A letter to Sister Liu

At the beginning of 2000, the Chongqing Evening News published an article on the topic of "I should have personal happiness" on an article written by a big sister named Liu Li to the Evening News. Liu Dajie’s husband became a vegetative person due to a brain hemorrhage, and he was not dead or lying in bed for four years. Sister Liu said: "For four years, I have tried my best to save my husband. I have no intention of conscience. Besides my mother and my sister have expressed sympathy to me in private, no one dares to take the world by big and support one in the husband. People who seek personal happiness before they completely fall into the air." When I read Liu Dajie's article in one breath, the feeling of "the same is the end of the world" drove me to write a letter to Liu Dajie in one go.

On January 23, 2000, the Chongqing Evening News published this letter in the popular topic special issue, and many people were moved. Before the publication, the editor of the column gave me a message. He said that a female writer wanted to interview me after reading my article. At that time, I was busy doing business. I was afraid of being famous. The pig was afraid of being strong. On the one hand, I was afraid of affecting my business. At the same time, I had already thought about it. When I had time, I would write my own experience. The thing, I believe, only I can write a real me, so I declined the interview request.

Sister Liu: Hello!

After reading the article "I shouldn't have a personal happiness," there is really a feeling that "the same is the end of the world." Yes, your story is strikingly similar to my experience, just like a glimpse.

My husband was seriously injured in a car accident in 1992. He was in a coma for three months and almost became a vegetative person. He was lucky enough to survive and began to incontinence for two or three years. His intelligence was almost zero. It can be said that I was even more painful than you at the time, because I was only in my thirties at the time, and my son was young and ignorant. The pillars in the house collapsed. What should I do? I have a husband who is handicapped with mental retardation, for his long-term treatment, a son who is not sensible. I am a weak woman in the original text, but in the face of this unpredictable blow, it has become extremely strong, and it is hard to swallow the broken teeth. Like you, the body is tired and you don’t have to say it. The mental pain is hard to say...·····

I am in extreme pain and contradiction, I want to get liberated, I want someone to help me, I want to have a miracle, and even want to find a man to marry and support this family. I have said in my heart thousands of times: "I am also a woman with flesh and blood, culture, pursuit, and talent. Why should I bear this kind of inhuman torture? Why can't I pursue personal happiness?" I went to the court. The judge was very sympathetic to me. I went to the city women's federation. The staff also sympathized with me. I wrote a letter to a female writer I really admire. I bluntly asked her: "You and I are all women, if you are In my current situation, what should you do?” She sent me a long letter, one of which made me ponder: “You can only save yourself!” Sister Liu, can’t say this is A panacea, but after a lot of blows, you may slowly taste its true meaning.

Like you, I am also a woman with a strong sense of morality. I don't want to leave my husband and son to pursue personal happiness. For the mentally retarded husband and the son who is not sensible, I have tried my best to open the door to fate. In this society, it is very difficult for a woman to do something. I tried to do business, I was rejected, humiliated, and cheated, but I never care, I know that I have no reason to care about others, because in this era of transformation, others are not obligated to help you unless you have been The reason for people's love. So, I did not go to the door of other people's home, I opened the door of my own home, I struggled to pursue, experienced a lot of hardships, and finally got rid of the shadow of fate, now I live very fresh and very moist. Chongqing TV station once made a program to our family with the title "Woman who opened the door to fate." After the broadcast, the response was very strong.

Ten years have passed, and with my careful care, my husband’s intelligence has improved significantly. Sister Liu, I believe that love can make a miracle. I hope your husband can get better every day.

A woman must withstand two changes, one is the change of the family, and the other is the change of society. The real powerhouse of this society is a woman, and a weak man has forced a strong woman. Like me, you are a woman with morality and conscience. Since you can't make a divorce choice, choose a path that suits you. You have to live a personal life, especially a woman without men. People are pity and people look down on them.

Sister Liu, you have been closed for four years, but today you can tell your story, indicating that you still have not lost your pursuit of a better life. I don't know you, but "the same is the end of the world, why do you meet each other?" The common destiny will build a bridge of friendship for us, I believe! I wish you a turning point in fate!