High school needs goals and actions

High school needs goals and actions

Teacher Yang:

Hello! I am a high school student. I was informed by a friend. I am a little troublesome, I think I am sick.

This is the case, I hope you can listen to me patiently - let's start with our country. I was in the key class on the first day. At that time, I really wanted to enter the science class. After a semester effort. In the second day of school, my entrance was like the top 50 in the whole school, so I entered the science class as I wished, and I learned to play with the classmates of the new class. But then I made friends, and I started to learn to go online, saying that the white point is to play games. There is nothing in the beginning of the year. Just take a break during the day to play. Because I am a pass student, I don’t want to spend the night outside, so I dare not play with them very crazy. When I was in the third grade, I was familiar with the "underground Mark Six". My family is also deeply affected, and my parents always buy what research for this period. If you lose, you blame me, I blame you, but also divorced. At that time, I was very annoyed, and I started to have a night, and soon I became fascinated. Later, my studies were in ruins.

In high school, I paid money into a school in our city. I feel very fresh and energetic in Gaoyi. At that time, the teacher said that he was in high school to test the university. At that time, the students couldn't even pick up the two books, and they all yelled for the test, and I was no exception. I became a squad leader in Gaoyi and entered the student union. When I entered, I was promoted to the “generational” minister of the Labor and Welfare Department. The second year of my second year of high school election was also successful, and I was very interested in learning. Because the foundation of the country is not very solid, so the results are not very satisfactory in one year, and the high 2 did not enter the school's science and technology classes. High school, I don't know what happened to me, no memory, it seems to be white.

When I am bored, I like to write a diary. Looking at my previous diary, I found that there are several situations in my diary: 1. "Oh, distracted, this time must work hard! Why can't I do it by others! Come on!" 2," Going to the night, forgetting what you said. Really shouldn't, well, forget, come on!!” 3, “I didn’t work hard this month, I’m going to put my own words on the fart! It’s not right. Be sure to cheer up next month!” 4, I will make a study plan for myself every time, but the date of the diary I read, I found that every time I write about once every two or two weeks, it is irritating, so my plan only works every time. I insisted on it for a week or two, as if I had never made a plan before, my high school seems to be like this...

In the third year of high school, August is the most memorable. Also changed to the class teacher changed, this class teacher is one of the very good teachers of the school chemistry teaching, very prestige, so I am very motivated in August. I learned the first-line mode at 3 o'clock in the whole month, but September was worse than August. It faded again in October, and later, until now. I took time off to study at home because I didn't listen to the class and wanted to make up my basic knowledge. But when I look at the book every day, I get bored. I read TV and go online. Just one day. I am completely speechless to myself. In fact, I am very interested in the principles of physics, knowledge and other science knowledge. The teacher said that the new knowledge I listened to was relished. But now I am tired of books, tired of doing problems, picking up the books, as soon as I see the subject, I will have a kind of touch and give up the psychology. Interested in knowledge but not reading. Make plans once and for all, but give up once and for all. I don't want to give up reading, but I don't like to read books. I feel that my heart is very contradictory, I am sick! Really. I don't know what happened to me. I used to tell myself that this is to beat myself. Read a book, stick to it! But I fell down at the desk again and again. Because I didn't read a book one day, I told myself to insist on going to bed before going to bed, but I got up in the morning. I wanted to escape, I didn't want to see the book, so I didn't read the book for a day, many times, so I didn't believe myself. I don't know which sentence I said from my mouth is true, and which sentence is false. I don't think I am stupid, I am in other ways. For example, basketball skills, playing chess, playing the flag, playing strategic games, I can win. I don't think I have an IQ barrier! But I fell down again and again in front of my studies.

There are still two months left in the college entrance examination. I now know that the previous college entrance examination dreams are abolished. But I know that this society is now cultural, and to acquire culture is to study! But I am tired of reading the psychology, how can I get the knowledge? Time goes by, I grow up day by day. If it is like this every day, I am better to die. Anyway, this way, the ending is very obvious...

I have seen a psychiatrist a few months ago. He told me a lot, but now I have forgotten it. There are a few times when I vaguely remember that he said that I did not insist on learning, and gave me a solution: 1. Make plans for yourself. Look at it every morning and evening. Complete the task to reward yourself and not punish yourself. 2. Tell your family's trusted friends and relatives to let them supervise you.

Oh, don't say that. Now I ask you for help to prove that it is useless to me. I think that he is just a doctor for survival. He said some theory. Anyway, the head of the game was at the time.

A friend said that you are a good teacher who is selflessly answering psychological problems for his students. I believe in friends, so I believe in you too. Can you help me?

This classmate:

Hello! I want to say that your psychiatrist is not wrong. What you lack is that there are no specific goals and practical plans. More importantly, you cannot control your own goals and plans. So I also give you the following suggestions:

First set yourself a goal of "getting a hop". For example, if your total score for the exam is 450 points, then the next time you set the target is 480 points or 500 points, and then assign the added points to the specific subject according to the learning situation of each subject, thus forming each The department pursues the goal, and then according to these goals, the corresponding action plan is implemented step by step. As long as we have established a clear goal for ourselves, and “timely and steadfastly follow our own will and plan to live, to seize the time, to concentrate on what we should do, and to be effective,” When we fall down again and again, the situation will be alleviated or disappeared; when we have achieved the goals we set and achieve results, we will be very happy and happy, and naturally we will feel that our life is full. There is passion.

Secondly, write out the actions and efforts to achieve this goal in the form of black and white letters. This is the monthly, weekly, and daily action plan. For example, every day, after completing the homework of the teacher, you must finish reading. How many pages of textbooks in which or two subjects, and a few exercises in these pages, etc., and arrange a sequence, when to do anything, and so on.

Third, link the actions that are immediately put into the completion of the project with happiness, pleasure, and happiness. For example, if we study the cultural curriculum, if we take the “five to” of learning—eyes, mouth, ears, hands, The heart is - as a matter of happiness, pleasure and happiness, then we will experience the enjoyment of happiness, pleasure and happiness in the process of learning; if we regard persistence learning through accumulation, a habit is regarded as incomparable happiness. , pleasant and happy things, then we will experience happiness, pleasure and happiness after completing our own study plan every day. Therefore, I want to tell you here: as long as we link the good and the good at the end with happiness, pleasure and happiness, and link the work halfway with pain and boring, then the scene of “falling down again and again in front of learning” will be effective. contain.

Fourth, write down your study plan in black and white and tell it to classmates, friends, teachers and parents, so that you will feel that there are countless pairs of eyes supervising yourself, and then prompt yourself to act and follow the steps. plan.

Fifth, consciously strengthen the behavior of completing the project. For example, after you complete the study plan for the day, you must give affirmation and praise. For example, today I do so many homework, I can't think of my efficiency so high. Today, I have completed so many homework assignments, and I have learned a lot of knowledge and even learned more than others. This is equivalent to increasing your own emotional and happy emotional experience, while also improving your self-confidence. Repeated every day, in less than a few days, you will truly accept learning as a happy thing. Once you persist in this way, you will be exchanged for the habit of learning with passion and confidence.

Sixth, in the success of learning an important law says "You are not what you imagined, but you are what you think", it and Edison's famous saying here "one person is what he thinks all day... ...how could he be different?" This means that everything about a person comes from what he thinks. Everyone's mind is so magical, what information you enter, and what it produces. What you enter into your mind is to achieve excellent results through your own best efforts, then your mental system will rise to strengthen your thoughts and behaviors, and let you develop in the direction of excellent results, then you will Energetic and confident, try your best and work hard. Of course, success will follow you to your actions.

Seventh, check your plan completion before going to bed every day. If you finish the study plan for the day, you must give affirmation and praise. For example, I have done so many homework today, I can't think of my efficiency so high. I have done so many homework today, and I have learned a lot of knowledge and even learned more than others. This is equivalent to increasing your own emotional and happy emotional experience, while also improving your self-confidence. On the contrary, give yourself negation and punishment, and immediately fill in the unfinished plan. Repeatedly every day, in less than a few days, you will develop the habit of completing the project step by step.

Eighth, I firmly believe that after hard work, I will succeed. Psychology has a theorem of "self-testing prophecy", which means that when one believes that something is going to happen, we will actively seek out and find positive information that meets our expectations, and the positive Information will give us a strong confidence, and our actions will become more active under such confidence, then everything we want will come as expected in our solid actions.

Ninth, let yourself be aware of the consequences. For example, the result of this is that you can't take the university → develop a systematic, critical, creative thinking ability → ruin the future of my life and guide myself to think rationally This can also achieve the purpose of improving self-control ability.

Tenth, the reason why you will produce "falling down again and again in front of learning" is because you feel that studying hard at this moment will be more painful than learning hard in the future, so you have a very frustrating emotional experience. If at this time you turn "to work hard at this moment, it will be more painful than learning hard in the future" and become "when you study hard at the moment, you will learn to be happy later than in the future." Then suddenly you feel that taking no action will be more than delaying. You are suffering. At this time, once you are happy to act and complete your own plan for the day, you will enjoy a very happy mood.

The eleventh, there is a idiom called "breaking the boat", since you have chosen the third year to succeed, then you have to make a determination and make every effort to invest in the current practical action! If you think so skeptically, you are actually choosing to escape! Now you are the most critical: the first is action; the second is action; the third is action! To be honest, self-improvement and hard work are not something you can think of and think about. If you really want to achieve self-improvement and hard work, you must let yourself invest in actual action! If you scream for self-improvement every day, and scream for hard work and not to act, such a person can not only help the Adou, but also become the burden of others and make people look down. Here I will tell you the story of a cold bird: Whenever the cold moment of the night comes, the cold bird shrinks and the body is frozen and cold, and says, "Oh, hey." Hey, I am freezing and freezing, and I will take a nest tomorrow." However, whenever the sun comes out, they fly to the sheltered shelter of the sun to sing "the warmth in the sun, the warmth in the sun, the sun shining on me, better than the warm nest." I forgot to take care of the nest, and I have been crying in the cold wind for a lifetime, which is annoying.

I believe that you are not a self-deprecating, voluntarily depressing person. I also believe that you will be "strickenly and strictly according to your own will and plan life from now on, from time to time, to seize the time, concentrate and high. Do what you can do efficiently."