The dreams that have not been realized are mostly lost to the inability to persist and halfway.

A girl asked me: Xiaomu, your way of writing, how did you get to today? Have you ever experienced a failed submission? More?

I can't help but want to laugh. Because I saw myself many years ago. For example, if the submission fails, the manuscript is smashed, and the stone sinks into the sea, for example, if you don't know what you should write—hey, should you turn to do something else, maybe writing this road is just a luxury for me? At that time, I also thought in my heart countless times: I don’t know if the writers who “finally write their heads” have had such a difficult time.

Unfortunately, if I am now facing myself more than ten years ago, I still can't answer those questions. Because for more than a decade, I have not been so sure, so it is clear. Many times, I just crossed the river by feeling the stones, and I was uneasy and cramped. Many moments, my mind flashed the idea of ​​"give up."

But every time, it just flashed. The next day or a few days, I said, as Scarlett said, "Tomorrow is a new day." As long as the sun rises, it can still be full of hope. Therefore, I can only say to the girl, the most sincere suggestion I can give: I will encounter bottlenecks when doing anything. This is my advice to you.

When I talked about it, I recalled the experience of painting in the past. When I was in the middle of the country, I had two years of summer vacation and I studied painting. In fact, I have no painting talent at all, I paint very poorly, and my interests are not as strong as others. There is no concept at all in my mind about sketches.

However, what a teacher said at the time gave me an impression that it was too deep.

He said: Most people will encounter bottlenecks during the process of learning to paint. Originally, I felt that there was progress every day, but suddenly one day, I was lost , I wouldn’t paint, I don’t know how to draw it... If I break through this bottleneck, there will be advances that are soaring; if it’s not broken, it won’t There is progress, and hard work and hard work, but also in the same place, so many people gave up.

Over the years, I feel that myself and the people around me have been vaguely verifying this bottleneck theory – whether in learning or at work , it seems that there is always a time when you realize the so-called dreams. Long or short bottleneck period - boring, helpless, feeling that you are doing nothing, entangle yourself whether you should continue to go...

Finally? In the end, more than 80% of the people gave up, and the so-called initial dreams were left in the sad memory.

Therefore, we always envy those who have realized their dreams. We envy them, to live the life we ​​have thought of; to do what we like, to have everything we like – they are the legendary warriors who have realized their dreams. So why do most people not realize their dreams, just "live for life"?

Because it can't be persisted, because it is halfway.

When we first entered the society, we were all full of blood, innocent, and rushing toward the dream. We have enthusiasm, dreams, and strength, and we think that we are as strong as we are. However, in the face of bottlenecks and setbacks, many people began to look around and look uneasy. These half-way are the majority, and they will find a good reason for themselves - for example, the dream is broken in the hard reality, such as always raising a family to talk about dreams... Don't find a reason, you are just If you can't keep going, just admit it.

I said that once the power of persistence collapses, people will have self-doubt. After entanglement, I began to excuse myself, find a reason that the public can identify with, and let myself "get out of the body." This is simply a no return, the dream is not realized, the reality is not reconciled, a heart is always hanging in the air - full of regret, chest resentment, swaying, difficult to be practical.

I used to hesitate, I used to question myself. I have been in a long time, I am caught in the entanglement of dreams and reality. I don’t know how to behave myself. However, even after experiencing this, I found myself still very passionate about my career, so even in the most difficult times, I insisted on it.

During that time, I even went to work as a part-time editor of a real estate website: in order to earn extra money, let the economy be more relaxed, so that I can write what I want to write. When you want to do something firmly and firmly, you will try your best to go on.

I remembered the experience of pulling grass in the yard a few days ago. At the beginning, I was standing, bent over, and used both hands, feeling that there was unlimited strength and confidence. But after a while, I had a backache and a slower movement, and I began to blame myself for asking for it. Suddenly, I remembered that when the children were young, when the farmers pulled grass in the fields or did something, they were all squatting. So I also kneel down and pull the grass, both hands still open the bow, and it seems to go slow, but in fact it has been moving forward, because it is practical and effective, and it will last longer.

We often encounter difficulties and setbacks, and feel that the road we choose is not easy to go, we want to give up, we want to turn, we want... After the initial excitement and enthusiasm, the rest is endless. Frustration and pain, helplessness and entanglement. At this time, it is advisable to let go of those who are so far-reaching and give up those long stories. It is not a great and far-reaching thing to realize the dream, but it is like plucking grass at this moment, which can be achieved through a little bit of the most common accumulation.

The road is not good? Then go slower. Even if it is slower, you are also moving forward, right? Go slowly, work hard, don't give up, choose to go to the blood and try it, then you can see the other side of success .

Not everyone can realize their dreams. But I believe that persistence is an indispensable reason.