Pain is the best growth

People are afraid of the pain in their lives, and feel that it is grinding the mind and hurting the human skin. It is best not to encounter it for a lifetime.

Before you encounter any pain, people sometimes try to imagine what to do after suffering a bone pain, and even foresee it: Well, if such a thing really happens, then I will not live. However, when the pain really comes, most people will eventually pass.

A girl told me that she was separated from her husband not long ago. When breaking up, the other party said that if one day you no longer wait for me, it means that you have really grown up, your life will be great, and it will be more exciting than mine. Although she is very distressed, I hope she will be happy as soon as possible, but I really don't want to see a story similar to the girl's infatuation waiting for the return of the husband. From the perspective of my personal self-interest, I feel that this is the blow, but the opportunity for the girl to grow up.

The pain is the best growth. As long as you use your heart to "use" the pain of this bone, don't let the tears flow, let alone the heart hurts.

Don't feel the injustice of fate, why do you want such a difficult thing to happen to yourself? If you really believe in fate, then read it from another angle: everyone has to do different homework in this world, God may put the best Things are given to you, but it is also possible to give you the hardest things, and when you overcome this most difficult thing, life has a new height and latitude, the world becomes wider, you can also change Be more transparent. Think of fate as a course in the university. Every test is a credit. When you have completed this course and got credits, your life will enter a new stage. Sometimes, your inertia is too big, too much willfulness, and you are faintly aware of your own problems and defects, but you don’t take the initiative to take a course. So God will remind you in the most cruel way. It takes your favorite person away and tells you, dear child, it's time to grow.

The story of the girl, and the many similar stories around us, tell us that no matter what the environment, no matter who we are with, maintaining the independence of personality is the most important and fundamental principle. At this point, There are no exceptions. Everyone should live for themselves. No one is coming to this world to achieve success. Parents should not live for their children. Children should not live for their parents. Men and women should not live for the other half. Can love someone. I borrow a simple English that I have always liked. Saying: I love you, not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I'm with you. I love you, not because of who you are, but because of me. Who became who I was with you?

The true lover, the one who makes you take the initiative to become better, ta will not polish your self-confidence, will not indulge your laziness, will not ask you to let go of dignity; the real lover will let the two The world is getting bigger and bigger, will grow up with you to develop new characters, will drive each other to spur each other; the real lover is the one who makes you feel, 1+1>2. The perfect love and marriage are reserved for those who are ready. When an independent personality meets another equally independent personality, they appreciate each other and attract each other, and there is no one who loses the focus. The moment on the other side.

Looking for the center of gravity of life, the "heart of the heart" of that life is something that everyone should do, either early or late, or sooner or later. And this focus should not be the outside world, it should not be the other half, it should not be its own work, it should not be an individual or something. A person who makes you love to die, a job that makes you wholeheartedly engaged, a hobby that makes you want to stop, these are just the addictions that divert your attention, and can't talk about the center of life.

In my opinion, the focus of life is the peace and happiness that comes from oneself, and the understanding and mastery of how to get this peace and happiness. Analyze yourself, understand yourself, treat yourself, and train yourself, which is the way to gain a center of gravity. Develop new hobbies, make new friends, do things that you are good at and love, or read a few more books. In short, spend more time on yourself, slowly, and the center of gravity will be found. Never stop talking to yourself, use your life to understand that you know yourself and spend the rest of your life visiting the world.

When negative emotions and negative perceptions come to mind, don't rush to resolve and rush to overcome. Don't choose to distract yourself for seemingly unbearable pain. In the end, the pain will still be there. Try to coexist with the pain, just stay with it, and then you don’t know a certain moment of a certain moment, you will suddenly find that the feeling of depression is slowly getting smaller, and your inner energy is slowly getting bigger. When the energy is so great that it can overshadow this repression, it is the moment we grow up.

Forgiveness is another important responsibility. Forgive and hurt, forgive those who hurt you, forgive the environment that caused you to hurt, and forgive your own failure. Heavy resentment and self-willedness are obstacles we set ourselves, hindering us from getting calm and hindering smooth growth. Only by letting go of all kinds of bags that are not necessary to take the road, can we go faster and climb higher. Don't want to let go of these shackles. I think that throwing it away is not to explain to your past. You don't need to use your mind to deceive your heart. Finding the true happiness and peace is the best explanation for yourself.

No one can grow up for us, and growth is a compulsory course for everyone's life. Be a brave person, be a person who is not afraid of hurt, because sometimes hurt is the best gift, it makes us stronger.