Why can't you succeed?

Lead: Seeing that so many people have achieved success, have you ever thought about why you can't succeed? It's not that we don't work hard, but that we have done too hard in some aspects, and we don't do it in some respects.

The success of a person requires the participation of many elements. The success mentioned here should be a success that affects or determines the fate of a person, not the success of an ordinary event, just like the success of a career. We often envy those who succeed, so why can't we succeed?

The ancients often said that it takes time, place, and harmony to make one thing. These basically summarize the essential elements of success, although it can be placed on which person, but not specific, not clear. And why you are not successful is because there are too many factors that hinder your success.

■ Use fantasy as a goal

We often tell ourselves that we must set ourselves a goal, such as losing weight, before doing things. It weighs 200 kilograms and sets a goal for itself. It is to exercise 80 days in a month by continuously exercising every day. This is a goal, but it is even more illusory. Unrealistic illusions are often mistaken for us to be a goal. As a result, we fail to meet expectations and bring only loss and frustration.

Fantasy does not require a realistic foundation, but the goal must be set on the basis of reality, not impetuous, not exaggerated, must have operability and possibility. Don't deceive yourself and swear by yourself.

■ Light has hard work, no perseverance

There are such people around me. Their most convinced life creed is "Heavenly rewards." I don't know if it is a sequel to the college entrance examination or a person who is born like this. They show extraordinary efforts in everything. A friend decided to start his own business. He told us this message and we all cheered for him. He also worked hard on his own, basically running outside. But after one year passed, he told us that he didn't want to start a business. He said it was too tired and too hard. Although the previous efforts were not in vain to make him a deputy manager, it is undoubtedly a waste in my opinion.

The water droplets are worn, this idiom story tells us very early that we must have perseverance in doing things. Perseverance is a person's excellent psychological quality and a model of emotional intelligence. I have worked hard and do things without perseverance. I can’t do beautiful things.

■Being too good, no one wants to help you

Smart, of course, is a good thing. In my hometown, I say that a person is smart, and my hometown will say that this person is a good "god." In my opinion, this is both praise and irony. Too smart to be out of the crowd. "God" would not have dealt with people, but if you are too smart, always thinking about taking advantage of others, or not letting others take advantage of you, the result is that no one wants to help you!

China's traditional philosophy advocates a kind of "difficult to slap" the way of life, and in the words of his father's generation is "seven points of savvy three points." It’s better to be savvy than to be savvy, at least not to be hated. If you lose some money, it may be easier to get help from others because you don't know if others are testing you.

■ can't keep the bottom line, can't resist the temptation

The word "temptation" immediately reminds us of the corrupt officials in China who have fallen. Some people have done statistics. These corrupt officials are highly weighted before the fall, and they have great scenery. They can be said to have been very successful, but they have not retired! Why? Because many people can't keep the bottom line, they can't resist the temptation.

Without disguise, this society is a material society, and the current society is more material, frivolous, frivolous, arrogant, impatient, etc., making people live very uneasy, many people want to rush to seek success, fantasizing themselves overnight It’s a pity that it’s impossible, but for those things that I imagined, I’ve discarded the bottom line and kept my head down in the face of desire and temptation.

■ Ignore potential, often self-doubt

I often have this myself. The most talked about is "I can't do it, I can't!". This looks like a disease, I will say this, you will say this, he/she will say this. For example, if you are going to sing a song, you will push the three songs. "I can't do it" is the most popular word. Foreigners prefer to challenge and encourage, "have a try" is what they often say.

You didn't do it, how do you know that you can't do it? If you don't start, can you succeed in this way? Self-doubt makes many people who can achieve proud results become melancholy and slow, and finally lose more than they get. Our potential can only be motivated by constant experimentation. Don't ignore your potential and don't be arrogant.

The road to success is long and far-reaching. Only by constantly correcting yourself can we break through ourselves and avoid misunderstandings. Wait until the time, place, and people appear, and seize the opportunity to create self-realization.