Psychological counseling before the college entrance examination (2)

Psychological counseling before the college entrance examination

First, one of the reasons for the excessive pressure before the college entrance examination: students' own high expectations, some students who have done their best to achieve better results, seeing the rapid progress of other students feel a potential threat, fear of failure; at the same time, life The ups and downs are underestimated and lack a comprehensive understanding of their abilities and levels of knowledge. When you learn a little backward or have a little setback in your life, you feel powerless and lose yourself.
The second reason: parents' high expectations Some parents always like to use words to force each other: "If you can't go to college, don't enter this home." Some parents use excessive care to pressure, for the children to be able to list the title, accompany The child picks up the light and reads the milk, the poached egg, and runs after running.
When students see what their parents have done for them, can they be indifferent? Therefore, the heart that was not easy to carry must carry a heavy family relationship, that is, the pressure of "gentleness."
The third reason: the ranking of test scores through the queuing of test scores, you can understand the gap between each other. At the same time, the rankings also have negative effects that cannot be ignored: students with better grades are afraid that they will not pay attention to them, other students will surpass themselves; students with poor grades and test failures will be worse.
The fourth reason: the study plan is difficult to complete many students to the third year of high school, especially in the sprint stage to develop a rigorous study plan and goals, some students even fine to all the extracurricular time of the day, but in the actual learning process, many Subjects have uncertain workloads, and some disciplines temporarily take extra-curricular time to conduct tests, which often leads to poorly planned students unable to complete their learning goals. When your performance can't be achieved for a while, you will feel anxious, upset, and so on.
The fifth reason: the distance between the classmates and the senior high school stage is due to the long study time and high pressure. The group activities are rarely carried out. Sometimes, when they encounter difficulties, they would like to ask the classmates, but they can't bear to bother with the busy figure. Classmates are no longer as easy-going and harmonious as they used to be, and they are replaced by indifference. Coupled with frequent external stimuli such as frequent rankings, the relationship between students becomes complicated. Many students feel that their relationships are indifferent. This dark mentality made them very self-blame: "How did I become so bad, I didn't learn well, and I couldn't help others to learn."
Second, the guiding strategy to reduce stress Natural selection, survival of the fittest, this is the law of nature. Psychological research shows that moderate pressure helps to tap the potential of the individual and maximize his or her own level. However, the pressure is too great, causing people to be in a state of high tension for a long time, and it will also have many negative effects. You may wish to try the following strategies:
One of the strategies: To win, to win the exam, the self-confidence is very important. However, how can we eliminate the psychology of depression and inferiority and enhance self-confidence?
Think about yourself correctly. To fully see your strength, don't deny yourself because of a poor test score.
It is necessary to carefully analyze the reasons for the bad test.
To stand the test of failure. Even if you have a poor foundation in learning, you will not be inferior in your test scores. You should hurry to find the cause, change the method, and adjust the expected value.
write diary. This is a way of telling yourself about yourself, and you can see what success or disappointment you have, remind yourself to treat it correctly; on this basis, write a tit-for-tat "confidence training word" for the weaknesses you often worry about. ", such as: "The exam is only a staged evaluation, far from reflecting my full value" and so on.
Strategy 2: Students who encourage each other during the college entrance examination need to communicate most and need to vent. When you are with your peers, even if you complain, you will get a psychological buffer. This is a normal need of people and is good for the exam. When people are in the most difficult and difficult times, if someone constantly gives them affirmation and encouragement, it will be a great blessing in life. At this critical moment, a word of concern and encouragement may change a person's life. Therefore, after each mock exam, the group can be a unit, and each person writes an encouraging discourse for other members of the group.
Strategy 3: Pair-to-talk communication between teachers and students During the student life of several years, each classmate has a teacher who trusts and admires himself. If you can communicate with these teachers in thought, the effect will be very good. Under the guidance of the teacher, find out their own shortcomings in time, eliminate bad psychology, adjust the review preparation status, and let yourself be in the best competitive state.
Strategy 4: teachers, parents, students "sing the same song"
Psychologically speaking, "test anxiety" is more obvious in some parents than students. Some of them become more severe than usual, some become more cordial than usual, some are unwilling to eat, and the night is restless, while parents "Uneasy" will eventually lead to "uneasy" candidates. The solution to "uneasy" is firstly that parents fully believe in children and accept children; secondly, parents have to accept the reality, there are individual differences among children, and it is impossible to think that there is no interest in going to college, even if they are not in college, The knowledge you have learned will definitely be useful in the future. At the same time, subject teachers, especially class teachers, must work with parents to create a good interpersonal environment for students to help them change their concepts and master some counseling skills. Parents, students and teachers only have a common understanding of the college entrance examination, in order to make students less psychological burden, more relaxed and confident.
Strategy 5: Do not use the simulated record of heroic simulation test scores Although the candidates have a certain reference value for the college entrance examination, but can not use this hero, but can not determine the success or failure of the college entrance examination. If you only focus on the test scores, it will be very bad for the upcoming formal college entrance examination.
Moreover, the level of the test score is affected by many factors, such as the motivation of the proposition, the content of the content, the total amount and difficulty of the test, the teaching of the teacher and the degree of review. In addition, the high scores of simulations cannot be blindly optimistic. In the past, we always regarded failure as a “plague.” In fact, the pressure of success is sometimes not much less than failure. Therefore, it is best to use the test as a test of the degree of mastery of knowledge, rather than a "lifetime".

Strategy 6: Establishing good interpersonal relationships People are social people, and only good individuals can be born in the collective. Therefore, even if you are nervous about learning, you still have to have the relationship of the group, friends and classmates, and you must integrate yourself into the collective. In the intense preparation, you can talk to your friends and listen to your friends. Don't bury the seeds of resentment since others have said bad things behind them. You should take advantage of the open-mindedness and take the initiative to express friendship. At the same time, learn to self-criticize and not push responsibility to others. Looking at the world with a pair of "glasses", we will have less sorrow and trouble, more happiness and happiness! In short, no matter in the exam and in the exam, the candidates must treat the college entrance examination with a normal heart, and the mood is naturally stable.