If you are bitter, you have to laugh and show it to others.

You cry and say to others that others will laugh at you in your heart; and you smile and say to others that others will cry in your heart. This is the logic between people.

Whenever I was criticized by my superiors, I have not slowed down. The colleagues around me have come over and comforted you and said, "Dear, don't be sad, it's no big deal." You thought to yourself: "It's no big deal." I think the boss criticized me for being serious. Is it why I am sad?" If you say that you broke up with your boyfriend in a circle of friends, it is even more difficult. You will feel like drinking when you look at the comments and comfort below. Drugs poison themselves once, or hang and jump a river to show the sadness they think.

If you fail to start a business, send a "get up a cup of coffee this morning, bathe in the warm sunshine, suddenly feel happy", the acquaintances who saw it almost invariably said: "It should be like this, fail once It’s no big deal. It’s the most important thing to enjoy life.” After you look at it, I can’t wait to drop the coffee cup. I thought, “You really do, I drink coffee, and you will be understood as a healing system.”

From small to large, the elders have been telling us: "There is a difficulty, you must say it, even if others can't help you, at least you will feel better." When you grow up, you know how good and ideal the elders are. The truth is: You have difficulties, don't say it, you said it, others can not help you, but may also add to you, add extra pressure to your invisible, but your heart is not uncomfortable, but It is even more sad.

There is such a kind of person, I don't know if you are around: If you use 5 minutes to find her crying something, she will take two minutes to comfort you, then use 8 minutes to say about it. What she is doing is how good. Some people really do not care about what she talks to, she can easily and freely transition to her own body, how good, how happy, how to succeed. This is not over yet. After half an hour, it is estimated that several people around you will know what you are crying. Her explanation will be: "A few people comfort, you will feel better." You can't wait to fan yourself a few slaps. "Let yourself talk!"

Before, I was also a person who tried to call a friend when I encountered difficulties. I gradually found out that I seemed to be Xianglin. Others remembered your suffering, your tears, and the pain. Happiness is more impressive, and there are more cries. Others see you as a "unlucky".

I remember when I was in college, in my freshman year, my sports elective course was aerobics. There was a girl in the class, her personality was introverted, her limbs were very stiff and uncoordinated, and I did not know why. I also took this course. When she was in class for the first time, she was called to the front row by the teacher. She was facing the teacher. The teacher said: "I have the worst foundation in my class. You will stand in this position every time. I can easily handle it. Teach you." The consequence is that she is nervous and stressed. In the front row, the whole class can see her "teaching claws". She is going to collapse. After the first class, she is in the classroom. I cried, it was the loudest cry I heard so far. The whole classroom was quiet. Everyone looked at her. She kept crying and kept crying. In the second class, she left without asking the teacher for leave. It is.

Later in each class, she came, standing in the first row, there was no smile on her face, even if the teacher did a very funny action, she never laughed. The classmates in the class did not dare to go to her to play when they were in class. They were worried that there would be nothing to say and they would be cold. She will wear headphones, stand by the window and listen to the song, not to ignore it. Throughout the semester, her aerobics jumped awkwardly. Although she could see that she worked hard, every action was not in place.

Up to now, I still remember her, but not because her aerobics is funny, but her cry. That crying, let all of us witness her sorrow, so that we dare not approach her. That crying, let us think she is particularly pitiful, I feel very lucky, and how lucky people are happy with the unfortunate people? That time I cried, as if I had put on a layer of armor for her. She couldn’t laugh because she laughed. Everyone saw her crying and laughter seemed so insignificant.

I think, if at that time, she was smiling and facing the teacher with her own attitude, even if she was bleeding, but she still had her own jokes on her face, and the results might be completely different. Maybe, she will be with us, we are willing to help her privately; maybe, the teacher will think she is a good person, willing to give her some time to teach her; maybe, she will slowly feel that she is not so bad I will find that there are still a few people around me who can form an "alliance", cheeky and enjoy the joy of different dances; more likely, she will spend more time practicing One day, her body will be much lighter and more coordinated. It will not be said that she will become an aerobics teacher in the future.

However, she cried so that all possibilities became impossible, and the power of crying was so great. Crying is destructive, and laughter is constructive. Crying will make you sink deeper and deeper in tears, and smiles will motivate you and open the clouds to see the sky again.

What's more, all the hard roads are not the result of your own choice? I have the ability to choose, and I have to have the strength to bear and face all the consequences. If you are tough, you must tell others by smile: you don't regret your choice. In your world, you are your own hero.

Wu Nianzhen said in "These People, Those Things": "Mother said that it is hard to laugh to the sky again." Saga's aunt is sharper. She said: "If you are hard, let the old man laugh out loud. "God, it is fate, don't succumb to fate, and let fate cheer for himself." If we can't face the fate, let's start by laughing at others, and you're going to lead your emotions instead of letting others define your emotions.