You didn't get stronger because you have been very comfortable

There are two kinds of people in this world, one is a strong person and the other is a weak one. The strong person finds discomfort for himself, and the weak person finds comfort for himself. To become stronger, you must learn the essential skills of the strong, that is to make the discomfort comfortable.

If you learn this skill, you can do a lot of things, such as overcoming procrastination, fitness, learning a new language, exploring unknown areas, and more. However, many people tend to avoid this kind of discomfort. After all, nothing is simple. It takes a lot of effort, endures a lot of pain, and even makes you bruise yourself. For example, if you want to get rid of the delay, you must set a time limit for the task when it appears, and then do it immediately until the task is completed. But there are all kinds of disturbances in the process of doing it. You have to fight with it. The process must be painful. This discomfort will last for a long time. Until one day you become accustomed to it, then you will not delay. It is. This process is to make the discomfort comfortable and become a habit like brushing your teeth before going to bed.

I used to think that we should make ourselves comfortable, but then I understand that some discomfort is sometimes not a bad thing. In fact, you can learn to enjoy this discomfort. For example, I do some strength training every day. Although this discomfort will not be serious to the point that I hate, but people are like this, we can avoid the difficulties, we can always find excuses. . I began to tell myself that since the pain and discomfort of exercising muscles does not affect anything, I would rather stick to it and see what happens. So, I developed a plan form to make this unsuitable for my life and form a habit. Whenever I finish 15 pull-ups, I will write 15 in the column of the pull-ups. Every month I will change the paper and summarize the situation last month. Inadvertently, I have done 1000 pull-ups in a few months.

In the same way, we can train our habit of getting up early. In fact, there is no difference in getting up and getting up for a few minutes every day when the alarm rings. However, the former will be a little discomfort, and the latter will be more comfortable. I gave myself a plan to get up when the alarm sounded. As long as I can get up immediately after the alarm, I write +1 on the paper, and now I have insisted on more than 200+.

Later, I found that anything that is a little uncomfortable can be trained. We can turn an uncomfortable thing into a habit, and then you can't live without it. I feel that this little pain is actually a bland life. a seasoning. This thing is made comfortable by discomfort, and good habits are developed in this way.

The specific method is as follows:

Finding something you want to do, this thing will make you a little discomfort, but when you do it, you will gain a lot. For example, fitness.

You can break this down into 1000 separate events, making sure that each event is within the level of discomfort you can tolerate. You can test the maximum tolerance you have tried to do, and then subtract 20% from this value. For example, I want to do 10,000 pull-ups, then divide it into 1000 copies, which is 10 each time.

Start doing it, and don't force yourself to challenge it as a pleasure. For example, I made 10 today, so there are 999 copies left. In the days to come, I can do whatever I want, anytime, anywhere. As long as I complete these 1,000 events, my goal is achieved.

As your abilities increase, you gradually increase your weight. For example, after one month, you can do 15 and after 3 months, you can do 25. Therefore, 10,000 seem to take 1000 days to complete, in fact, you may be able to get it in 9 months.

The essence of this method is to break down a lot of pain into 1000 small discomforts, then integrate it into everyday life, cultivate into habits, and transform discomfort into comfort.

We can use this method to improve our abilities, change some bad habits, and cultivate some good habits.

1. The habit of procrastination. The main reason why we have to delay is that what we are doing makes us feel uncomfortable. Therefore, our minds produce a variety of excuses and temptations to motivate us to do things that are easier and more comfortable. However, this does not help the task we should accomplish. Sometimes we even become irritable and anxious. This procrastination habit is physiologically the instinct of our biology - tending to stimulate and avoid harmful stimuli. When we define one thing as "uncomfortable", we instinctively don't want to do it, and try to delay until tomorrow. In order to reduce or even eliminate this habitual delay, we will have to pay a lot of pain. However, if we can break this pain into 1000 and become intolerable, then things will become easier. We can make a form called "Beyond Procrastination." Every time there is an idea that you want to delay, you will do it immediately. After completing the task, you will +1 on the form. When you finish 1000+, the habit of procrastination will be eradicated.

2, fitness habits. We don't go to the gym because we feel uncomfortable, but if we consciously let ourselves suffer some discomfort, we will gradually improve our endurance. Once we develop a habit, we will rely on the favorable stimulation that this discomfort brings to ourselves. Make yourself feel more energetic.

3. The habit of reading. People who don't have the habit of reading will see reading as a very painful thing. If you can create a form, let yourself write +1 on it every time you read a chapter. After gradually getting into the habit, change to reading a book and +1, you will find that you can even read 5 books a month. Then reading becomes less painful and becomes a matter of common practice. When you can talk to others about the books you read and your opinions, it will be a very fulfilling thing.

4, the habit of getting up early. To cultivate the habit of getting up early, you must first set an early goal for yourself. And this purpose will make you look forward to coming soon the next morning. If you are a foodie, prepare a hearty breakfast ingredient before going to bed, and wake up in the morning to make yourself a good breakfast. The early morning I set myself was to play for half an hour, which is very attractive to me. So, if I want to get up at 6:30, then I will set the alarm at 6 o'clock, then get up quickly, I will fix my teeth and wash my face when I boot up, then I will have a cup of milk and play the game while listening to the English broadcast. The advantage is that I won't spend any more time playing games. Every day I have a fixed half-hour game, and I won't be obsessed with the game and will delay my study. On the contrary, this habit makes me feel more motivated to get up early. Through this method, I converted discomfort into comfort, making things that were difficult to get easy and highly anticipated.

5, the habit of writing. If you don't write too much, you can't be your own. If you can't tell others, you can't get corrections and feedback, and you can't know what level your point of view is. Writing is a good tool for sorting out your own ideas. It sorts out the arguments in the usual reading, thinks and summarizes into your own words. In this way, the logic and thinking ability will gradually strengthen. Of course, writing is a painful thing. You need to organize your thoughts and organize your language to express them. Moreover, when you are facing the computer, you must also eliminate the interference of various chores, which is also an exercise.