There is only one kind of failure in the world, that is, always want to be someone else.

How much we are eager to succeed, how much we are afraid of failure. When I was chatting with people, I was most afraid of talking to the end. The other person suddenly asked, I am not a failure. I always don't know how to answer.

What kind of life is a failure? I missed people who shouldn't have missed, sold stocks of consecutive daily limit, 30 years old, and so on. It sounds like it's related to failure, but I can't use such a serious word of failure. At most, it is a temporary disappointment.

In this way, there are not many people who can really afford the word failure. Yes, not much, but sometimes, maybe you and me.

As a person with fear of flying, for a while, I especially admire those on the road, watching the interview of Taiwanese actor Zhang Zhen. The most impressive thing is not how he plays a role, but he likes to go to Europe and the United States to develop tourism. In remote towns, people in towns may have never seen an oriental face in their lifetime.

It is a good feeling to be the first Chinese to set foot on a certain land. I also want to be such a person.

So I tried to overcome my fear of flying, and I also paid attention to a pilot of China Southern Airlines in Weibo, and often asked him about aircraft safety knowledge. But these are actually useless. Sitting on a plane like a century of pain, only the fear of flying people understand. After the Malaysia Airlines accident, I completely gave up the idea that the world is so big, I want to see it.

It’s harder for others to do it. It’s harder to go to heaven than to go to heaven. This is a nowhere to be reasonable.

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We often say that we have to work hard, but obviously not everything is worth working hard, especially when our starting point is only that others have, and we don't.

A friend recently struggled to get a second child. She is physically weak. When she was born with the first child, she was bleeding. She was given a critically ill notice. In addition, her child’s health was not good. Her family’s economic conditions were normal. It’s hard to get the child to three years old. I really want to relax. Unfortunately, she found that the right-aged hot moms in the office started to have a second child.

She said that she didn't want to be born, but she felt that others were born. She didn't live, and she didn't seem to be successful. "The standard of success now is not to have two children, it is better to have one child and one woman."

I don't know who is the standard of success, but I can be sure that if a person, because there are others, she has to have it, she must be suspicious of the criteria for success, she does not know who she is, need What, I want to be like everyone else.

Like others, it is a comparison, it is the main source of anxiety for modern people.

It is easy for us to understand that our pain, weakness, and suffering are not glorious, but it is difficult to fully understand others, so we often feel that what others have is exactly what we don't have. A workplace hot mom, out of the hall into the kitchen, there are A4 waist, vest line, every day is beautiful. We were so busy in the kitchen that we saw her state and immediately forgot to cook. In fact, we can also cultivate our body. When we stir-fry, we can also exercise the smart muscles of our body while twirling the waist. One year of beauty card, two years of fitness card, the result is no time to go, anger is easily transferred to work and family, and even family origin - hey, I am so unfortunate, so can not be as perfect as others.

However, in such a cycle, we have not become better ourselves, and we have not become others, but have become an anxious, sensitive, and complaining self.

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The advantages of others should of course be learned. A working woman who always dresses herself beautifully, we can learn how to dress her and see if there is any way to get a working makeup in five minutes.

However, her A4 waist may be born, she said that it is easy to get everything, there may be an incomparably strong support from friends and relatives, she wears a strong suit, because the height is 168 cm, even she may be It’s better than our luck. The latter ones are hers, not yours. You don’t have to work hard, and you definitely can’t work hard.

We are busy every day, how many things we really want, like, or should do; how much we are dissatisfied with ourselves, how much is really necessary to change and ascend, how much is just because others are changing or others seem to be We are better?

When we look forward to changing ourselves, we start from every little thing, become a better self step by step, or brush the WeChat circle of friends who are better than ourselves. Every day, 10,000 voices are asking. Why is it?

Don't think about success too great, and don't think of failure as terrible. The vast majority of us, in fact, are fortunate enough to live a life that is not very successful, but never fails. Have their own small way out, small happiness, small happiness, no big rich and expensive, but there is peace and security, no thrilling, but it is shocking.

We have not become painters, musicians, and writers, but we can also sink a few strokes, sing a few songs, and write a few sentences; we are not great fathers and mothers, but in our children's minds, they are the best moms and dads.

In my eyes, there are millions of successes in the world, but there is only one kind of failure, that is, always want to live like others. If a person is to be himself, he must first recognize himself.

Recognize your limitations and deficiencies, laziness and incompetence. In fact, everyone has such a moment, just someone else, you can't see it.