How can senior parents help their children to get through the anxiety before exam?

How can senior parents help their children to get through the anxiety before exam?

"Anxiety before exam" refers to the feeling that the human brain's physical body is almost suffocating when it reaches near the limit. Its external manifestations mainly include the following aspects: insomnia, anxiety, irritability, disgusting, memory loss, and decreased performance, which are named for their similar altitude sickness.

With the approaching of the college entrance examination in 2019, and the arrival of the model, there are many candidates who have appeared in the "ex-ante anxiety". More and more candidates will appear in this situation over time. It can be said that This is the case for most candidates, but it is only different in weight and length. What should I do as a candidate for parents? In order to help children to pass the "psychological plateau" as quickly and smoothly, this will play a vital role in the preparation of children's test results, and even whether the college entrance examination can play its own level!

Here are some of my insights, for your reference only!

First of all, parents should have a clear understanding of the "psychological plateau period" and understand and accept children in their hearts and actions.

It is only 70 days away from the college entrance examination. Every school and every candidate gradually enters the sprint state. In the final stage of the preparation, candidates can easily enter the “high altitude psychological period”, and the body and mind are relatively exhausted, the brain is not enough, and even There is a blank, the string of learning is too tight, it is easy to make a mistake when it is easy to do the problem, and forgetting about the knowledge point is also a normal thing. Parents only have enough psychological preparations for them to give them full understanding and acceptance because of the fluctuations and declines in their academic performance due to the above reactions.

The specific method is: parents should listen to the children to talk more, and give children encouragement and concern in emotional and action. Some candidates who were in this period were not very emotional and sometimes ignored the parents. In fact, many candidates are not unwilling to communicate, but the consequences of fear communication. After worrying about the words, parents cannot understand and accept. In addition to talking with children about topics of interest to them, parents can make their children feel warm when they have a loving look, pat the child’s head and shoulders, and a child’s affectionate hug, and massage the back every day. And a sense of belonging.

Parents first calm down their minds and then understand and accept their children. It can be said that children are the most important part of the “psychological plateau” as soon as possible.

Secondly, it is a good way to resolve the "psychological plateau period" by letting children maintain a certain amount of exercise every day and appropriate increase in sleep time.

Exercise can not only reduce and eliminate negative emotions, but also a good form of relaxation for brain and mental fatigue. This is the main reason why I have to tailor a sports plan to the children I follow. Even the symptoms of the “psychological plateau” in the children I follow are relatively light and can quickly come out. This is that adherence to exercise has played a certain preventive role. Furthermore, adherence to exercise also has a positive effect on improving sleep quality.

Appropriate increase in sleep is the most direct way to alleviate the "psychological plateau period", but there is a real problem we have to consider, what problem? Some children can't sleep for two reasons: First, children and parents are not willing to take up study time; second, lack of exercise, that is, lack of fatigue. Parents should guide their children to improve their understanding of the effectiveness of learning rather than the absolute extension of learning time. It is very important to encourage children to take some time to exercise every day!

Third, the appropriate increase of rich and colorful forms of relaxation is also an effective way to alleviate the "psychological plateau period."

“The more intense the learning, the more important it is to relax!” This is a sentence that I have often emphasized in my previous blog post. “It’s not good to be fast” is also suitable here. Therefore, according to the child's personal preferences, parents are allowed and encouraged to take some time each day to do what they like to do, such as: watching cartoons and sports news, etc. Parents regularly take the children to participate without What are the risks of outdoor activities, watching movies, listening to concerts, going to the bathing center, taking a bath and so on, are all very relaxing forms, and at the same time, you can have a more relaxed conversation with your children. Why not? Why?

In addition, maintaining the relative stability of the work schedule is also a problem that cannot be ignored. Sometimes it is more important for the child to get tired and get up in time to learn more than to learn for a while or to eat by point.

In short, parents must be aware of the "psychological plateau" in advance, timely understanding of the acceptance of children and take a proactive approach is essential. Among the parents of the candidates who came into contact with me in 2009, there are still parents who have no understanding of the “psychological plateau period” before the children’s college entrance examination, let alone what measures have been taken, resulting in the children’s lack of “psychological before the college entrance examination”. In the plateau period, the children’s play in the college entrance examination will naturally be greatly reduced. This is indeed a regrettable thing.