Child, I allow you not to be good, but you are not allowed to be uncultivated

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Many children are playing with sand while on vacation by the sea. The daughter trotting all the way, ready to snatch other people's toys, I grabbed the hand that my daughter had just left and pulled her back.

My daughter is already a "human fine", and when she sees her mother, she pretends to cry. She is determined that her grandmother will blame me and blame me.

Sure enough, the mother said: "You cried your child, and it is not the child's possessive desire to grab the toy. This is the child's must-have period, no need to make a fuss."

The daughter looked at me and showed her smug look.

I said that I saw you at the age of three. Do not magnify the child's shortcomings, but do not condone the child's bad habits. Not being beaten, but not being able to beat people. This is the minimum education of a person.

2

The mother did not say anything. On the way back, I told my mother a story:

A disabled boy is not inherently sensitive. In addition to physical defects, it seems that the brain's development and ability to accept new things are weak. Each of his exams is the last of the class.

However, he is the best in the class. When he was a child, he had many friends. When he was out in the autumn, there were always many students rushing to help him push the wheelchair. In the middle of the country, every birthday, many students gave him gifts, they invited him to attend the birthday party of the classmates.

why?

First, he is very polite to whom. He knows that his lover also loves himself. He knows how to be polite when he accepts and is polite when he refuses;

Second, he is not greedy. Not greedy for other people's love for him, not for other people's toys, he will not feel that he is disabled and should enjoy more love. He often goes to group activities in a sneak peek, and those who are late are saying, nothing, I will come over slowly. He knows how much he should get and how much others should get;

Third, he knows how to share. Every time the mother brought him the candy, he would bring it to the school and give it to the classmates. It would not necessarily be expensive, and it would not be delicious, but the feelings established in the sharing are very valuable.

Mother said, I know who you are talking about. I met him on the road a few days ago and saw him chatting with the uncle at the door of a security room. Later, the uncle at the door of the security room said: Such a quality boy does not have to worry about his livelihood. Wherever he goes, there are people who are willing to help him.

This boy does not have the excellence of the traditional definition, can not become a career elite, can not achieve any so-called achievements, and can not get a decent job. But because he is a person, that is, he is educated, so that he is not so lonely.

A person's ability determines that a person is flying high or not. One's education determines that a person is not far away.

3

I know the principal of a training institution. He had done a research before at school.

He found that in a class, if the student has a good enough personality and is pure, then he will be able to gain a place in the society when he grows up. Those children who have achieved excellent results but are somewhat isolated may be outstanding in school. After the society, some of them become top scientific research personnel, and the rest are unknown. Some even have not found a good job.

Because you have been in the community for many years, you have found that removing some of the people with outstanding intelligence and superior ability does not need to compete with the emotional intelligence. Most people need to fight for the character. This character is inseparable from his growing environment and family education.

If the appearance is the first business card of a person, then the education is the armor of a lifetime.

I also have the feeling that in my school days, those who were kind, polite, honest, brave and decisive, regardless of their excellent grades, were all mixed up after entering the society. And that part of the character is eccentric or screaming, and the mouth is thick, and many years later, it is still the original appearance.

In fact, after our generation became a parent, most people will inadvertently leave their parents' old ways and put most of their energy into the ability to train their children, such as when they will speak, when will they walk, when Will write, when will count. But what we can't ignore most is to correct the habits that children shouldn't have at every stage—violent, robbing, and savage.

I especially agree with one sentence: whether it is poor or poor, but it is the most important for education.

Children are never our crafts, but we have a responsibility to make our children a educated person. Does not smooth the child's personality, nor does it condone the child's shortcomings. One day in the future, I hope that she will live in the world. It is a happy thing for herself, and a beautiful existence for the world.