Why do you always touch and reject?

Life is not easy. This phenomenon, which cannot be called reason, believes that most people have a deep understanding. But have you ever thought that this is "not easy", how many are caused by others, and how much is caused by yourself?

A good friend has not felt smooth since work. She worked in a business unit and graduated as a doctoral student at a prestigious university. She was initially heavily influenced by departmental leadership. But slowly, she found that the leadership is no longer so polite, often criticizes her, and even swears, and does not care about face. Work tasks are getting heavier and heavier, and they are being staggered everywhere. This made her feel aggrieved - why should she be criticized by these "metamorphosis"? She did not dare to confront the leader, but her heart was always touched and she was not willing to do the work of leadership. After a long time, I started to change my mind and applied for a change in the department. But the sad reminder is that after the new department, I met a leader who was more self-righteous and younger than her. Perhaps because of his young ambitions, this small leader is often arrogant and bureaucratic. With the character of my friend, I am not willing to compromise, and I have embarked on the old road that is everywhere. The relationship can be imagined.

There is also a colleague. Originally, we seemed to be a very generous and generous person, but just after he loved the child and the mother-in-law came to take care of the moon, his character seemed to have completely changed. He always felt that his heart was full. When I touched it, I couldn’t look at the eyes of his mother-in-law. I felt that my mother-in-law had a lot of control, and I felt that my mother-in-law was not good at cooking. I even thought that my mother-in-law had taken care of the moon and had to do more. He even regretted that he was "too open" and promised his wife to ask her mother to come over and take care of her. The joy of having children is replaced by this kind of sensation.

These two examples are not intended to ridicule the ignorance and incompetence of others, because this situation is more or less present in ourselves. If you are dissatisfied with your family, we will touch it; if we are dissatisfied with the leadership, we will touch it; if we are dissatisfied with our elders, we will also touch it; if we are not satisfied with your experience in life, we will be touched. It is this kind of mentality that is everywhere that stirs up our quiet heart, makes our lives miserable, and makes our work difficult.

Along the way, all the way to touch, are you really cool? Of course not good! Then why do you still like "touch"?

"The reason for others. This is the fault of others." We are very self-respecting and often reluctant to admit our narrowness and darkness, but unfortunately, the first reaction in our hearts is really like this: these pains, It is caused by others! We can't wait for those people and things that cause ourselves to suffer, disappear immediately, and go away!

Life is not good. You want them to go away, they will stay here instead, not only will not go away, or even closer to you. In life, the more you hate someone, the more likely you may appear in front of you from time to time; the more you touch something, the more it may actually appear. This is neither strange nor mysterious. The law of attraction is very clear, and what you expect and reject will be closer and closer to you, because your heart is always thinking about it, and this kind of mind is extremely powerful.

So, when can you end the pain?

When you let go, it will naturally go away. But "putting down" is not so easy, it is a realm of practice. But if you change your mind, maybe you will be closer to "put down." That is, you should probably realize that the reason why you often “touch” is not entirely because of others, but because of your own “prejudice”.

When we go to college, we often go to the study room to study. At this time, if someone in a quiet classroom whispers, you will feel very touched and disgusted. "Why is this person so uncultivated?" You will feel uncomfortable. But if that person is your good buddy, good girlfriend, you may not be so disgusted, the so-called harsh noise, you will not mind. Obviously, the problem is not the "noise" itself, but how you think about the person who makes the noise. In fact, it is not difficult to understand, but as an ordinary person, this kind of savvy often only appears in an instant, and it is forgotten in a blink of an eye.

We often "can't get used to" in our lives, and we can't understand some of the habits of someone, including selfishness, strength, embarrassment, arrogance, rudeness, and so on. Anyone who does not follow his own heart will not be used to it, and it is easy for others to have a contemptuous view, even rude. You have to know that people are more sensitive, and that you are good or bad to others, and others can feel it. You are contemptuous of others, rude to others, and others are naturally not good for you, and pain arises. Why don't you think about your own problems? This is our problem.

Well, you can refute that I have strong ability, high level and good character. Why do some people always criticize me and vilify me? There may be other reasons for this. It is possible that those people are really inferior and mentally dark. This is all possible. However, is this seemingly unreasonable phenomenon not a reason for "reasonable"? Why is this person being hit by you? You can change the environment, do not spend your energy on resentment against others. Got it - if you have the ability to change the environment. But before that, the touch and complaints did not really have a dime effect.

My teacher once told me that when you encounter difficulties, you should always think "I have not done enough, I can do better", and my heart will be more and more motivated; don't think "I I have worked hard enough, I have suffered a lot..." These ideas will only make you more distressed and can't solve any problems. I want to do things, a behavior, an idea, if you follow it every day, it will become your habit and become your inner strength. Your current state is the result of your cross-talking.

In fact, people like to "touch", the root cause is still unwilling to accept. There are too many explanations in our traditional culture, and more reading will make sense. Therefore, since life is so difficult, we should not touch so much. Accept the acceptance, do what you need to do, be quiet, and wait quietly for a better tomorrow.