Let the college entrance examination lose with the wind

Let the college entrance examination lose with the wind

The announcement of the results of the college entrance examination is followed by "a few happy couples." For the candidates who lost the college entrance examination, disappointment and depression are inevitable. For teenagers, psychological self-regulation and resistance to stress are usually inferior. Adults, therefore, self-psychological adjustment and parental help at this time is very necessary.
Candidates "three steps", out of the shadow of loss, Hu Xiong said that each time after the results of the college entrance examination, the candidates and parents go to him at the peak of psychological counseling, many candidates who consulted still have depression, anxiety, Symptoms such as sleep disorders.
He suggested that the candidates who lost the college entrance examination "three steps" out of this special period:
The first step: face the reality. Some lose candidates, the results are not for anyone, but also afraid of others mentioning, so the attitude of avoiding is unscientific. If the reality cannot be changed, go and accept it. But "God closed the door, he will leave a window for you." In the real world, there are many people who have never made a college but have made extraordinary achievements.
Step 2: Correctly evaluate yourself. The college entrance examination is only a talent selection process. There are accidental factors. A failure does not mean that you have failed.
The third step: find the right way to catharsis. It is recommended that candidates can talk to relatives or friends or professionals when they have bad emotions, and they can also take encouragement and comfort. They can also take forms of expression to the environment, such as going out to travel, doing sports, singing and singing, etc., and also adopting a sublimation method of venting: "Sorrow" is power and strives for new goals.

Hu Xiong said that if it is still unable to self-regulate for half a month and cannot get out of the sadness, it is necessary to consult a professional psychological clinic for help.
Parents, please do not give the child a second psychological injury after the children's college entrance examination failed, three common types of parents:
Type 1: Direct blame. "How do you test it?" "My face told you to throw it away!"...
Type 2: Deliberately escaping. I am afraid that my child will be sad and will not mention anything about the college entrance examination.
Type 3: Over-concerned. I was afraid that the child would happen because of the failure of the college entrance examination. I found that the child’s mood was low and he ran out. “Children, are you okay?” “You don’t say it in your heart!”...
Vice President Hu said that these types of parents will create invisible pressure on their children, increase their psychological stress, and easily cause secondary psychological harm to their children after the failure of the college entrance examination. The correct way is to face up with the children, not to hide and not render, to treat the college entrance examination as a chance to exercise the child's mentality, create a child's perseverance and mature.
The understanding of the family is the greatest emotional support for the child to get out of the psychological shadow.

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