Turn frustration and pressure into a turn

Julio Iglesias is a professional football player in Madrid. He was injured in a car accident for a year and a half, and his career in the field ended. While at the hospital, a compassionate nurse gave him a guitar to help him kill time. Although Iglesias never thought of developing in the music industry before, he has since made great achievements in pop music.

That car accident was really the watershed of Iglesias' life, a turning point that changed everything from then on. The watershed of life may be a disease, an accident or an accidental encounter, or it may be a major event. Grasping the unexpected moments in life and making it an opportunity for development, you should master four strategies:

1. Responsible for yourself. There is a proverb that says: "Time can heal all wounds." But life experience shows that many people can't stand the crisis, and even after the treatment of time, they can't fully recover. Therefore, we must actively deal with the painful experience of illness, death, divorce or unemployment. Some people deal with it by blaming others. However, the fact is very clear that we must take responsibility for our own lives.

After Ai Mei married for 24 years, her husband divorced her. She has neither been educated in any profession, nor has the confidence to be self-reliant. According to Li, she may be trapped in self-pity and will never recover.

However, she did not. She is working hard to be responsible for herself. “I want to cross the trauma and sigh for myself,” she said. “So I went to the course of real estate management, got a broker license, and then opened my own office. I believe that I will be in this city soon. One of the best independent real estate agents."

2. Not afraid to make difficult decisions. There are a wide range of things in the watershed of life. Women tend to pay more attention to issues related to others than men, while men refer to events related to education or occupation more often. Those who have benefited the most from these experiences believe that holding on to avoiding risks and only hoping that everything will be good will not enable you to develop. People have developed because they are willing to make a decision.

Hartman, the former ABC TV show "American Good Morning" host, studied economics at the university. When he graduated, there were many excellent business positions beckoning to him, but Hartman, who had also served as a radio and television announcer at the university, made a very difficult decision. He abandoned years of academic training and steady income, and began his career in the highly unstable entertainment communications industry.

Dare to take risks often has a big gain. In the genius performance of a nightclub in Hollywood, the female artist Mary Martin sang a waltz called "Kiss", which became famous and began to flourish. It turned out that she began to sing in the best voice and traditional way of the opera, but when she sang halfway, she suddenly rose up and sang in the tone of jazz. When she finished singing, she stood up and applauded, and she had a new career.

Aikeka, the president of Christie's Automobile Company of the United States, said with deep feeling: "Decisive and steady winning is the hallmark of a good manager and a sign of anyone who takes risks and develops true self."

3. Seek to enrich the relationship of your life. Interpersonal relationships are the network of life that affects our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and sometimes the way we affect our lives. Successful people often tell us that they have had guidance from friends or mentors early in their careers.

Even a general or stranger may have a major impact on our lives. Baseball superstar Campanella became paralyzed by accidents when his career was almost at its peak. A year later, when he was sitting in a wheelchair on a court, suddenly an old lady slowly came to him. She has a bracket on her legs and a walking stick while walking.

She walked over to Campenella and took his weak hands and said, thanking him for the courage to live for her. When he was hospitalized in a hospital in New York, she was also a patient in the hospital. After she had a stroke, her body was not paralyzed and she was miserable. But the doctor in the hospital told her about the courage of Campenella, and she was greatly moved, so she decided to work hard. She later traveled nearly 2,000 kilometers and specially came to thank Campanella in person, so that Campenella also got the inspiration and courage he had given her.

4. Affirm your value. In general, a crisis can hurt a person's self-esteem, making it harder for him to cope with the crisis. During our visit, we found that those who can affirm their own values ​​do not feel that they are powerless when they encounter difficulties. They are more likely to influence the evolution of things and seek ways to take them.

Paul is a very accomplished journalist. He arrived in the United States as a refugee at the age of 6, and was deeply pained at school because he could not speak English. When he was ridiculed by his classmates, he was not a big hit, but he turned and fled. As a result, he developed what he called "the refugee mentality." This kind of mentality is expressed in such thoughts as: "Don't destroy the status quo", "It's time to be content with people here" and "This kind of thing can't be you" and so on.

Later, when he was at a summer camp, his life had a turning point. "They want me to be the most important position in the camp - the shore instructor, because I have the necessary qualifications," Paul said. "At this time, I heard the inner voice as usual reminding myself: 'This kind of thing can't win you. You are not a first-rate person. 'But, unexpectedly, just like the lights suddenly lit up, I suddenly realized. It should be my turn now. So I promised to hold that position."

Paul couldn't be sure how he would suddenly realize. But that moment did change his life, freeing him from psychological shackles and becoming "the real self in my world."

Good thoughts don't automatically happen in our lives. We are able to develop because we are determined to develop because we are actively coping with our experiences.

The researchers have studied some of the lottery players over $50,000 and asked them to explain how happy they are at this stage of their lives, how happy they are expected in a few years, and how they talk, watch TV, and have lunch with friends. The joy of listening to people telling jokes, being complimented, reading magazines and buying new clothes. However, the researchers asked the same questions to some unwinned people. It turned out that the winners were no more happy than the unwinners and did not expect to be happier in the future. And they said that they got less happiness in those seven things than those who didn't. Although the winners were given a moment of excitement and joy, they seemed to have lost some of their ability to enjoy ordinary fun. What's more important is that they failed to turn that watershed change -- the lottery ticket -- into an opportunity for development.

You don't have to think that a non-middle lottery can make a difference. As long as you can recognize the importance of a watershed thing to change your life, and take action to take it.

Many people believe that stress and success are two sides that are closely related. They speculate that "it has to pay a lot of money to complete the dream, and this road will be full of hardships and pressures." The average person regards stress as a source of achievement motivation. The average person not only highlights the existence of stress in his work, but also believes that stress is a valuable emotion, because sometimes they really need to motivate themselves to maintain their peak. Therefore, the way they do things is also stressful. Their temper is very urgent and they don't listen to people. There was no breathing time between the two dates, so I was always on the way. They became very nervous and excited. They lost insight and wisdom. They rushed out early in the morning and finally complained about how busy they were to work one day when they got home.

If you think pressure is positive and necessary, you will create more pressure between intentional or unintentional. If you think that stress is an obstacle, it will hinder your clear and rational thinking; it will make it difficult for wisdom, insight or creativity to come out. Stress can also be exhausting, eroding your most valuable and precious spiritual and physical energy. Finally, stress can also cause problems in interpersonal relationships. The greater your stress, the greater your temper. You can't concentrate on it, you can't listen to people. You lose compassion and a sense of humor.

I know that to some extent, some pressure cannot be avoided. Of course, no matter what you do, success can be very difficult and difficult. However, treating stress as a valuable thing will only worsen the situation and will not be better. From this perspective, it is easy to understand that stress is not a positive force. It is not only the source of achievement motivation, but also the reaction of mind and energy. Stress can not only give you an advantage, but let your competitors gain the upper hand.

My suggestion is: When you are crazy about small things at work, or feel pressured, you may wish to remind yourself that since work is already difficult, don't let pressure increase your pain! You do this. At the time, you will find that the pressure that was thought to be indispensable in the past has disappeared invisibly.

Someone often asks me: "When you want to be crazy about small things, which one is the most important thing?" I must admit that I don't know which one is the most important. But if you really want to find one, I will say this: "Don't figure out the pressure yourself."

Think about whether we usually talk to ourselves in our minds. Sometimes we talk non-stop all day. When we are in the car, we think about things – thinking about deadlines, quarreling, thinking about potential conflicts, missing mistakes, etc. We do this both in the office or in the shower, and the ideas are real.

When we are thinking, we can easily believe that it is true and think what we think is true. Let me make it clearer, it may sound strange, but we often forget that we are thinking, because this is what we often do – just like breathing. Unless I remind you, you may not notice that you are breathing, are you? Thoughts are similar activities. Because this is part of us, we will value our thoughts and follow our thoughts. We will think that thought is real, and letting the mind bring us pressure.

If you think about it carefully, you will see the potential problems between them. When you are thinking about one thing, it is just an "idea". As long as your consciousness or subconscious does not stress yourself, thought is actually nothing. Thought is just the imagination and concept in your mind. It's like a dream - just when you are dreaming, you are awake. The thoughts that arise when you are awake are that you can decide what you want to see.

For example, when you are driving to work, you may think about it: "God! Today is not good! There are six meetings today. I have to submit two reports before noon. I am afraid to see Jane, she must still I was angry at what we had quarreled yesterday."

In this case, basically only one or two things will happen. You can be very nervous, worried, and think more and more, constantly analyzing how bad your life will become, and then self-pity. Or you can figure out the actual situation, realize that this is just a small "thought and attack", and then remind yourself that this is just an idea in your mind, you have not yet arrived at the office - you are still Drive!

This is not to say that you will not encounter difficulties today or that you have to pretend that everything is perfect. But before the official start of working hours, it is completely illogical to think that this day will be very difficult. It sounds ridiculous - but it's something that each of us is doing every day. We kept thinking about it and thinking about it. Later, I thought it was not just thought, but real.

If you change your mindset of ideas, you will be surprised to find that the stress in your work has been reduced a lot. The next time you are doing the "thoughts and defenses", try to see if you can wake yourself up, and then easily say to yourself: "Hey! You are coming again." Just like this, remind yourself not to think about it. really. I hope that you put this strategy in your heart so that your world will be completely different.