May we all be able to endure loneliness and become better ourselves.

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When I was young, I was afraid of loneliness. When I was old, I wanted to be alone.

In the circle of friends, I saw a friend who wrote a sentence. A friend is thirty-five years old. Just had a child. He said: I gradually learned why many men have to sit in the car for a while and get a cigarette every time they get home. It is. Because when you get home, you become a father, become a husband, you are the pillar, Optimus Prime, Mu Tizhu, is not yourself.

Seeing the words written by my friends, my heart is sour. I can especially understand the desire of a person to grow alone as he grows up. With the career, the team, the family, the sense of responsibility is strong, and the time for solitude is less. At that time, I always remembered the young and frivolous at that time and the infinite yearning for the future.

Loneliness is the best period of value-adding, and unfortunately, the time of solitude will eventually disappear as we grow older.

I remember that a friend was preparing for an English debate contest some time ago because he needed to check a lot of information and recite a large number of proper nouns. So, he loves to play, he couldn’t get through the phone for more than three months. Later, I realized that he went to a quiet place to rent a house. Every day, in addition to checking the information, he was talking to himself in English over the wall.

It’s all about splitting the personality behind.

Fortunately, in the debate contest that year, he took the best debater.

He said that only paranoia can create excellence. And I said that because of those lonely times, he created excellence.

Many of the world's calves are thought of when a person is lonely or hungry. Teamwork is very important, but the details of cooperation, division of labor and goal planning are all thought of in a lonely person.

Loneliness is the best period of value-added.

When the teacher was in the past few years, I met a lot of people who were preparing for the exam. During this time, they cut off the interference from the outside world, left the useless social network, went home to the library every morning and night, and sipped coffee red bull to listen. The teacher went to class, and even called, it became a luxury, but only occasionally reported a peace with his parents. After a few months of loneliness, they struggled and made great progress, and the results were not bad.

People should not be afraid of loneliness, but should be afraid of wasting their lonely time.

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I have a friend who is a programmer. Because I don't like my job, I resigned last year. I didn't find a job in a year. We are especially worried about his status. When I eat, I will ask with concern: When do you find a job?

He smiled and said, don't worry.

I asked, why not worry?

He said, I still have some deposits, enough for one year.

I continue to ask, can't you die like this, after spending it, at least you should first find a job to do?

He shook his head and said, I am really in a hurry. I ask, how much time can life be done like this?

I didn't talk, we may have been out of contact for a long time. After one year, I realized that he is very powerful: this year's gapyear, he took a driver's license, lost 20 pounds in fitness, read more than 100 books, and took the CPA himself. Successfully changed.

When he walked into an accounting firm, he told us why we rarely saw him this year, because in this lonely time of the year, he was thick and steady, calmly working hard, finally, He successfully transformed, brightened everyone's eyes and became what they liked.

On the contrary, I met most people, because of the entanglement and anxiety in the lonely time of life, and finally wasted the opportunity to let them appreciate.

After my friend was fired, I went to sleep all day and went to dawn. I bought a TV. The first thing I got back home was to turn on the TV sweeping table. After one year, except for a few pounds of fat, it’s almost a deposit. There is no change in people. Later, he had to leave Beijing and return to his parents' company to find a job.

To know that he is not a special case, many people have lost their chance to change themselves because they have not used their lonely time.

In fact, when people graduated, they lived nine to five days, only to find that they had no time to study during the day, and they did not have the strength to change at night. Gradually, they became accustomed to a mediocre life.

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Many people were asked about the last regret of the university for four years, and their answers were not well studied. In fact, everyone does not regret that the university did not study hard for four years, but regretted not taking advantage of those lonely times.

These times, obviously can go to the library, but have been spent on useless social; obviously can temper a skill, but it is used in the bed; obviously can be used to change themselves, but was abandoned in Korean drama, game In the end, the university is no longer lonely for four years, but after graduating, I missed this carefree rush.

To put it bluntly, this is not a nostalgia, but it is remorse why I did not cherish time.

When I was in college, I did two things. I will be very proud today. First, I will keep myself in the room and practice English. Forty minutes a day, I can't beat it for eight months. Second, I organized a book club with a few good friends, and I kept a book every week.

In the days of facing the empty classrooms, the time when no one was interested in the library, let me honed my skills for four years, and let me know the world outside. The most important thing is that I began to understand that loneliness is the norm. The strong are cultivated through loneliness, and the weak are wasting loneliness and pastime.

However, when it comes out, it will be repaid.

After entering the society, I often find that all successful big cows have a characteristic. They cherish the time, they will use the lonely time to create a better self, and will not open the WeChat crazy in the lonely days. Like it, shake it.

Therefore, you don’t have to envy those who shine on the stage, and you don’t have to envy those who are in other fields. They are only when they are no one, they are resistant to loneliness, and naturally they can enjoy the prosperity in the future. .

May we all be able to withstand loneliness, use the appreciation period, and become a better self.

About the author: Li Shanglong, young director, writer, with "You just seem to work hard", "Your so-called stability is just a waste of life", please contact the author's authorization.