High school students: don't be afraid and avoiding problems

High school students: don't be afraid and avoiding problems

Teacher Yang:

Hello! Recently, I feel that the director is not motivated, I don’t want to study, I am confused about life, I don’t know the direction. I don't want to be decadent. I want to take good care of high school, but I am afraid of the society I will face in the future. And there is a feeling of suffering and suffering, I feel that I usually work harder. But during the exam, Nobel was stunned and everything seemed to be gone. And I feel that I usually remember to be strong again, but I will forget it when I take the exam, so I seem to be a little worried about my usual study. And I can't always follow my own plans, can't do what I should do, always love to drag on later. I always have the strength at the beginning, but I can't stop it. I want to restrain myself but I am always confused. If you face problems, you will be afraid and will escape. I want to change myself, please help me.

This classmate:

Hello! First of all, I want to tell you about the task of the students - the task of the students is to move from childhood to adult society. In other words, the task of the students is to learn and use knowledge through various scientific and cultural knowledge, to cultivate the ability to cultivate innovative thinking and to be happy, happy and happy to survive at this meeting; to participate in interpersonal and social practice, learn more Organize and utilize the wisdom and strength of all people to cultivate the ability to transcend self-adaptation to the society; make friends, learn to be with the same sex / opposite sex, and love and be loved, and then develop and cultivate the right to fulfill obligations, responsibility, happiness, and care. Such friendship/family practice ability. To accomplish these tasks satisfactorily, the most important thing is to learn to succeed in thinking - to do everything to their own maximum effective efforts, tough, tenacious, step-by-step work to a goal - and tough, tenacious, confident and other qualities.

Secondly, what I want to tell you is - what we do, don't always think about whether it will succeed, what we have to consider is how to succeed. Therefore, when we are doing things, we must have a sincerity, and we will not hesitate, do not hesitate, and work hard regardless of the result. Success or failure is completely handed over to fate. In fact, before we do anything, we don't know what will happen in the future. How can we arrange fate? All we can do is to work hard and work hard. So I said that fate is only responsible for shuffling, and playing cards is our own. To do anything is to say that it is just a card in our hands. It is you who play it, not it, you, so we have to play this card with a happy and happy attitude.

Once again, you said, "I can't always follow my own plans, I can't do what I should do, I always drag it to the future." This is because you feel that you will do the pain that you will do in the future. You will push what you are doing now into the future. If you take a different angle to treat, that is, it is pleasant and happy at the moment, and it will be painful in the future, then you will immediately go into action. In addition, if you can't execute your own plan, you can ask yourself two questions. First, what should be done and play, which will make me more happy, which will make me more famous. The future, which will make me have a miserable fate? The second is what I want to do at this moment in order to achieve long-term happiness and happiness. This is the instinct that we will avoid and ask for rational choices. When we overcome the fun and efficiently do what we should do, we will have a happy and joyful emotional experience and experience. . This kind of happy and joyful emotional experience and the repeated acquisition and accumulation of experience will become a guide for us to grasp our actions and lead us to success. So as long as we insist on acting with sensible choices and constantly gaining emotional and joyful emotional experiences and accumulation of experience, we will develop a habit of persistent and unremitting efforts to achieve goals, plans, wishes or ideals.

Below I will attach my own "How to cultivate perseverance" to the following, for your reference:

Perseverance is a habit that can be cultivated.

1. Plan and review: Develop and implement a practical plan that is full of time outside of work; check the implementation of the plan [reward for completion; end of analysis reason: unrealistic -> correct other -> review, punishment】

Make a practical plan for the course or work you are doing. This plan is best filled with time outside of class or work, and then executed step by step. Check out your plan for the day before going to bed every night. If you complete the plan for the day, give yourself a reward – either mentally or materially; if you don’t complete the plan for the day, ask first. Why are you a few, whether the plan is unrealistic or not done according to the plan, it is unrealistic to make corrections, and it is necessary to review or punish yourself if you are not acting according to the plan. This kind of practice will form a habit over time, then you will achieve the goal.

2. Make one or more people who can encourage you to act according to the plan and goals.

What I said earlier is that you control your own behavior when you are rational. If you don't want to control yourself in sensibility, we use rational goals as if we can't solve the problem of sensibility. Then we may wish to ask for a study and Life is a serious, step-by-step friend to help, so that he can supervise the implementation of your plan, and he can follow his good habits.

3. Relax, develop and complete a small project, write a diary, review diary

If the first two items can't be done, then we will try to find some things that we feel comfortable doing in life, such as doing sports, talking to friends, etc., and then making some difficulties for ourselves. High-small plan, use your own efforts and perseverance to fight for it, if you can't finish it, find out why. At the same time, use a notebook to record this psychological process to promote your own thinking and help yourself move from irrational thinking to rational thinking. Over time, he will become your spiritual wealth, turn it when you are confused or difficult to control yourself. Come out and see, it will help you improve your self-control ability.

4. Guide yourself to think rationally

When you are in a bad mood and feel uncomfortable or relapsed when you are under the rational situation, you should first realize the consequences. For example, the result of this is that you cannot take the university → employment. Difficulties → “Destroy the future of my life” and guide myself to think rationally, so that I can achieve the goal of improving self-control.

Finally, for the question that you always "have always started to fight, and then you can't stop, want to restrain yourself but always mess", first set a proper pursuit goal for yourself, this goal should be specific, such as the next exam in the original On the basis of the total score increased by 50 points, etc., and then this score is properly distributed according to the learning situation of each subject, thus forming a small goal of each subject.

1. According to these goals, the corresponding action plan is implemented step by step. As long as we have established a clear goal for ourselves, and “time and time firmly and rigorously according to our own will and plan to live, to seize the time, to concentrate on the things we should do, and always concentrate on what we should do,” Too impetuous, too much thinking, the situation of not being able to study with ease will be alleviated or disappeared; when we have achieved the goals we set and achieve results, we will be very happy and happy, naturally we will feel our own life. Passionate and passionate.

2. Write out the actions and efforts to achieve this goal in the form of black and white letters. This is the monthly, weekly, and daily action plan. For example, you should finish reading the daily work of the teacher. How many pages of textbooks in which or two subjects, and a few exercises in these pages, etc., and arrange a sequence, when to do anything, and so on.

3. Link the actions that are immediately put into the completion of the project with happiness, pleasure, and happiness. For example, if you study the cultural curriculum, if we take the “five to” of learning—eyes, mouth, ears, hands, hearts To - as a matter of happiness, pleasure and happiness, then we will experience the enjoyment of happiness, pleasure and happiness in the process of learning; if we regard persistence learning as a habit by accumulating a habit, Pleasant and happy things, then we will experience happiness, pleasure and happiness after completing our study plan every day. Therefore, I want to tell you here: as long as we link the good and the good things to happiness, pleasure and happiness, and link the work halfway with pain and boring, then our hearts are always too impetuous, too much to think about, and can not study with peace of mind. It will be effectively curbed.

4. Write down your study plan in black and white and tell it to classmates, friends, teachers and parents, so that you will feel that there are countless pairs of eyes supervising yourself, and then prompt yourself to take action and follow the steps. painting.

5. Consciously strengthen your own behavior of completing the project. For example, when you have completed the study plan for the day, you must give affirmation and praise. For example, I have done so many homework today, I can’t think of my efficiency so high. I have done so many homework today, and I have learned a lot of knowledge and even learned more than others. This is equivalent to increasing your own emotional and happy emotional experience, while also improving your self-confidence. Repeated every day, in less than a few days, you will truly accept learning as a happy thing. Once you persist in this way, you will be exchanged for the habit of learning with passion and confidence.

6. In the success of learning an important law says "You are not what you imagined, but you are what you think", it and Edison's famous saying here "one person is what he thinks all day... How could he be different?" This means that everything about a person comes from what he thinks. Everyone's mind is so magical, what information you enter, and what it produces. What you enter into your mind is to achieve excellent results through your own best efforts, then your mental system will rise to strengthen your thoughts and behaviors, and let you develop in the direction of excellent results, then you will Energetic and confident, try your best and work hard. Of course, success will follow you to your actions.

7. Tell your classmates, friends, teachers, and parents about your study plan, so that you will feel that there are countless pairs of eyes supervising yourself, and then prompt yourself to take action and follow the plan to complete the project. Check your plan completion before going to bed every day. If you finish the study plan for the day, you must give affirmation and praise. For example, I have done so many homework today, I can't think of my efficiency so high. I finished today. With so many homework, I learned a lot of knowledge and even learned more than others. This is equivalent to increasing your own emotional and happy emotional experience, while also improving your self-confidence. On the contrary, give yourself negation and punishment, and immediately fill in the unfinished plan. Repeatedly every day, in less than a few days, you will develop the habit of completing the project step by step.

8. Believe in yourself, after hard work, you will succeed. Psychology has a theorem of "self-testing prophecy", which means that when one believes that something is going to happen, we will actively seek out and find positive information that meets our expectations, and the positive Information will give us a strong confidence, and our actions will become more active under such confidence, then everything we want will come as expected in our solid actions.

If you feel that you are still not possible, then I suggest you take a look at the "60 days to improve the success of 400 points", I believe you will be inspired