Every corner of the people live a similar life

1. Our life is destined to be mediocre?

A very interesting phenomenon: when I was ten, I looked at the age of twenty, and I hated it from my heart. How old! When I was a middle-aged man in my twenties, I couldn’t help but scream at the heart and numb it.

In the "Dear Jiaqian" confiding mailbox, I often receive such a letter:

A wrote to me, what should I do? In college, I am studying very well, my family is OK, I am always a girl who has been a regular, but what about next? Do a job for a few decades, marry a married child, is this the case?

B wrote to me, what should I do? I just graduated from college. I don’t have any goals in life. I don’t know what I can do. I never graduated from a profession I like, and then I will do a job that I don’t like for a lifetime. Mom forced to go to blind date, exchange for two years, then get married, have a child, live the same life as my parents, is that right?

C wrote to me, what should I do, I have been with my boyfriend for many years, and I have done the same job in the office for a few years. I really want to give up everything to travel around the world. Now my life makes me breathless because I pick up The trajectory of going down, I know with my eyes closed, marrying a child to retire, taking care of grandchildren, is that the case?

D wrote to me, what should I do, from the countryside, for me to go to the city to go to college to owe a sum of money. I finally graduated, but after reading so many books, I really want to go abroad, like my peers, to see the world. But my parents need me, I have to go home to find a job, use youth to survive, and then get married early according to tradition, and give birth to a baby. Living, is that the case?

I looked at my parents, I don’t know how suddenly they suddenly grew up, it seems that they have never been young since I was born. Could it be that when they were born, they were given a function called "definitely ordinary"?

2. People all over the world live in their own "world"

Otherwise, what kind of life do we want to live? "There is a vigorous, rich, and tellable story." is it? So when I was 17 years old, I was determined to leave the house and look at the world. I always felt that the world outside was very big and it would be wonderful. Others are living a life we ​​don't know.

in Macau. When I walked to school in the morning, I often saw a small bus filled with uniformed local children. A bus next to the bus was a car transported by a parent, and a young face that was suppressed by the wind and twisted. There is also a heavy school bag behind it. In her spare time, she earned a small amount of money and gave a local girl a supplementary class. Like the mainland college entrance examination students, she faced the pressure of going to school, and she had a huge acne on her face. When she was in English, she was like a monk.

In the Netherlands. Many Chinese students around are not willing to go out, eat Chinese instant noodles at home, make Chinese friends, go to the Chinese website, and even the group members of the group are Chinese; working is a way of seeing the world, giving a Hong Kong woman a travel company assistant. She fled the crowded Hong Kong, but still lived a Hong Kong-style life in the Netherlands: making friends in Hong Kong, speaking Cantonese, drinking morning tea, picking up a pineapple bag before the afternoon, and playing Guangdong mahjong on weekends.

In Ireland. In a group of European nationality exchange students, as the only Asian, I often see small groups that are grouped according to nationality: the Finnish group, the Dutch group, the Irish group, and the Spanish group. Most familiar with the Spaniards, although they are warm and friendly, they still only make a lot of people with their own country. Many of the Spanish exchange students I know have been in Ireland for a whole year, all day at their own party, English No progress or even difficulty in opening.

In Barcelona. The British people of the same company, although speaking Spanish, once they get off work, have a carnival, or often join the British in Barcelona. They also go to the British pubs most often, celebrating British holidays, talking about what happened in London, and eating is not affected by Spain's unique timetable.

in Shanghai. My parents still lived in a simple life, got up at 6 o'clock, went home to cook at 6 o'clock in the evening, went to bed at 10 o'clock, and met a group of foreigners who worked here to study abroad. Some people stayed here for two years, only I will say hello and thank you, not even a Chinese friend. Most of them are gathered together with roommates who are foreigners. Going to work after work, buy VPN climbing wall brush Facebook, hungry McDonald's or the winners, go to the disco party in the middle of the night.

I have found that people all over the world live in their own "world" and are busy and have little difference, because that is the so-called "life." San Mao once said in "Wan Shui Qianshan Go": "How much is life?" The field is gorgeous, waiting for it, not much, not much, even if you travel, it will be more than ordinary years."

3. The world outside is very exciting and very helpless.

In the end, is there a world outside? This question is asked to the children in the ivory tower, must be forced to nod and full of expectations.

Throwing this question to those who are eager to go abroad in the country must also be nodded more violently. From an early age, we listened to a song called "The world outside is very exciting, and the outside world is very helpless." Just when I heard the excitement, I felt excited. As for helplessness, I tried all kinds of helplessness in real life. It seems that it is wonderful. It’s just a breeze.

But what about the facts? Always remember to leave home for the first time and arrive in Macau. When a person returns to his place of residence and closes the door, the world is quiet and lonely. I realized that life is the same everywhere. The life inside the house is almost the same, bed, freezer, desk. The indoor life is still thought to be in Shanghai. Open the computer, browse those pages or look at it often, open QQ, MSN old high school students are also online, their state is exactly the same as before I left, everything is still in place, but I went to another place Only.

How many international students are disappointed with studying abroad at some point, and even looking forward to returning home immediately?

Even if you are away from home, many people just live in the house and play computer, which is almost the same as domestic days. Several Chinese students who are known are working or in addition to attending classes, they are playing games in the dorms, surfing the Internet, and living a closed life. I remember that in 2005, there were two consecutive Chinese students’ suicides in a Canadian university within three weeks. They are all top doctoral students, but they lack friends on weekdays and always feel very depressed when talking to people. Computers and the Internet are all about life.

Waiting for China time, missing friends, or getting up in the middle of the night, watching them go online to chat; foreigners can't laugh at the funny things. But if you only want to do this, why choose to study abroad? If you come abroad, you want to live in the Chinese circle, live and think in a Chinese way, use Chinese every day and even learn Chinese local dialects, eat Chinese food, and nest in the room on the Chinese website, even if it is last Getting a diploma is just a proof and does not mean that I have lived abroad.

"The usual circle of friends is still Chinese. If you eat, you will go to Chinatown and you are not willing to contact foreigners." Then, even if you go out, it is no different from staying.

4. There is no outside world at all.

A college graduate said that if he wants to go abroad and want to be hurt and go through, that is life, but his parents don't allow it, and his age is in front of him. Now he is at work, meets a group of people who are mixed, and wants to escape.

A boy said that he did not read your article before going abroad, and he felt very exciting and looking forward to it. I have been abroad for two months, only to know that the sweet and sour taste is the clearest.

A good middle school person chose the wrong university. Some of the domestic people who came to the foreign country were not able to read the university and were thrown out by their parents. Every day, this group of people sang nightclubs in central London. Mixed with the graduation.

An ordinary family girl, when I came out, found that people around me were talking about shopping, buying brand-name cosmetics, partying all day, and KTV in foreign countries. She felt that the world was different. Unlike the previous simplicity, she saw a different one. Rich second generation world.

A family is the only child in a big city that is used as a Buddha. When you come out, you can share a student apartment with people. For the dirty kitchen and the best roommates, you can't get along with each other.

Is this the outside world we want to see?

Kind, vicious, rich, irresponsible... The human heart is the same. The world can be divided into countries and cities, but the love story of family and friendship is coincident with each other. In other words, there is no outside world at all. As long as the world of "people's heart" is clearly seen, the world is actually said to be worn, very small.

5. What is the meaning of travel?

Some people go on a trip, and the last harvest is just a few postcards sent to them and the "go here" in the digital camera; some people walk in the next park, but they see the spring, summer, autumn and winter. Life: The old aunt who walks, and the old man who plays chess, see the bleakness and happiness of life.

I have always hated a question: "How many European countries have you been to this time?" That turned into a childhood travel at best, only the excitement before leaving, and nothing to remember afterwards. I removed a few photos in front of the markers and printed them in the window of my home.

The history and humanities of mountains and rivers are objectively there; the hearts of people all over the world are as long as the structure.

The real meaning of traveling or traveling is to re-recognize yourself and re-take care of your "world." A good trip, throwing away all the tedious things in the daytime, the mood is very empty, as far as the helicopter is far-sighted. Give yourself a new perspective and revisit the road you have traveled. Don't think about how many places to go, how far this flight is, take a heart to watch the scenery and a simple goal: Re-recognize yourself on the road and talk to the world inside your heart.

The world is small and people are very big. So a good trip, you will see this vast world, and at the same time see your own small coordinates on the earth. Before we went out, we read a variety of travel books, you can ride a bicycle, you can take a bus, you can be a sofa guest, you can travel around the world without a lot of money. Read the stories in the book, look at the photos, and say with excitement, "This is the real life!" "People must be on the road."

In fact, are there any words in the words “life” and “on the road” that people really think about? After work, I didn’t take the direct MRT. I went to the three buses to go home. I listened to the music along the way, licked the scallion cake, and looked at the traffic lights at the peak of the work. It was also a small adventure on the road. People go hand in hand to the night market, even if a rubber band two dollars, and bargaining with the stall owner, ten minutes later proudly holding the spoils, appeared in the food stalls, sipping Wang Laoji, chewing mutton, you can do in India Things can be done at home, this is the simple life of "life".

To put it bluntly, isn't living just eating and drinking Lazar?

6. In fact, everyone in every corner is living a similar life.

Go around and go back to this question: Do you have to go abroad to be free?

The so-called freedom is the freedom of the heart, open to accept the world, but at the same time maintain its own views. You are locked in the small room, you can still draw a vast blue sky on a small piece of paper. Even if you can't go out to see the world, you have the cherish and love of the grass and the wood.

After all, we don’t all of us can go to “100 places that people will go all the time”, and I don’t think those who “walk around Europe in a month’s backpack” will really know all about Europe. You can sit in the college entrance examination classroom and look out from a window. It is still a vast blue sky, the highest mountain range projected in your mind, the deepest trench, the softest desert.

Then, you are still free.

Moreover, if a dumb falls in love with singing, a blind man falls in love with the symphony, think about it, how much you are more free than them. I often recommend others to pay attention to social news, not to see others live more miserable than us, but to look at this vast world from another angle. Take a look at your present world from the perspective of an irrelevant person. Often, we put ourselves in glass cans without knowing it, you need to look at it from another angle to really see where you are.

Reading those travel books, we are often attracted and feel that we have to go there, but reality does not allow everyone to go. Is it impossible to live in your own life? Moreover, reading these books, as well as the road I have traveled, I found that everyone in every corner is living a similar life.

Humanity without borders, friendship, hatred, dreams, laziness, perseverance, boredom, moving... are all connected.

7. The life you want to live is just an interesting part of life.

The Dutch landlord couple, two people are very old, still love to ride a bicycle on weekends. On weekdays, the man is doing his life downstairs, getting up on time every morning and cooking at night. Women buy food and go to work, and occasionally children sometimes come to visit.

Ordinary family in Barcelona, ​​have some time on the weekend, go shopping in the surrounding towns of Catalonia, soak in the sun, usually men need to get up at 6 o'clock, get off work at 2 o'clock in the afternoon, sit in front of the sofa and watch TV coffee. The woman got up at nine, went to work when she was doing housework, went home at seven in the evening, continued to cook, and the man went to sleep, and she continued to read in the living room.

Shanghai's parents, spring, summer, autumn and winter, the two wake up in the broadcast alarm clock at 6:30, go to work at eight o'clock, get off work at five o'clock in the evening, watch TV after dinner, go to bed at ten. During the National Day of the Spring Festival, I was too lazy to squeeze a personal tide to board a Huangshan Mountain. I went to Hainan Island to eat seafood. Instead, I went for a walk in the downstairs community. On the road, I encountered the old Zhang Laowang blowing the cow, and went to the supermarket to buy the bag of salt. The days passed very well. Cheerful.

However, it is in our hearts that the outside world and the inside world have been built with walls. In fact, there is no outside world at all. With the original baby-like curiosity, to observe and understand, you will find that the world is really too small, unexpectedly there are traces to follow, but what you can't accept is actually very reasonable.

Carpe Diem, live in front of you, live in the moment. Life is so simple that you can look at it at a glance. The whole world will have to work, the whole world will marry and have children, and the whole world is living a simple life. We are clamoring for "not willing to live in the system". It is a limitation. Can you live to be three hundred years old? Can you fly into space? Can you turn a dime into ten one hundred? The vast majority of the heart is infinite. Is it a blessing to be able to have children, be able to get married, be able to work, be able to retire, and live to death? Parents, grandparents, not even a passport, have the right to live happily.

The life you want to live, you are passing, but it is interesting to have not explored it.

Your world is the whole world, there is no outside world at all.

Additional notes:

I have a confidant mailbox. Since I opened it in three months, I have received more than 400 long confession emails, and my peers tell their lives. This article is written for those who have dreams of going abroad but have to stay.

In my readers, many people are desolate and even incomplete. They have to sell their youth and live in a job that they don't like and useless. They also want to go out and want to see the world, their only relatives, and even willing to borrow usury. But the same age, or even smaller, this group of children, unknowingly fell into tears, chose to give up the opportunity to "live their own life." The confession letters written to me are all disappointments to life. They are all complaints about social injustice and even the idea of ​​suicide.

I read too many helpless stories, their desires are bound, and even the future is disheartened. I am writing a text. I can't give any substantive opinions. I can only tell them the world I saw by talking about it, telling them that the world is not that big, and giving them more faith in their own lives. The original meaning of writing this article is to give this group of people.

Yes, the world is wonderful, I enjoy it. I am not negative, but in this era of selling piles of travel books, I am willing to use words to make those who need help better, rather than high-profile to envy others. At the same time, perhaps for those who have "everything", they should reflect on it.

I am an ordinary person who loves to write and is looking for a publishing house. Hometown Shanghai, long live in Barcelona. Twenty-two years old, there is no big deal, big deal, talent. I have only had a dream of writing a book since I was a child, and I have been working hard. This is me - Jiaqian