Ways to enhance self-confidence

Self-confidence is an optimistic and full estimate of how well you can achieve a certain goal. American writer Emerson said: "Confidence is the first secret of success." It can be said that having confidence has unlimited opportunities. We must work hard to learn the method of self-confidence, let the confident sunshine fill every corner of our communication.

1. Positive self-suggestion

Self-suggestion can be carried out silently, or it can be spoken out loud, written on paper, or even sung or sung. By sticking to effective self-suggesting exercises every day, you can gradually feel confident in your heart. For example, you can tell yourself: "I am first-class in the field I work in." "I have enough time, ability, and wisdom to realize my ideals." In general, the shorter the affirmative word, the more effective it is. When you are sure, you should be able to express strong emotions and give a strong impression, such as "I am the best!".

The famous scholar Herbart once said such a famous saying, "When you go out, please take in the lower jaw, lift your forehead, and fill your lungs with air; when you meet a friend, smile and say hello to him; and People must be full of energy when shaking hands; don't waste even one second to think of your enemies; do things with your mind, don't always change direction, keep moving toward your goals; put your heart completely on what you want. If you do this, one day you will know that you have inadvertently seized the opportunity to complete your ideals. Just like a coral, you have taken the nutrients it needs from the rushing tides."

Therefore, when we go out every day, we should smile at the mirror and tell ourselves: "You are great, come on!" One day, the power of the spirit will make you marvel.

2, take the initiative to say hello to others

There is a concept in social, called "home advantage", which means that everyone in their "home" has the initiative. In communication, we should also make full use of this theory, take the initiative to greet others, take the initiative to help others, and actively interact with others, just as if they are masters. Initiators are often more psychologically prepared and more able to master social initiatives. "Proactively greet → look at the other person's face → find the topic" is called the social trilogy.

In fact, if you try to do something that is scared, fear will disappear. So, even if you feel scared, you should be brave enough to be a "first person to say hello".

3, let yourself be decent

If you dress neatly, dress properly, talk and behave in a normal way, then this person will be more confident in social interaction. On the contrary, if the clothes are not uniform and unkempt, it is easy to have a feeling of inferiority, and it is difficult to truly communicate with each other.

It is generally believed that people with good appearances have better education, background and temperament, which is easy to make people feel good. Therefore, good instruments can make people more confident.

A pair of parents took their daughter to see a psychiatrist and said that their daughter was very inferior, almost afraid to see people and rarely talked. When the psychiatrist saw the girl, she was also very surprised. She saw her wearing a sly dress and her face was blank. No matter what the psychiatrist said to her, she did not care, the psychiatrist saw it, and the child’s parents. Whispered for a while, then said: "Children, my family will hold a dinner tonight, can you come to help me entertain the guests?" The girl was surprised, but nodded.

In the evening, the psychiatrist heard someone knocking on the door and opened it. I saw a noble and elegant girl standing outside the door. She was dressed neatly and well-behaved. The doctor looked at it for a long time before she recognized that she was the girl who came during the day. That night, the girl has always been the focus of the party, everyone wants to know her, and she is also very decent and appropriate.

Afterwards, the girl told the psychiatrist that she had been wearing worn, dirty clothes all the time. She used to use it for a long time. She felt that she was the same, and she would not like it. When the psychiatrist invited her to the dinner, She put on her evening gown that her mother bought for her. She suddenly felt that she had become a person. She was refreshed and always pays attention to her behavior. The whole person’s self-confidence increased.

Therefore, preparing a few sets of better clothes in social activities can indeed increase your self-confidence invisibly.

4, practice to face others

In social interaction, a person's eyes can reveal a lot of information. If you dare not face someone, he may doubt what you have done to be sorry for him. Once you avoid the eyes of others and become a habit, you will feel more inferior and worse than others. To face others is to tell him: I am honest, honest and bright, and I am not afraid of you.

So, let your eyes increase your social scores and face others' eyes. This will not only give you confidence, but also win the trust of others.

5, you must have your own opinion

A person without an opinion is immature, and such a person is hard to be respected by others in social interaction. Being assertive is a manifestation of self-confidence and a must-have quality for success.

In socializing, people who do not have their own opinions not only look weak but can be bullied, and it is difficult to create a sense of trust and respect. Everyone respects the strong. For those who are not confident and have no opinion, people use the most sympathy, but they don't like and are close to each other. Therefore, everyone should be a person who has a vision and send a signal of self-confidence to others.

6, dare to show yourself

Now is not the era of "the wine is not afraid of the deep alley", only to dare to express yourself, can let others know you, appreciate you, like you. A person who always hides himself will be neglected and forgotten, and will become more inferior. On the contrary, by actively participating in the exercise of their psychological temperament, tempering their various skills, it is more likely to make themselves more and more confident.

Believe in yourself, I am the best!