The better you are, the better your face will be.

I have a friend who is not good at the world, not sociable, has a stable job and a middle income. Like many of her only children, she bought a house and bought a car with the support of her parents. She lived in a 140-square-meter house and drove to and from work every day, unconsciously. Also in the age of 30, she gave up all of this, choosing North drift, renting, and smashing the MRT...

Of course, some people will say that she is stupid, but she is much more happy than before. The only reason she left this small town was loneliness. At the same time, she did not want to find a person to marry and have a child to say goodbye to loneliness as the elders said - in that case, it might be more lonely.

For some people, this loneliness seems to be a little bit sensational. They will also move out the "all-in-one" principle, telling you that this is your own problem. You have to change yourself, release yourself, and reach out to society in order to have a broader circle. However, this statement fundamentally obliterates the difference between people and ignores the personality of the person. It’s like watching a movie. It’s hard to resonate with people watching Truff and Fellini and people watching Little Age. You can’t force one of them to move to the other. The loneliness caused by values ​​cannot be alleviated by changes in oneself. Moreover, even if it changes, it can only be high or low. That is to say, you can make yourself better and adapt to the heights of others, but you can't deliberately lower your IQ and move to a more mediocre person than yourself. .

Therefore, the better a person is, the more awkward the face of a small city. Not to mention the closed small towns in the mainland. Even the rich areas in the southeast coast, even if only one or two hours away from Hong Kong and Macao, small cities are still only small cities, you still have to endure the following things: the same magazines and movies, than Guangzhou, Shenzhen is listed and on the line more than a week later; you still have to drive to the big city to watch dramas and concerts; the older generation will always care about why you graduated from college and still don’t take pictures. At the age of twenty-five, why are you still not married? If you haven’t tested a civil servant for a year, some people will be very upset for you; even young people tend to get older early, sit down and talk to you about winning the kids on the starting line. After seeing child-rearing and health-care lectures, it is like playing chicken blood; many of your peers have high academic qualifications and decent jobs, but there is no book at home, you can never find a common topic; in business, you I can't rely on creativity to impress customers, and it’s even more useful to use a man’s shoulders and endure a lot of wine.

Sometimes, I even have the illusion that I can bear it, and I need more than ten thousand times more courage than working in a big city. Of course, I later understood that this is not courage, but compromise and cowardice. Of course, these problems also exist in big cities, but you have at least a chance to avoid them. If you have enough ability, you can still control your own life.

Many times, we are all too old and then define life. For example, think that the house, the car and the money represent the whole of life, and think that others should think like this, otherwise it will be immature and not content, or emphasize the mediocrity of the mediocrity, and equate "the mediocrity" with the "flat". However, many people have never thought about it. You think that good is not necessarily what others want. We impose what we think is good, not necessarily care, but invasion, whether or not you are under the banner of "for you." . Such a thing can be seen everywhere in this country, but small cities seem to be more obvious, and at the same time, there is nowhere to hide, and there is no way to argue. The more people who are unable to choose their own life, the more ignorant they are, the more they like to laugh at those who have the courage to withstand the pressure.

Utopia that is not realistic enough will always lead to ridicule. However, if you are in your twenties, do you want to see a Utopia, or do you see yourself when you are 60?