You feel wronged because you don’t have enough

A few days ago, my friend asked me to go out to eat. When I saw her face, I knew that I must have been mad at it. If I didn’t eat a few mouthfuls, she began to gnash her teeth and said, “If I am a newspaper leader in the future, The first thing to do is to dismiss the director of our department. Every time I write a big manuscript independently, he will try his best to list a name before my name when I publish it. This time, one The report won the national award. They didn't do anything. They gave up their names and I endured it, but even the bonuses were evenly divided! I don't wait for the old lady!"

A friend of twenty-seven years old, working for four years, diligent and diligent, and the treatment of the day and night, is no different from the college graduates who just interned: being signed, awarded, and shared. When I faintly remembered college, I also encountered this situation when I was internship in a magazine.

One day, the editor called me to the office, pointing to the article that was originally written by me but was named by someone else. "This article, what happened? Why didn't you have your name?" I was wondering though How did the editor know that it was my article, but still smiled and said, "Is it an intern, shouldn't it be like this? It is okay to write the name of the predecessor. He taught me a lot of things." The tone was willing and willing.

The editor also asked, "Don't you want to know why I know this thing?" I smiled. She said, "Your article is very style, different from everyone in our magazine. No one in this article. I believe that it was written by a person who has been a leader in the middle level for more than ten years. It is written by a young man with a new born burdock who is not afraid of tigers. I can smell the temperament." My heart secretly said, "What about that? It’s not about the name of someone else." She seems to see my mind and continues to say, "For various reasons, many magazines have this problem. You think there will be some The grievance is because of your weakness, your experience is not rich, and your ability is not strong, but you must not understand this as willingness. You are accumulating strength. When you become a well-known journalist someday, the resources in your hands, you When you have enough ability and your experience, you will not be treated again. Therefore, if you want to protect your own achievements, you will try to run forward. When you pull out others for several kilometers, don’t You will no longer 'hidden rules'. "

Although I did not continue my journalist career later, I am very fortunate that when I first entered the workplace, some of my seniors told me these things. She told me that the reason why others are suppressing, sarcasm, satire, and even using you are Because you still don't have the power to match expectations; you feel wronged and unwilling because you don't have enough.

Imagine that if we have one hundred apples and others steal twenty, we can still have eighty; and if we only have twenty apples and others take twenty, we will be empty. In this society, it is difficult for us to stop others from "not stealing twenty". In many cases, all we can do is increase our reserves. Increasing the amount of reserves does not mean that we will discard the "twenty". After all, they are also our labor income, but once we are robbed, we will not squander the food, and we will not feel that the sky will fall.

One way to love yourself is to keep your mood in a relatively stable state. You are not happy, not angry, and you are arrogant about what you are fighting for. Anyway, you have enough energy, who will not care. This is a small profit, as the rich will not be arguing in front of the vendors for a few dollars. It is also an ability to let yourself have the capital to stay out of things that you don't want to be arrogant and don't want to entangle.

Sometimes, we may not be able to understand how much the lethality of "grievances" is caused by "not enough", whether it is "not enough" at the spiritual level or in material terms.

Two friends fell in love from the middle of the country, and even the university did not let them separate in different places. Everyone around them believed that they would hold hands for a lifetime. However, after graduating from college, the boys struggled for their own musical dreams. They did not say anything. They earned that money and could not sustain their lives. They could only rely on the monthly salary of more than 3,000 yuan for girls. The girls have complained, and they don’t dare to spend money on taxis when they go out. They can only go shopping and can’t buy them. The company’s colleagues have changed their hairstyles more than ten times, but she can only simply comb the pony tail. But she can bear this, I feel that it is appropriate to support her boyfriend's dream.

Until one day, she found herself pregnant. She knows that according to the family conditions of the two people and the current living conditions, the child appears too late, she can't, she can't afford the child, even if the child is fortunate enough to be born, they can't give him even a little better life. .

So she sneaked off the child with her boys. But this unborn life is no longer lingering in her life, as it has set a benchmark in her judging system, and everything starts to be based on it. Therefore, the efforts of boys no longer have the taste of dreams, and the rest is nothing but nothing and irresponsibility. Everything in his eyes has changed in her eyes. More often, she is thinking: Why should I live a life without being able to take a taxi, not buying clothes, or doing hair? Not because you are not making money!

After countless times of quarreling, the two men broke up without hesitation. Friends said that they would not even be able to do anything, and the enemy would hurt each other, but they would not even look at each other.

Is it because "doesn't enough money?" How many people who have vowed to live and die, when it comes to buying a house or buying a car, turn around and go to another person to go to the future. No matter how strong the feelings of the two people, if the party feels "not enough" continuously and unequally, then the person's grievance will be fermented, a little fluffy until the feelings of the two people are empty. .

I don't think that when the money will be enough, I don't believe that people who don't have money will be separated. I just believe that when a person's grievance reaches a sufficient amount, everything in her eyes will deteriorate, and she doesn't want to.

One day, a girl asked me a question that seemed a little funny. She said that she studied hard and went to the examination room. The roommate who didn't study at all asked her to give her the answer. She didn't want to, but she was afraid of hurting her friendship. She could only give it, but she felt that she was wronged. She asked me what to do.

I didn't tell her how fair the society is, or if I have to believe in hard work, I will definitely get something like this. I won't let her manage things that I can't grasp. I just say: You have to make yourself have enough.

If you only have the answers to the questions in the exam room, then they take it away and they really take it away. Maybe the score is higher than you; you have something they can't take, such as continuous learning ability; For example, in addition to learning professional knowledge, including interpersonal skills. You feel wronged, many times because they take away the only capital that you are only proud of.

Later, my cousin who was in college complained to me that "the final exam is coming. Everyone is fighting for the night. I am afraid that they will not learn from them. I will learn what I have learned in a few days." If this is the case, it would be unfair!" I told her the same thing. If you usually study, just learn a few questions on the test paper, then you should be wronged.

So, when you feel wronged, don't waste time trying to see if the world is fair. It doesn't do anything. It's useless to sigh and cry. Let yourself have enough and keep yourself strong, so that others who want to be unfair to you seem to have no way to start. What's more, as you have enough, they will naturally quit your life, because you have already taken them too far, they can't catch up with you.

Ok. Run faster, don't be on the same level as them.