If you want to suffer from yourself, you can applaud

A while ago, a former colleague who had not met for a long time asked me to eat, called Xiaowen. The family is in the north, and after graduation, one person works in Guangzhou.

In the impression she is a very thin and vulnerable person, often because of the variety of life and work. In the face of excessive work pressure, you will cover your face and cry. In the face of the harshness of your boss, you will cry silently. When you are free, you will often complain to us about the dissatisfaction of family and friends. Everyone will comfort her at first, and later I found that comfort can't be played much, but I just listened to it silently. Perhaps because of these negative energies, her friends left in the company are very poor.

We made an appointment to meet at a restaurant very close to my home. On the same day, she came very punctual. When I saw her, I was very surprised. She was very different from Xiaowen in the impression. The corner of her mouth was always full of smiles. It’s so beautiful that even the conversation becomes easy. I only know in conversation that she is getting along well with her colleagues. She works hard and learns every day, and she is promoted by her boss. Everything seems to be beautiful.

When I was separated, I couldn't help but ask her what changed her. She was very embarrassed to smile. After I experienced it, I knew that I used to be too emotional, and I had to suffer from it.

On the way home, I fell into meditation. In fact, we have all encountered this situation. People like Xiao Wen are equally vulnerable, and life can be seen everywhere.

I don't know if you have had such a moment. When you open your mobile phone late in the night, you can't find a person who can talk. Or when the mood is not good, I opened the dialog box of the good friend, knocked a lot of words, hesitated when he slammed the Enter key, and then deleted one word and one word, and did not know this back. Whether the process of deletion is called growth.

But I began to understand that everyone will have the gloom and the troubles of this age, why bother to increase energy for people. Even if your heart is surging, you must begin to learn to be alone and strong. Temporary comfort can indeed give people a short-lived warmth, but it can also make the fortress that has been built for a long time collapse, making the scene more difficult to control, and even making the situation so bad.

Not every fall has someone holding you up, and it’s not easy to lead the way to goodness. Simply letting go of it will only make us vulnerable. Faced with the calmness of life, it needs to accumulate slowly. The attitude of a strong and optimistic life is not born with it, but it needs to be undertaken alone.

To be a man, you must first look at yourself, but don't look too much. A lot of complaints and complaints are too heavy to not only add boring to yourself, but also to others. Standing in the distance to see that you are not so bleak, not so much embarrassing, rather than exaggerating the facts to win sympathy, it is better to relax the mind to let it fade, then next time other people's understanding and understanding you will know more grateful and indifferent.

Let the weakness and self solitude, time and life will teach us to heal the wound. Buy a bunch of flowers when you are in a bad mood; watch a movie with popcorn; or listen to an old song that you haven’t heard for a long time; really want to cry and cry at home, always find the most suitable way to Resolve emotions, your heart can slowly return to softness, and those who are gloomy and windy, don't be afraid, they will always pass.

It’s not a big deal to use tears and fragility to escape the problem. Even if it’s daring to accept and face things that you don’t want to face, it’s only later discovered that it’s a stepping stone on the way.

Life is such a thing that is self-aware and self-confident. If you want to suffer yourself, you can applaud.