Senior Parents' Top Task: Decompressing Children

Senior Parents' Top Task: Decompressing Children

As the college entrance examination approaches, huge pressures are coming to the children, often causing psychological abnormalities. Such as anxiety, loss of confidence, suffering from declining efforts, etc.; resulting in abnormal physical and behavioral disorders, insomnia, headache, inability to read books, and students' opinions. These problems must not be underestimated. If they are not solved well, they will directly consider the results of the college entrance examination. Parents are the first to punish their children and reduce stress.

Decompression for children is not an easy task. Parents are required to learn and explore in practice. Here are some of the practices I have summarized. I hope I can give my friends some inspirations:

Parents establish their own image

In the face of tremendous pressure, parents will be nervous and even vulnerable. But letting the heart be anxious and fragile, there must be no performance in front of the child. On the contrary, it is more calm and self-confident than ever to let the children feel a sense of ease and strength from your body. Thereby alleviating their own pressure and increasing confidence in overcoming difficulties. On the other hand, if parents pass on their own anxiety and vulnerability to the child again, it is easy for the double pressure to knock down the child.

On the eve of the college entrance examination, I am catching up with my physical condition. It is not very good. Sometimes I feel very hard to talk, but I still have to face the pressure. In the face of one problem after another, sometimes my mind will be very anxious. But whenever I go to see a child, I seem to have changed someone. It is always refreshing, high-spirited, confident, and powerful. I cheer for my child, cheer for my child, and let my child see my body. Any discomfort. In short, every meeting with the child is an inspiration to the child.

Let the child release bad emotions in time

Timely confiding in the heart of anxiety, nervousness and other negative emotions is also a release of stress. Relevant expert research results: If the candidate can fully release the bad emotions before the test, the degree of tension during the test will be significantly reduced. But many children do not believe in their parents, preferring to be in their hearts and not to talk to their parents. This requires parents to care more about the child, truly understand the child, let the child feel that you are his trustworthy friend, and can give him a strong backing of confidence and strength. In this way, when he encounters difficulties, he will naturally treat you as an object he confides.

On the eve of the college entrance examination, under the pressure of pressure, my son had a conflict with his classmates because of a small matter, which plagued him for not reading the book for a week. We observed the child's irritability, but did not know what the reason was. Through active guidance, he made clear the importance of "talking" and the role of "family synergy". He tried to confide to us. Of course, we are patient. While listening, naturally he will actively enlighten him, and at the same time help him find a solution to the problem, so that he can open his mouth, disappear, and relax. He tasted the sweetness of "talking" - so in the two months before the exam, he had a phone call with us almost every day, telling his feelings, and of course, we would be relieved and encouraged. In short, the child can finally take the exam easily, and the previous release played a big role.

Help the child to dilute the difficulties and solve problems

On the road to the test, the child will inevitably encounter difficulties, such as physical discomfort, fluctuations in performance, etc., which will cause emotional anxiety. Because of the pressure, children often exaggerate the impact of the difficulties encountered on the college entrance examination, which leads to deeper anxiety and a vicious circle. In addition to patiently listening to the children's complaints, parents should mainly do the following: help the children to ease the difficulties, relieve the pain, and solve problems.

For example, under the influence of stress, children are prone to insomnia. I can't sleep at night, I can't read a book during the day, my child will be very anxious, and I think that insomnia will have an adverse effect on the college entrance examination. The child will be more anxious and will increase insomnia. This requires parents not to comply with the child's anxiety, but also to be too worried, nervous; at the same time, to minimize the impact of insomnia. You can tell the child: "Insomnia is nothing, not terrible. As the pressure increases, the intensity of learning increases. Most candidates will experience it. Insomnia is also a normal thing; medical experts have studied, one or two. Sustained insomnia for a month does not have a substantial impact on work and study. Moreover, with psychological relaxation, exercise, and reduced learning intensity, insomnia will be automatically relieved after self-regulation, so don't worry too much." Once the difficulties are diluted, the psychological burden of the child will be much reduced, the pressure will be reduced, and it will help a lot to restore normal sleep.

In short, no matter what difficulties the child encounters, parents should not mess up their feet first, try to dilute the difficulties as much as possible, and actively enlighten the children, relieve the pressure on the children's hearts, and help him finally overcome the difficulties.

A key to open a lock, the method I said may not be suitable for your child. But I want to remind parents that the child's performance is important and the psychological is also important. Only by maintaining a good psychological state can the test be properly played. Therefore, I hope that parents pay attention to their children's psychology and care about their psychological feelings while paying attention to their children's achievements. Especially in the period before the college entrance examination, the child is under great pressure from many aspects, and you need to resolve it.