If you don’t change, the new year is just a replay.

Every year in January, I am very contradictory. I can't accept that I am one year old, just like I can't accept that half of the crayfish have been taken away. Asshole! Also my crayfish! Also my time!

But I secretly look forward to the arrival of the new year, as if I am like this every year. I always feel that I can transfer in the new year, I can reshuffle, I can start from scratch, I can be refreshed.

So in this cycle, I have gone through year after year.

For so many years, I was vowed at the beginning of the year, and I was so sad at the end of the year.

Fortunately, I have gradually got rid of this state recently, although every time I was a year old, I still had the feeling that crayfish was half-eaten.

When I was so anxious, I searched the Internet for all the information I could use. I bought four vocabulary books. I collected a variety of useful resources for everyone. I made a lot of movies. I made a lot of speeches. I right-click the useful images and save them as. Start my own project with my good friends: recite one hundred words a day, watch an open class every week, and read a book every week. To this end, we made a perfect preparation and even punished each other.

For example, if I have less than two words, he will graffiti on my face and take a photo... I said that I am going to be an idol! How can I let you do this! Then I was him in those two months. I took it 10 times.

Don't want to see these photos, they have all been destroyed by me.

The same is true of my good friend. Because he never cut off the phone, he dragged his plan and then failed to implement the plan.

Because of this, he is extremely wronged. Finally, it is due to the fact that the whole universe does not want him to learn. He should conform to the meaning of the universe. Because he said this was too serious, so I actually nodded according to his meaning...

The two of us are a perfect example.

There is an excellent example of the determination to change, but there is no incentive to implement the plan.

We want to change the world, but we can't change our habits of resentment; we want to go out and travel, but we don't even bother to go downstairs to buy food; we want to read a few books carefully, but we open the first page. There is no courage.

This is not the most terrible. The most terrible thing is that you started, but you can't keep going.

Because you feel that you have worked hard. You bought the book, you downloaded it, you read the open class, you started to recite the words. The truth is that you have the hard work, you have started, but you have not achieved the progress you want. The consequences of no action are delays, delays will make your next day’s mission soar, and the more you drag it, the more dangerous it will be. It will make you start complaining about unfairness, start to feel that time is not enough to generate anxiety, and finally kill your fighting spirit. , to fight your confidence.

So we are stuck in the middle, we don't want to go on like this, but we can't find a way to change; we are not willing to the status quo, and we don't have enough ability to get out of trouble. It’s not that there is no effort, just don’t know where to go.

It’s as easy as a vow to become a talker, probably as easy as saying “I must change in the new year”.

Just change and what is so simple.

I used to be an extremely anxious person, because of anxiety, I was desperate to hurry, because I was desperate to hurry and forgot what I wanted. I climbed over the mountains and never looked at the scenery; when I crossed the hills, I found nothing.

I began to understand that collecting never equals understanding. I downloaded countless materials. I bought a lot of books. If I don't look at it, it is equal to a blank sheet. At that time, I asked for results in everything. When I read a book, I have to pick everyone to say that I have a useful look. I desperately want to find shortcuts from inside to find philosophies. If I do things, I have to pick things that are rewarding, and I desperately want to get some results, but I find that I didn’t get anything at the end.

So I began to force myself to pick up a book and watch it. No matter who wrote it, as long as it was bought by me at the time, no matter whether others said that such a book is useful or not, I began to look at it. Slowly, I found that reading a book a week is actually not a distant thing. So I began to force myself to sit at the computer desk every day and think about something, no matter whether those thoughts could become words, I would sink. After slowly discovering that I became a habit, precipitation is not difficult.

The hardest part is the few days before I got into the habit. I forced myself not to look at the phone. The only use of the phone is to sing. I don't want to see my friends in the microblog. I told myself that I don't look at the phone for two hours and I don't have a piece of meat. As long as you look at the phone within two hours, you will never eat crayfish. I didn't expect such psychological cues to be extremely useful, and I got used to it slowly.

The best way to build confidence is to do things that make you headaches; the best way to defeat anxiety is to do things that make you anxious. The difficulty of imagining is always more difficult than the difficulties actually encountered. When you first start, you will find it difficult. Set yourself a time limit. Try it anyway during this time. You will soon find out that you can actually invest in it.

If you don’t change yourself, the new year is just a replay. I didn't go to the place I wanted to go. I didn't talk about the love I wanted to talk about. I still didn't do what I wanted to do. The calendar page flips, the time goes a little bit, but you are stuck in the same place. Waiting or being confused, don't leave yourself alone. The new year does not mean a new beginning, if you have no action; as long as you make up your mind, every day can be a new beginning.

So don't say that in the new year, I must change. Don't go to the cumbersome plan. From now on, I will change now.

It is very simple to talk about, we can not be so bent on ourselves, not worthy of the suffering, but also lived up to their ambitions, not the most uncomfortable. Then do something that is arrogant, such as getting rid of a bad habit you hate most, or doing something you really want to do but not doing.