Don't communicate with excessive utilitarianism

Wilde once said: Everyone has alienated me, and he is still by my side. Such a person is my true friend.

As the saying goes, Hedong for 30 years and Hexi for 30 years. People naturally like to make friends who seem to be valuable now, but no one knows what the fate of tomorrow will be. We are alive and need a long-term vision. Today's contribution, often to the next day will be rewarded, everything must be faced with a normal heart.

Peter is a lawyer in a law firm in the United States. Because of the difference in his thoughts, the stock he invested in was almost at a loss. He received a letter when he was nowhere to go. The letter was written by a company president: he was willing to transfer 30% of the company's equity to him and hired him as a lifelong legal representative for the company and two other branches. He can't believe his eyes.

He went to the door and the president was a middle-aged Polish native of 40. "Remember me?" asked the president. Peter shook his head. The president smiled and took out a crumpled five-dollar bill of exchange from the drawer of the huge desk. The business card on it was printed with the address and phone number of Peter's lawyer.

Peter later remembered such a thing. It turned out that 10 years ago, the president queued for a work card at the immigration office. When he was discharged to him, the immigration bureau was closing. At the time, he still had a $5 application fee. If the work card is not available that day, the employer will hire another person. At the time of his hairpin, Peter handed over $5 from behind and they exchanged business cards with each other.

After the president had money, the first thing I wanted to send this money order was, but I have never done so. Because he came to the United States alone, he experienced a lot of cold and hardships. These five dollars changed his attitude in life and changed his fate. Therefore, it did not send out this 5 dollar bill of exchange, because the 5 dollars are no longer measurable by money.

In the story, Peter bought the original stock for 5 yuan and got a good return. The so-called "putting papayas and reporting them to peaches and plums", when friends have difficulties, or because of certain special circumstances, we should not use excessive utilitarianism to communicate with each other, and should face with peace of mind. Maybe we are not only getting friendship.

Zhao Di used to be the general manager of a company. At the end of each year, gifts and greeting cards are like snow flakes. However, when Zhao Di retired, only one or two gifts were received, and a New Year’s card was not received. In the past, visitors have been inexhaustible, but this year there are very few.

While he was feeling lonely, a former subordinate came to see him with a gift. During his tenure, Zhao Di did not pay much attention to the staff member. This person’s visit did not make him feel moved to tears.

After two or three years, Zhao Di was hired as a consultant by the original company, and he naturally reused the staff. Because this staff member can visit the door without interest, he left a deep impression on Zhao Di.

Friends who are mutually supportive when they are frustrated are real friends. When a person loses power, he is often ignored by everyone. The people who have been close to him are away from him. If you extend a helping hand and interact with it, he will be grateful and remember forever. Saying an enthusiastic word to a lost person is like giving a support to a person who will fall down, so that he can get support and relief.

People have some habits and like to move closer to some excellent people. It seems that you can make a relationship with someone who has a good career, and you can use the other side's momentum skillfully. However, friends who are handed over in this situation often cannot develop reliable relationships. Because everyone is smooth and happy, everyone wants to get to know each other and wants to make friends with them. On the one hand, he can't take care of him. On the other hand, he is not willing to become a true friend with the people who have made him.

However, if you interact with those who are temporarily unpopular and become good friends, it is totally different. Just like buying stocks, you buy the most valuable original stocks, just like the reason to burn incense to the "cold temple." The average person burns incense and chooses a temple that is incense and strong, so that this temple is more effective and can shelter all aspects of its success. The more incense-filled temples, the more attractive the pilgrims. In fact, the behavior of people tending to be flaming is the same as the act of burning incense. They always move closer to those who are in power and those who are popular. Of course, the same people are flattering the knots. Different ways must also try to pull a little relationship, just like people go around. Thousands of mountains and waters have to go to a famous temple to burn a musk.

The world is changing, people can't be smooth, frustration, and losing power are inevitable. When people are in trouble, it is the test of people around them, especially friends. People who are away from you when they are in trouble may become passers-by, sympathize and help you through the difficult times, which may be remembered for a lifetime. The so-called rebellious friends and suffering friends are often produced in difficult times. The friendship formed at this time is the most valuable and cherished.