Who said that you have no ideals?

The girl took the headset and turned to ask me, Mom, what do you think of me as a special soldier?

She is watching a TV series about special forces on the computer.

Of course, if you can be a female special forces, then I have to be proud to die. I walked over and sat next to her. Thanks to the heroic complex, I have read many novels in this area, which will allow me to talk with the girls about the extraordinary characteristics of domestic and foreign special forces, especially those modern high-tech special forces, in addition to having extraordinary In addition to the strength, there is a first-rate mind.

The mother and the daughter, you said a word, excitedly shared the various worship of the special forces. I suddenly said to the girl, do you know what kind of training you need to have such skills? I carefully searched the descriptions in those novels in memory, from physical strength, spirit, skills to knowledge, intelligence, etc. .

God, it’s not easy to do this. The girl lamented, then I still forget it.

I know that she is just saying it. But I hope she can specifically recognize that every revered state is a great effort to get.

After going to the middle of the country, the girl became more and more assertive, and there were obvious likes and dislikes about things. Like many little girls, for a while she was particularly fascinated by various singers, especially the stars of the draft. I was so fascinated that I could tell who was the voice or which song. Although it is not about the degree of chasing stars, I am still worried that it will affect her learning. What's more, in my opinion, the star who likes this popular moment is really not pursuing a tasteful performance. Every time she mentions a certain star, I am very savage to hit her.

Sometime, her dad heard it and told me privately. From the general direction, the girl’s preference is at least positive. What's more, her preference, in addition to the popular music itself, comes from the media's inspirational propaganda for the star's hard work. It is not appropriate for our values ​​to force her to influence her. Moreover, from the perspective of parental guidance, this approach will only make the girl more and more reluctant to communicate with the parents. I have been pondering for a while, and I really realize that in today's environment, children like stars are normal. However, if I want to guide or influence her, I must first fully affirm her thoughts and understand and understand her. Communicate with her on an equal basis, I believe she will make more mature judgments.

Not long after, I found that the favorite stars of the girl slowly concentrated on the creative singer with a background of education. For example, Wang Lihong from Williams University, a liberal arts and sciences college in Harvard, was admitted to Guangzhou Xinghai with a score of 681. Zhou Bichang of the Conservatory of Music, once a high-profile student of Fudan University, Shang Wenyi. She even said that she would like to be a musician in the future.

The girl has studied piano for several years and has a certain music foundation. The composition is also well written. I told her that knowing how to use music to express is the basic quality of a musician. But to be a good musician, the most important thing is that you should be unique and impressed. To do this, we need to have unique insights and experiences, and these depend to a large extent on our own literature, history and other accumulations, and even have a background in sociology, philosophy, psychology and so on.

After the second day of school, in addition to history, the girl began to be interested in psychology. I bought her some entry-level books. Not long after, she left the books she thought was too simple and junior, won her dad's "game theory", and also pulled out from the bookcase when I went to college. Jung Psychology.

The bookmarks inserted in these two books moved very slowly. I thought about this early. After all, it is a professional book different from the story book. It is very good for her age to not give up easily. But I still hope that she can work harder to understand some more. On the one hand, I told her that reading is a character. If you open it, don't let it go. On the one hand, he will not hesitate to expose it. Tell her that Jung Psychology didn't finish reading when I was in college. I didn't expect her. I went to the country and saw so much. Encourage is quite effective, the girl listened to me and insisted on watching it intermittently.

However, since the last semester, the girl has become more and more entangled in the future of life, and is troubled by not having a clear career direction.

At first, I heard her say that a girl in her class has always maintained her top grades in academic performance. She is also very talented in art: from the national piano, dance, singing, now I can write my own songs. At the grade level, she has always been a modest host. What programs, essays, choruses, video shows, creatives, scripts, and directors are all in her class. The girl decided the goal of going to an art school from the first day.

Some time ago, each class held a quality demonstration class. The boys behind the girl demonstrated the high-level mathematics problem. They used six methods to prove a university's calculus problem. The girl's statement was "a cow." The boy is a mathematical genius. He began to read the "Elementary Number Theory" from the second day and taught himself high school mathematics. He told the girl that he would pursue mathematics research in the future.

Seeing that the classmates around me had a very clear goal, the girl said to me anxiously, I have not had an ideal yet, what should I do?

Who said that you have no ideals? You have said so many musicians, psychologists, writers, even doctors and special forces. Whatever you do, you want to be a capable, valuable, and contributing to society, not you. Is it ideal? I appease the girl comfortably, telling her that you are only in the third grade, and you don’t think about what to do in the future. It’s normal. What makes me particularly envious is that you are interested in many professions. To understanding. In retrospect, my earliest thing to be able to call the ideal is to take a photo. At that time, I just went to the country, and for a long time I couldn’t understand how the image of the person could be presented on the photo. At that time, I couldn't find a book, and I couldn't find anyone to tell me about it, and at that time, photography was a luxury. Wherever you are, you will be exposed to the latest information from an early age.

Seeing the girl's emotions from the frustration, I went on to say that you have a classmate who defined the ideal so early, it is really hard to get, and I also envy. Recall that I did not have such a friend until I graduated from high school. It can be seen that only a very small number of people in the population have a certain life goal at a very early stage. They have clear visions that are related to the growth environment, personal interests and efforts.

I started to make an analogy to the girl: singing is pleasing, but only the musician can repeat the same song countless times, and can also experience the best emotional state; high-intensity, difficult training, in our opinion, is almost equivalent In the trial and self-abuse, I believe that excellent special forces can find a sense of pride in breaking through and surpassing themselves; constantly doing problems, burying themselves in various problems every day, others will feel dull and monotonous, the boys in your class must be happy. The heart is filled with a sense of accomplishment. So I think that at this stage, your ideals come from interest, but not just interest. As long as you keep this state, you are interested in many fields, and work hard on what you are interested in, I believe that you will have more and more clear ideals.

A few days ago, the girl showed me a letter she wrote to a pen pal in Sichuan. The letter is very long. The last few pages write about her understanding of herself. In particular, she wants to start a business in the future. The girl joined a bicycle team and her teammates have their own strengths. She believes that several of them can be developed into entrepreneurial team members. Although she hasn't figured out what to do for the time being, she thinks it makes sense to really do a career she likes.