Beware of the five "psychological traps" before the college entrance examination

Beware of the five "psychological traps" before the college entrance examination

Trap one: demanding perfection

Typical representative : Tan Xiaoliang is a man of the school. He is not only handsome, but also has a good relationship. He is also a famous science genius in the school, the darling of the teacher. In short, he is synonymous with perfection in the eyes of classmates.

Tan Xiaoliang’s requirements for himself are also quite high and almost harsh. He asked his science to be the first in the whole year; there should be no traces of mistakes on the test papers; the questions answered by the teacher must be correct... However, the mock exam before the college test broke the perfect Tan Xiaoliang. Due to the poor state of the exam, Tan Xiaoliang’s science scores ranked fourth in the grade. This kind of achievement should not be his science genius. In order to regain the first, Tan Xiaoliang, who pursues perfection, made a more demanding decision: every sentence of the teacher must be remembered in class; reading must be unforgettable; questions that cannot be answered by others, others cannot answer...

Psychological analysis : In the high school sprint stage, the failure of many students is also related to the excessive demanding perfection. A person sets a goal of 100 points and requires himself to get 100 points from time to time. He may need to face failure more often. For high school students, the result of too many failures leads to loss of self-confidence and low enthusiasm for learning, thus inhibiting the effect of learning. Moreover, from the research results, the learning effect does not become better with the increase of pressure. Therefore, it is necessary to leave a moderate room for development and make yourself a little more relaxed. Don't let perfection be your own stumbling block.

Solution : “There is no gold in the red, no one is perfect.” Students can adopt a “following the natural” attitude to deal with the demanding perfection. As long as you work hard, you will have a clear conscience. Don't pay too much attention to this matter because you don't have the first thing, and force yourself to be anxious about it. Psychological energy is too persistent in frustration, not only does not help to solve the problem, but will form a vicious circle. The correct attitude is: let it be natural, positive attitude, what to do, and do the mechanics. The result of the matter is not obtained by force, but is a matter of course.

Trap 2: 嫉妒

Typical representative : Chu Chu has a very glorious resume, from the national small to the middle school are class cadres, the results are also very good, there is always a praise around. She is a neighbor and a good friend with Xiaoxi at the same table. However, since entering the third year of high school, Chu Chu began to feel some sense of loss, and felt an inexplicable threat. Because Xiao Xi’s academic performance began to slowly surpass her, especially in the recent two consecutive mock exams, Xiao Xi was higher than her more than 20 points, and she felt that her heart was not a taste. Slowly and slowly began to alienate Xiao Xi, no longer go to school together and go home, but also ridiculed Xiao Xi, even asked the teacher to change seats...

Psychoanalysis : You are one of the innate emotions of human beings. No matter how good you are, you can't avoid someone surpassing you in some way. Only by poisoning and poisoning, turning 嫉妒 into a successful internal drive is the best move. When Xiao Xi surpassed himself, Chu Chu might have to change his mindset.

Solution : The biggest harm to the individual is manifested in the negation of the self, and the self is the core part of the individual personality. When the attack comes, please protect yourself and see your excellent place, don't easily deny yourself. Learn to compare, if you can't afford shoes, can you wear shoes? Think about those who don't have legs, you are actually so rich. Finally, you must have effective catharsis. You can find a classmate or class teacher, or a parent or a friend, and say enough about it. This is an important way to say goodbye to your mentality.

Trap 3: Repression

Typical representative : "Wang Zicheng, looking at the woman into a phoenix." Chen Ran's mother is no exception. Chen Ran’s performance is OK, but Chen’s feelings are not good. If the grades are almost the same, maybe the parents will lower their requirements. If they score better, the parents can completely believe in themselves and will not worry as much as they are now.

Yesterday at the dinner table, my mother asked me if she couldn’t bear it. She had a big fight with her parents. Afterwards, Chen Ran felt sorry for his parents and regretted it. Didn't the mother ask a few more questions about his own learning? Why are you so unsettled? The pressure on the number of ingredients in the conversion, Chen Ran's mood is even more heavy.

Psychological analysis : Many parents pay attention to their children's achievements, but ignore the communication with the children's minds, especially the cultivation of psychological quality is less concerned. Although it is also a child, it brings endless pressure to the child. Parents and children will not be relaxed under this pressure. Maybe we all need to find a channel so that we don't make precious family relationships a burden.

Solution : Release repression and actively communicate. Parents kept asking questions that we didn't give them enough information. Open your mind, tell your parents about your real situation and ideas, and discuss with them. If there is more communication, there will be less misunderstandings; if you understand more, the relationship will be better. In the intense review of the third year, it is inevitable that you will encounter difficulties in life, thought, and study. Chen Ran should open his heart and tell his parents or close teachers. As an elder, they have a rich life experience, will do their best to help you, open your crux, their encouragement and love will make you linger and gain momentum.

Trap Four: Burnout

Typical representative : Zhang Xiaoli, who is ambitious, must be admitted to Zhejiang University. In order to achieve her goals, she has set a strict learning plan for herself from the beginning of her third year of high school, and she is required to complete it every day. The classmates who read this plan book said that this is a devil's plan, too harsh. However, Zhang Xiao believes that to become a person, you have to suffer hard.

Under high-intensity training, her grades improved at the beginning. However, the good times did not last long. After the sprint period, Zhang Xiao found that he became more and more “lazy”, and the contents of the devil's plan book could not be completed recently. What she can't accept is that she has always been distracted. She has always been distracted in her class. She can't remember the content she wants, and her spirit is not as good as before...

Psychological analysis : Long-term high-intensity learning and excessive stress can lead to fatigue, anxiety, depression, decreased learning ability, and even physical and mental exhaustion. This phenomenon is called burnout. The competition between the study and the college entrance examination is becoming more and more fierce. Under the pressure of high pressure, Zhang Xiao gradually loses the joy of learning, and more and more students feel frustrated, anxious and depressed.

Solution : 1. Be good at adjusting the mindset. After long-term and high-intensity study, it is necessary to pay attention to adjusting the body and mind, arrange time for moderate physical exercise and entertainment activities, adhere to a regular life, and achieve a degree of relaxation. It is recommended to ensure one hour of physical exercise every day, promote blood circulation, enhance physical fitness, and maintain a good state to prepare for the exam.

2. Select typical exercises to overcome review burnout. Select representative exercises, improve the problem-solving skills and accuracy through methodical training, optimize the problem-solving ideas and methods, and avoid sea tactics.

3. The objectives set during the preparation period should be properly pressured. Appropriate pressure can fully mobilize the individual's potential and be the driving force for achieving the goal.

Trap Five: Fragile

Typical representative : Li Shi is a high school student in an ordinary middle school. His usual grades have been good, especially in mathematics, which is very popular and appreciated by mathematics teachers. Unexpectedly, Li Shi's unsatisfactory results in the recent "one model" examination in the city's unified. I always feel that I am nervous about the mathematics teacher who is doing mathematics papers now. The fragile Li Shi has not dared to participate in the "two models" in the city, fearing another failure. He felt that the pressure before the college entrance examination was great, and in pain, he began to lose sleep...

Psychological analysis : Students with excellent grades have come all the way, always immersed in the atmosphere of success and the appreciation of others. On the one hand, they promoted them to be better, on the other hand, they also put a heavy burden on them. Once there are setbacks that they can't overcome, they can't stand it and have an overreaction. Is strong and confrontation, waiting for a new round of Nirvana or immersed in pessimism can not extricate themselves, how do you choose?

Solution : Improve your ability to resist setbacks. You must know that every person who is successful will experience many failures and setbacks. It is impossible for people to encounter some difficulties in their lifetime. The key is to maintain a peaceful attitude. Secondly, we must calm down and seriously reflect on the causes of the problems. Is there a blind spot in knowledge or a need to improve psychological quality? In view of the good relationship between Li Shi and the math teacher, it is best to communicate with the math teacher, tell the teacher about his psychological fluctuations, and seek the support of the teacher. In addition, participating in some sports, more communication with classmates, proper listening to music, etc. can alleviate psychological pressure.