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Dear Teacher Chen:
Hello!
I am the parent of your student. My son has been absent from school for three weeks. A 13-year-old child does not know what to do at home. I don't know what to do. Considering it over and over again, I feel that it is necessary to communicate with you, talk to you and talk about the personal experience of a father. In addition, because I am not good at words, especially in front of the teacher, no matter how many times, afraid to live up to your kindness, so I dare to write this letter to you, I hope you can look calmly.
First of all, on behalf of our family, I would like to extend a sincere apology to all the teachers of your son and I: Sorry! Since our parents have not fulfilled their due responsibilities, the mistakes in parenting education have caused many problems in the school, causing great trouble to you and other teachers, and sincerely apologize to you. I have always respected the teacher very much. You are well-deserved as the "engineer of the human soul". It is worthy of devotion to the profound love and unselfish dedication to the children who have nothing to do with themselves. Therefore, I am deeply saddened by the child's mistakes. I am deeply sorry that the teachers love the children. I have not fulfilled the responsibility of the parents. The children have now developed this step. We are blamed for being parents.
Since the child’s first truancy, I began to reflect on my own problems in parenting education. From then until now I have been listening to the parent education experts in the chat room on the UC website. The lectures basically put the spare time on the study in this area. From the "care for children", "growth education paradise", to the "Chinese parent education network", there are many experts and teachers to explain advanced. The concept of parenting education and the misunderstanding of parenting education that is currently prevalent. Although there are many rooms and different experts, the concept of parenting education is basically the same or similar. The theme of the “Caring for Children” room is “to cultivate the roots of our nation with true feelings and love! Ask us to use love instead of love. True feelings, not imaginary hearts, care for children. I sincerely ask the expert teachers who lectured, openly and honestly analyze their ignorance in parenting education, and also made a lot of friends, some of them are tutors, some are excellent in-service Teachers, some parents who have been very successful in parenting education, they have greatly helped me with my confusion and confusion. They have given me a lot of good and operative suggestions. I am very concerned about the growth of my children. I often ask my children. The current situation. I also let the children communicate with them and spit out their voices. Through these hours of study, I have benefited a lot. The explanations of the experts and teachers have made me understand that "only parents with problems have no problems." "Children's problems are mostly from parents' problems. Children are not wrong, wrong. It’s just that we are parents. Our parent education has a lot of misunderstandings. I deeply understand that I feel that because I am busy with my work, sometimes I also play online, I don’t care enough about my children, I don’t do my father. The obligation not to treat the child as an equal person, non-training and reprimanding, deeply hurt his self-esteem, always impose an adult opinion and opinion on him, I really should reflect on myself. So I I have to make up my mind, try to change myself, and I have to be self-disciplined and change this traditional thinking. I believe that with the changes in the family environment, children will gradually be affected in a warm family environment, but it takes time. The bad habits that have been developed for more than a decade will not be solved in a short time. It is impossible to "put down the butcher's knife and become a Buddha". But as long as our concept changes, we must first change ourselves and believe that he will also change. I have sincerely written a letter to my child, frankly admitting my mistakes in my previous education, and deeply guilty about the harm caused to my child’s heart. I sincerely say that I have to change it later. His own rude style, communicate with him, suggesting that the family environment is equal and warm, and help him find a suitable learning method, make up the basic knowledge, grow and progress with him, encourage him, believe him, I was able to do this. The child was very touched after reading the letter. I did my homework that night, showed it to me, and wrote a preliminary plan for me. Although the plan is not perfect, it also shows the child. The change, I gave encouragement to the child and encouraged him to persist. Unexpectedly, only one day, the child will return to the previous state, the confidence that the child just built is ruthlessly crushed in the school, and I The idea of ​​wanting to communicate with you is also said to be that I am used to and pamper the child.
You have reminded me before that I have a problem with my child's psychology and I have to undergo major surgery. This time I followed your advice and took him to Beijing to find a famous youth problem expert and conducted psychological counseling. Through the teacher's rich feelings, the child finally opened the heart of the Philippine, told the teacher about the psychological discrimination in the school by the teacher and the feeling of physical damage to the classmate, when the psychological teacher asked him why he did not tell the teacher classmates to bully you He said that the teacher can't manage it. He also said that the mother was going to find the mother of the classmate. He refused to say that if he found a classmate, he would change to Bengal after he came back. He bullied him even more, and he was crying. When the psychological teacher told me that the child was not screamed by the blood of the knife on his arm, in the face of the teacher, I cried, and I deeply blamed myself: I only knew that the child was tired of learning, but never knew The reason for being tired of learning is not to help the child when the child needs help. Instead, he blames the child and asks the child to return to the place where he is afraid. The psychological teacher told the children: We can't change the environment and others. You can only change yourself. You can think about it. You should use frustration as an opportunity for your own progress. If there is no setback, there will be no pressure. Without pressure, there will be no motivation. No. Motivation won't grow, so thank you to those who give you frustration, and they give you the motivation to grow. From the teacher's room, I saw the child's long-lost smile, the smile was so brilliant, the teacher's psychological dredge, so that he found back confidence and saw hope. When I left, the teacher avoided the child and said to me that the child’s current learning environment is very unfavorable to him. In addition, his own foundation is poor, he is struggling to learn, he is not interested in learning, he loses the confidence to learn, and for the children, as a parent, Be brave and responsible, think of ways to make up the previous homework, to see the progress of the child, even if it is a little bit of progress, we must give encouragement, so that the child can find confidence. The discrimination and deception of teachers and classmates is also an important reason why he is tired of learning. Go back and communicate with the teacher so that the teacher can accept and care for him if he sees the child's hope. The teacher gave me an analogy: If a person works in a unit, from a leader to a colleague, no one likes him. When the leader sees it, he criticizes it. Colleagues point at the back, say something that catches the wind, or say it every day. You are sick, not normal, then can he stay in this unit? If you don't resign, you have to be driven crazy. Adults are still like this, let alone a child whose mentality is not yet perfect? There will be no such stable mentality. Although this is an analogy, it can be seen that the external environment is important for the healthy growth of people.
As parents, we must be brave enough to take responsibility for education. However, as a teacher, what do you do in the face of a student who has difficulty learning? When you skip school for the first time, you are not patiently educated, but you are humiliated, but I am afraid that he will not be able to hurt his self-esteem, so he will automatically drop out of school, transfer to school, and "every teacher will clapping and cheering, can’t wait to open a farewell party immediately. "Is it important for you to drive away a bad student?" Isn't a so-called poor student so hateful in your eyes, not to die and then fast? You said that you "are to teach, not to educate people." I have not learned the "Teacher Law". I don't know what the teacher's duties are in the "Teacher's Law". I only know that there has always been a "teaching and educating people". Is the teacher's duty to teach a few words and do a few questions? Does the teacher have no responsibility to educate the students?
Teacher Chen: Thank you for your hard work for my son. I also understand how you deal with my son in order to protect the interests of most students, but you should understand that good students are people and bad students are also people. I still want to tell you that there are no parents who don’t love their children. Even though everyone in the world thinks that my child is hopeless, everyone will give up, but I will not give up, just like you said, you It is not his parents, he does not need to take responsibility for his mistakes, but I am his father. I have to bear all of this in any case. I will never give up on him and let him voluntarily give up.
I am going to visit our website tonight, I think this website is doing very well. In particular, the message from the principal moved me: "There are no backward students in this world, only backward education methods; there are no students who are not suitable for learning, only lose confidence or find students who are suitable for their own learning methods." This is a more advanced teaching. The idea, especially in this small place in the coal city of Yuxi, I hope this is not just an empty talk on the slogan.
Teacher Chen, when the May Day is over, you will sincerely say to all of your students, “Huangyi is here, are you happy?”?
Don't say too much, if there is something wrong with words, please forgive and point out that I should accept it with humility.
I wish you a smooth working life!
a student parent
XX, XX, XX, XX

Part 6: A letter from the parents to the teacher

Teacher Hu and teachers from various subjects:
Hello! It should have been written in the record book, but I would like to write a few more sentences and a thin paper.
When I wrote it, I felt a bit mixed. I couldn’t think of the school where the child came, so I couldn’t think of her teacher’s dedication. I have almost no contact with the teacher and only opened two parent meetings. However, I strongly felt the teacher's good intentions and felt the teacher's love for children and education.
I also don't think that children will achieve today's results. But I am not surprised!
Today, the child received an extra three or five points on the score. But for her education, I feel the same way as the teacher. The real test is far from beginning. Waiting for the children will be an increasingly difficult problem. For her growth, she will exchange some of the child's situation with the teacher.
She was a very strong child since she was a child. When she was four years old, her parents intended to be behind her and let her lead the way home. In the world of ice and snow in the Window of the World, she pulls a disc much higher than her, climbs to the heights, swoops down, and rushes back and forth, and the boys who are much older than her need help from their parents. . When she was five years old, she was alone in the renminbi and was able to buy McDonald's with high counters and adults. She jumped from the two-meter-high horizontal bar. Although it hurts, but she didn't say anything, she had to go up again and jump down. At her 10-year-old birthday party, she fought for her sister. The cousin covered her neck with both hands for more than a minute, and her tears flowed. No matter how you ask her, she does not say anything, until she goes home, she does not mention a word.
As a father, she grew up, she didn't know how many times she fell, but I never helped her once. As long as she can do it, she will never help her. Back and forth, she didn't want us to pick up and drop off, we also rarely pick up.
The child has dreams and pursuits. She is nervous and sensitive. She wants to be a child who is satisfied with her parents. She dreams of a good school. She always expects success, never does nothing, never indulges in online games, never feel bored. At a young age, she went to the bookstore alone, and it was four or five hours. She cares a lot about other people's reviews, and it doesn't matter if it is pretending. At home, her parents hardly coached her homework, even forced her to go out to play in the suburbs, but she would insist on doing homework without worrying about adults. Usually 2 to 3 in the morning, she is alone in doing homework.
The child's temper is straight, not subtle, and will not hide. When she was 5 years old and bought McDonald's, she might have developed the characteristics of quick decision, bold and automatic, and not dependent. I always like to speak my own opinions boldly and sharply. In the subconscious, she has the desire to control and guide, and wants to learn the "sisters" style. In the fourth grade of the National Primary School, she will organize the spontaneous skating team in the class and run rampant in the garden. When she thinks that a boy is bullying a female classmate, she will go out and fight and cry the boy. She never hides herself and does not know how to understand others. Preconceived, your own perception determines everything, not to seriously analyze and logically judge. This is a mistake of youth! I believe she will definitely realize her shortcomings one day.
The child is a continuation of the life of the parents, and every step of her step is on the heart of the parents. I deeply felt the child's struggle and dedication. She did not slack off and did not escape. She wanted to be a good boy.
The shortcomings of children are obvious: they don't care about people, they are too subjective, they are desperate for a moment, they don't cooperate, they love to go out, they are afraid, they are impatient, they are quick to decide without analysis, and so on. I look forward to her early change and look forward to those real surprises.
Thank you very much teacher! Thanks also to my child!

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