Regret after her husband and his wife quarreled

Dear wife:

We have had disputes in these two days, especially last night, we had a fierce quarrel. The main reason for this is because you think that I am not diligent enough to find out and finish the chores you think must be done. I admit that I am not diligent enough, at least not as good as your father, doing my housework. I often don't find problems, or I don't finish it in time. At the same time, my temper is still not good enough. It is very unaccustomed to your kind criticism and the way of working in a hurricane. It is always unacceptable and leads to disputes. Moreover, every time you analyze this situation, I always point out in good faith that it is because of my parents, there are genetic problems, and there are education problems. Considering my father’s death, you let my mother take it with tolerance. This responsibility. And you will also inform my sister of my latest situation in a timely manner, and launch all efforts to save me. I really appreciate you, without your tolerance and the selfless dedication of your parents, we will never have a happy life today, of course, you will repeat, emphasize, contrast and other methods, let me remember, just like Remember that without the Communist Party there would be no new China. After careful consideration, I found that our disputes have many serious consequences:

First, your parents are very sad. Now they live with us. They are the actual masters of the daily management of this family. We ignore the existence of the elders and unscrupulous quarrels. It is a serious disrespect for the elderly and a serious provocation against authority. Their body is not very good, there are high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes and so on. Never stimulate them.

Second, Yun is very scared. Our words and deeds are affecting children, and we are role models for her study. Think about my experience, the reason why the character is so urgent, the temper is so violent, because the parents' temperament, temper, and deafness, they formed their own character. Now, as soon as we are in dispute, the rhyme will cry and feel scared. I really don't want the rhyme to suffer.

The third is to affect family stability and development. Quarrels will affect the relationship between husband and wife, will affect the health of the body, will affect the quality of life, especially women will soon aging, leading to serious endocrine disorders, resulting in worse temper, forming a vicious circle. All families with a harmonious relationship are healthy families, successful families, and harmonious things. The families who are arguing constantly have basically no career, no physical fitness, no mental depression, and children’s education will fail. In short, the family and everything is going well, the family is not going to do everything.

Thinking of such serious consequences, I decided to change the former:

The first is to strengthen self-cultivation. Learn to be tolerant, learn tolerance, and learn to understand. Criticism of a wife must be understood as love and concern. Although, the wife's method can be more reasonable, for example, the blast can be changed into a drizzle. However, we must resolutely support and support the way the wife decides to take. The wife does not intend to do the father-in-law, and the two adults are always rushing to do it. We must carry forward the initiative and set off a wave of rushing housework.

The second is to adopt a flexible and versatile approach. Once the wife wants to criticize, we must let the wife deflate in time, and can take measures such as avoiding its sharpness and immediately rectifying. In short, we must be patient and at the same time correct.

The third is to actively conduct psychological counseling. It is absolutely impossible for a wife to change her own unique personality and a very attractive personality. Therefore, I must adapt to the character of my wife and grandmother, and love the character of my wife and grandmother. If you can't stand it, you can watch the film and television works of the anti-Japanese genre through psychotherapy, and learn the tenacious style and will by learning the advanced deeds of the revolutionary pioneers.