The real education is to fight

01

I read an article many years ago.

The author went to a friend's house and saw that his friend's child liked reading very much. He not only liked fairy tales and stories, but also read a book and read it with gusto.

He was surprised and asked how the parents were trained.

How to cultivate it?

No cultivation at all.

The father is a scholar, the mother is a writer, and the two love each other. There are many books in the family.

Living room, study room, bedroom, children's room, bathroom, you can see the history philosophy and religion that your father likes, the social science literature and art that your mother loves, the fairy tale of children's obsessed picture books... As long as you want to read, you can get your favorite books. .

When it’s okay, the whole family gets together to study.

The night is soft and the lights are shining. Everyone is immersed in their respective humanities. When they read the joy, they will have a chat together.

"Ha ha ha, Sun Wukong is so funny..."

"How funny, let's listen!"

I also play role-playing, ending adaptations, or writing stories of three people. It’s fun and funny.

All of this is not deliberate, parents love, children like, naturally do not resist, do it happily.

When a child is born, he grows up in this kind of atmosphere. Naturally, in his opinion, reading is just as normal as eating and sucking.

02

This incident made me very touched.

It reminds me of the fact that true education has never been a technique of turning a stone into gold and a place to become a Buddha, but a process of spring rain and natural inaction.

Just like a tree shaking another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, one soul awakens another soul. It has no sound, it just lets people who walk in front, do their own things, take their own path, and then let the change happen naturally.

How is the former, and what will happen to the followers.

How the elders will be, how will the younger generations.

This is a fight.

However, the puzzle in the context of education is not that Mao Xinyu has a paradise called Mao Zedong, nor is Wang Sicong an inheritor of Wang Jianlin. It is not Ge You’s father called Ge Chuangzhuang’s inheritance...

This kind of spelling is just a hereditary power, money, and resources. It has nothing to do with what I said.

The real fight is the concept of competing parents, as well as the way of life, way of thinking, and way of life.

03

Before leaving the system, I worked in education for many years.

The more you deal with students and parents, the more you discover that children are the epitome of the family, and education is the fight for mothers.

A good child, the family behind it, must be full of respect, scholarship and love, parents do not say Bogutong today, but must be reasonable.

On the contrary, a problem student, the native family he is in, must also be full of problems, such as lack of love, inequality, lack of freedom, parents' general cultural level is not high, the concept is backward, the vision is narrow, and there are many acts of violence.

I once wrote an article called "Poor Girl Yang Paper." The prototype of Yang Paper is one of my students, who pursues class guidance, commits suicide, and is under 14 years old and 6 men have gone to bed...

I learned that when she was abandoned by her father when she was young, her mother was drunk, smoked, unemployed, and she was living in a mistress’s life. She has been staying with Ah, not being loved. The most common sentence is: “Why don’t you go? Death? I don’t care if I don’t die at home..."

The influence of such parents on children can be imagined.

Last year, I went back to my hometown and saw her again. I had already dropped out of school. Xiao Taimei was dressed up and exported to dirty. I saw the old man in the past and smiled and said, "Hey, handsome, play together!"

I asked her to eat. During the dinner, she said that she was pregnant. She was a netizen and hesitated to be born.

"How old are you?" I asked her.

"15."

Her mother also knew, just humiliated, just beaten and did not give her proper help.

I thought that this child, afraid of being destined to be marginalized.

04

There is a documentary in the UK called "56UP".

The director selected 14 children from different classes to follow up and record it every seven years. From the age of 7, 14 years old, 21 years old, 28 years old, 35 years old, 42 years old, 49 years old, until 56 years old.

In just over 100 minutes, the real life of 14 people has passed.

This documentary is very uncomfortable to see.

Because it is a sharp, unpleasant reality, suddenly slamming, piercing the chicken soup, inspirational, fantasy thin clothes, can not help but say, to the eyes. Tell us 13 words:

Long Shenglong, Feng Shengfeng, the son of the mouse will make a hole.

In the movie, 60 years passed by, and later, the elite children are still elite. The children of the poor are still poor.

The hierarchy is solid and the flow is difficult. What is the origin of this stalemate?

One summary is very good, it is said: In fact, in addition to the uneven distribution of hard power, the more critical is the level of soft power.

The elites pass on to the next generation, mostly freedom, ambition, calmness, self-discipline and perseverance.

The poor are inherited to the next generation, mostly inferiority, shortsightedness, violent, loose and easy to give up.

People who hold different ideas naturally have different horizons, match different actions, pay different prices, and lead to different endings.

05

Genius does not exist. No good child is a miracle that is born out of the world, but a cause and effect that can be traced.

Its cause is in the family.

Its roots are in the parents.

If parents are ignorant, they will treat a child in a way that is controlled, enslaved, and devastated, and they will not know it.

Pass evil in a bad way and pass stupidity in a stupid way. Then, in the struggle chain of life, the child has lost the chain from the beginning.

Parents are enlightened and will give their children respect and freedom.

Not forced, not set, accepting the possibility of life, let the child's greatest pressure, only from himself, discover his merits, appreciate his qualities, use adult thinking and resources to help him enlarge... then he is older than his peers The child won a big chunk.

Even children who have been born to such parents, even if they are unsuccessful, will certainly become a weapon.

Even if you are not talented, you must be an adult.

Even if you are not famous, you will certainly achieve your own climate of life.

Author: Zhou Chong, big girl after a 80, I believe the ideal, never admit defeat, leaving the system in 2019, it is now a freelance writer. "You deserve a better world." WeChat public number: Zhou Chong's image sound color