The end point is far away

I wonder if you have read such a sentence - "To treat today as the last day of living, to live like tomorrow will die." This statement is said to encourage people to cherish the present and invest in life. But I wonder, if I know for sure that I am going to die tomorrow, then I will be lying in bed at home today. Friends and relatives are willing to talk to me best, no one cares about me, I eat and drink, read a book to watch TV and play games, especially to spend the last day. I won't learn to do good things on the last day of "live" - ​​just 24 hours left, why bother?

For a while, I can’t tell if I’m lucky or unfortunate. Anyway, I have a leisure time, I can do whatever I want, I don’t have to think about my livelihood, I want to do it. So I’m going through a period of “cool” and “颓"The days." Then I looked back and found that although I was "happy" in the "every moment" of that time, overall, my satisfaction with that period was not high. Why "innumerable good moments" can't be integrated into "a big happy time"?

After about ten years, I realized that one of my basic assumptions - "happiness = positive emotions × time" is wrong. If happiness is the ultimate pursuit of human beings, then as long as there is enough supply of drugs and keeping the brain always high, you can achieve a "good life." But the truth is, a good life is not just happiness. The father of positive psychology, Seligman, found that true happiness contains at least five independent elements. In addition to feeling positive emotions, he must be able to concentrate on investing, have good interpersonal relationships, understand the meaning of his existence, and be able to have Achievements.

Many of these five elements require long-term investment. The short-term "optimal optimal solution" may be to pursue happiness, but the long-term "optimal optimal solution" often requires sacrificing short-term pleasure to achieve long-term goals. Taking "achievement" as an example, Angela Lidakworth, a psychology researcher at the University of Pennsylvania, proposed a formula, "achievement = skill x time." Time is the most critical variable – in general, as time goes on, skills will continue to improve. If a person insists on investing 10% more time per year than the average person, he will increase his skills by 10% every year. After ten years, his achievement is at least 6 times that of the average person. It is considered to be outstanding.

And in the face of long-term goals, you can maintain enthusiasm and persist in the ability to invest, and Duckworth defines it as perseverance. Duckworth found that perseverance often has nothing to do with talent. Many people who are sensitive to understanding, but do not have the quality of perseverance, the result is often wasted their talents.

Perseverance for one month is not perseverance. The true perseverance is year after year, and we work hard and constantly invest time and energy until we achieve distant goals until we reach the ideal future. What this kind of persistence needs most is a kind of belief. We firmly believe that efforts can bring about improvement. We firmly believe that investment can be exchanged for return. We believe that life is a long marathon. Although the end is far, it will arrive, and tomorrow, it will not be its own life. The last day.