People are arrogant, but have a relationship with you?

A friend who is studying in the United States spoke to me, saying that a stranger recently added her QQ and asked her if she knew who he was. When the other party said the name, she remembered it. It turned out to be an old classmate who had not been in contact for many years.

She finally remembered the name of the deep memory, and said, "It turned out to be you, long time no see." The other party said, "Yes, I haven't seen you for a long time, remember me? I heard that you are now a full-time doctor at the XX University in the United States. You are so good."

The friend said politely, where is the luck.

The other party is not polite, and the second is not to mention a large package of files, all of which are used to apply for various forms of PHD in the United States. I want her to help me to see what else needs to be added. In addition, it is best to help him to polish the written application.

The friend is busy, there are a lot of presentations to do at hand, and the top mentors do the reaserch, not so well mixed. Coping with daily learning tasks is already a stressful mountain. Her own affairs are too busy. I have time to help people get this, so I have to smile at the computer.

I thought that I really didn't have a relationship with the other party. She told him that he was very busy at hand and could not help you in the near future.

"Old classmates" then said, can you help me find a professor who writes a recommendation letter?

My friend is speechless, think, big brother, I don't know you soon, and then, interlacing like a mountain, is not a professional, I want to help you find a professor.

Had to euphemistically refused: This, your professional professor, I don't know.

The other person asked, then you just want to find a professor who is a little bit of a point?

It’s a bit difficult for a friend to laugh, “just”, and to be “both”.

The other party immediately changed his attitude and complained about her coming. Hey, the classmates said that you are now well mixed, I came to ask you for help. Sure enough, I don’t know old classmates. So small, I am not willing to help me.

Now some people think that the thinking of the problem is really strange. There are still many people, that is his idea.

If someone else is more powerful than you, should you help me? Can she help you when I get the full prize to go to the doctor? People don’t write their own applications, prepare materials, no one helps. She? Even if someone has helped, that person is not you.

To a certain extent, she can now be said to be confusing, but that has something to do with you? Why does she have to help you?

I know a translator who is a grade 8 English major and is especially afraid to go home for the New Year every year. Because she has a lot of younger siblings in her family, she is "speaking English" when she is waiting for her to go home. What aunt's daughter, uncle's son, and former relatives of the teacher's family are going to the college entrance examination.

She is a translator, because the profession is also relatively good, and the private work of the translation outside is one thousand words and two hundred. I am very fortunate to work normally. I have returned home and not only have no time to rest, but also busy when I go to work. It is not for people to translate English, it is to give people a change in English resume, or to give a group of children to study English, "talking questions" or something.

She said that she is determined not to return home to develop. The main reason is that small cities are asking for people to work without giving money. Although she doesn't like the crowds in big cities, she doesn't like to go to work for hours and wastes on the road, but she likes the contractual spirit of big cities and likes to treat the price with honesty before doing things.

In the big cities, everyone does not need to know everything, please pay for the labor to pay the corresponding costs, there will not be so many people, find you free to help and peace of mind.

She always said that every time I go home, I have a lot of psychological pressure. I have to help this. I have so many relatives in my family. It is also difficult to have a bowl of water. Moreover, if you help people think that it is a matter of two minutes, don't care, but if you don't help, others will feel that you are stingy, not sensible, just a little helpless! It is even more annoying, even her My parents are also such an argument.

It is not easy to mix outside, but it is not easy to go home.

There is a netizen in WeChat, I don't know when to add it. I haven't said a word for a few hundred years. Suddenly ask me, will you PS? I said I will, she said, then you add me QQ, teach me on Q?

I think she is very funny, I am, I will be responsible for teaching you? I told her that the software posts and videos are all over the Internet, and the software is such a thing that it is natural to use it. . Moreover, the specific situation is specifically solved. To do something, the two cannot communicate face to face, and it is difficult to say clearly.

I remember seeing a post on the station cool. The reason is that someone who claims to be a "living rookie" who doesn't even enter the line complains to him. He said that the big gods on the Internet love to play big cards and are not willing to teach small rookie technology. . So the man wrote a very long post, saying why those big gods are not willing to teach you these "dishes"? Because you don't even understand the most basic things, still ask Dong to ask west. For example, people tell you that this is a "positive film" "This is a mask" "This is the use of polar coordinates and distortion", you have to ask people, what is the film stack? How to do the mask? Where are the coordinates and distortion tools? I can't wait for people to teach you with your hands. Those "big gods" and those who ask questions are not at one level and can't communicate. So they simply shut up.

In fact, many people who are used to finding help are like this. They are not willing to pay at all, and they have no exploration spirit. They know that they are asking for it.

I feel that those who "will do" are easy to do, so go find someone to help. It seems that the time of those who "will do" is the same as public.

Many things go to a forum casually, or Baidu can find something that you can find, you have to ask others; many things that you can solve with a little money, don't think about finding acquaintances for free.

Not only waste other people's time, but also destroy others' mood.

When others ignore him, he blames others for playing big cards, no love, stingy, and force.

Lightly complaining about resentment and ruining your reputation, and the heavy self-confidence will never be with you.

I really don't know what these people think, others are stronger than you, and those who can be strong are also trying to figure out by themselves.

Others are more powerful than you, but others have taken a lot of hard work and hard work to get to the present.

What did you pay when others were struggling to spend time?

My new book is coming soon. I edited some time ago to ask for a few people to write a recommendation for my book. I thought of a literary alumnus who are now well mixed. Just privately on Weibo. The other party replied to me and said that he would send the book to him first. I sent the manuscript and then asked him, there was no message. Later, the editor asked me about this. I told my editor that it would be fine if there was no news. I think, no matter what, I am just a stranger. Although I am an alumnus, this is actually just a statement. For others, it is love that I don't recognize. Regardless of the last, he should have thanked him since he took care of me.

Asking for help, you should be grateful. Many people will always forget that it is a sentiment for others to help you. It is a duty not to help you.

Don't think that anyone who is better than you owes you. The money of the rich is not falling from the sky. The schoolmaster is not born with any questions. The master of design can't draw a logo with your feet. People who learn English can't close their eyes. Just translate a beautiful paper.

No matter how small, as long as you want to do well, you have to work hard and work hard.

We should all know how to give back to others and respect the fruits of others' work.

Think more about what you can bring to others, rather than always thinking about how to get something for nothing.

Don't always think that you know a lot of people, you can easily get what they have got.

More people than you are, but they don't owe you.