Into a circle to forge yourself

Meet a girl and read a private university in Beijing. After arriving in Beijing, she has been taken care of by her cousin.

The girl's cousin is a rich businessman's girlfriend, the girl often followed the cousin soaking, ramie, and gradually learned to drink and play the scorpion. For her, Beijing is the colorful light in the bar, the resort's hot springs and the noisy mahjong table. The girl settled in the cousin's circle with peace of mind, envied the life of her cousin and her girlfriends, and hoped that she would meet a rich man someday. In the minds of this 20-year-old girl, there are only two ways for a girl who is not well-off, either to marry a rich person or to have a rich person, otherwise the days will not be able to go on.

Another girl, also a North drift, gets more than 2,000 pieces of salary a month and rents it in the basement with her fellow villagers. In addition to work, the girl likes to go to the zoo's clothing wholesale market to find cheap clothes, and then to use the second-hand computer to watch movies in the rental house. In such a life, the girl becomes very pessimistic and always complains that the day of the North drift does not see the future. I once chatted with the girl. I suggested that she learn something to upgrade herself so that she can prepare for the promotion. After listening to my suggestion, the girl was particularly grateful. She told me that she usually stays with the fellows. Everyone often uses their hometown to chat. The most talked about is the hometown, and then where can I buy cheap clothes, no one has ever Tell her how to improve myself.

The experience of the two girls made me very emotional and began to review my life circle. Because I found that sometimes the circle is really important, it can determine your attitude towards life and the direction of life. For a while, I felt particularly busy and not very efficient at doing things. After observing, I found that the ones that I used to interact with each other were "poor and busy people". Everyone likes to drag and drop the microblogging, but puts the important things in the end. For a while, I was eager to buy a house, but at the time I did not have the economic strength to buy a house. Later, I realized that my own mentality came from the group pressure in the circle, because everyone in the circle emphasized the importance of buying a house, and I was also affected in the subtle.

In this way, the most effective way to change your life direction is to find a correct circle, then find ways to integrate and try to absorb the positive energy. In the Beijing art circle, the famous Joe Knife has just become a North drifter. He is still a decoration worker. He is also a migrant worker who is similar to his own position, but Joe Knife is not willing to drink and play cards with other people to kill time. He wants to be an art artist. So, he began to go to Songzhuang, where the literary youth gathered, and he met a group of friends who were engaged in art, and tried to paint the decoration. In a few years, Joe Knife really started the company and started the artist.

Maybe not everyone has the courage to be like Joe's knife, trying to get close to the kind of person he wants to be and to integrate into his ideal circle. However, we must at least learn to look at the circle in which we are in, and see that the people in the circle are not the kind of people they want to be. If not, we must decisively leave, do not greet the little sense of security that the small circle brings to ourselves, but banned the idea that it should be infinitely broad. In addition, we can also create a virtual circle for ourselves through the Internet, pay attention to the people we want to be, look at what books they read, what movies they watch, what they usually do, and then try Living like them, maybe getting closer to your dreams faster.