We are absent from each other's most important decade

Write to everyone who is next to your parents, please know how to cherish. Write to everyone who is not with your parents, please understand.

Today, I quarreled with my mother, and I didn’t let it go when I was cooking. The last time I was arguing because of how to wash the strawberries. Last time, because I had to wash my hair, I wouldn’t use a hair dryer. Last time I went to the toilet paper to throw it... Mom and Dad came to Nanjing for more than a month, we are no more than a dozen Second, as much as wealth management money, as small as washing detergent with a lot of detergent, the pattern is full, should not be overwhelmed. Although the atmosphere with my parents is generally happy and peaceful, I suddenly realized in this piece of shredded mouth that I, and the two people who love me the most in the world, gradually moved to two families. There are two kinds of unbreakable but completely different lives.

One morning, I sat in front of the mirror and wiped the cream. My mother came in and called me to have breakfast and said: "What makeup is, it is not good for the skin." I said: "Just make a bottom, not a make-up." My mother picked up the bottle and jar on my desk and asked, "What is the bottom? What is this?" I was anxious to go to work and perfunctory: "You should be makeup when you are!" I always thought about my mother's wrinkles on the way to work. Looking at the expressions of Japanese, English and French, I remembered that I actually studied cosmetics under the leadership of my roommate until I went to college. Yes, the university changed my living habits. Before, my mother didn't wear makeup, so I didn't understand those bottles and cans. After that, my schoolmates applied smudges, from zero basis all the way to make up, clean, 祛 质, essence, eye cream, isolation sunscreen, not a mother, still That one big treasure used a year's mother.

I have dinner every night, I will sit at the desk, or practice calligraphy, or read an English book, or write a manuscript, and do two or three hours of homework. The computer desk is next to my desk. I don't feel that I am affected. But my father and mother are always uncomfortable. When they play for a while, they rush to change to watch TV. They have misunderstood the food several times and suffered heavy losses. First, I was anxious about the second old vegetable business. Secondly, they did not feel calm in my life, so I stopped the compulsory course every night. Take a walk, read a book, and be comfortable. After a few days, my mother said when she was eating: "This child has never loved to write homework since he was a child, lazy!" Dad took the message: "Well, I wrote the brush on the table two days ago, I know that it was there. Big tail wolf!" I listened, laughing with them, not arguing, willing to continue to be the lazy girl in their minds.

I used to be with my parents, and I didn’t like to say anything to my father, because he never gave me an encouragement. The night before, I stayed up late at night under the desk lamp. Dad woke up and asked me why I didn't sleep. I dare not say that he was afraid of laughing at my writer's dream. My husband helped me: "She is writing a magazine." My dad stood up and said for a while: "Yes, write it!" He didn't splash my cold water, and didn't let me hurry to sleep! Now, I really The beginning of the writing is long, and his "good writing" is my most fundamental motivation - one day I will write out the stories he has told me.

In the nearly ten years after I graduated from high school, I lived for a month at the longest time. I kept walking around and watching. In the past ten years, I have not only learned to make up, cook, play badminton, or write. I also watched a lot of movies, read a lot of books, met many new friends, I learned to smoke, learned to drink, learned to stay up late, learned to drink coffee, learned to catch a cold, didn't take medicine... I lived at home before. I won't get up in the morning to take a bath, and I won't go home after 10 o'clock in the evening. I won't take medicine with boiled water, and I won't lack vitamins. I am looking for a job, I am resigning, I am traveling, I am falling in love, and they rarely say the details of the ins and outs. Usually, every day, one phone call is about what to eat and what is enough to spend. Later, I took a fancy to a man and told my father and mother that I was going to marry. Mom and Dad sent me to Nanjing. They lived in a hotel near us that day. On that morning, Dad and her husband rushed to pay for the hotel.

During this decade, I have left too many habits that I can’t change, and the two people who love me the most in the world are unaware of all this. I don’t know if I missed their life, or they missed me. growing up. In the days when I lived together again in the past ten years, I felt that they carefully respected my habits that were not used to, and respected this strange and familiar daughter.

During this decade, my irresponsible daughter walked forward and never looked back and waited for them. In the past ten years, they resisted the plunder of time and stood waiting for me. In the ten years of being absent from each other, I laughed, they didn't have a chance to laugh with me, I cried, and they didn't have the chance to cry with me; in the ten years of each other's absence, I didn't understand their life and loneliness, I didn't testify. The faces they are getting old every day. During this decade, I graduated from college, worked, and got married. This is the most important decade of my life. In this decade, my father gave birth to a serious illness. They all retired. Their favorite daughter graduated, worked, and married. This has also become the most important decade of their lives.

‍‍This time my parents came to Nanjing. I specially took them to the Confucius Temple to eat snacks and go boating in Xuanwu Lake. In fact, they visited these spots when they came alone last time, but I especially want to bring them to experience me and my husband. In the process of falling in love, I told my mother that my boyfriend and my current boyfriend had a particularly unpalatable beef pot sticker at the Confucius Temple. When I was rowing with my husband, I hit the boat on the shore. My mother kept licking. Laughing and kept asking me: "And then? Then?"

Hey, we all want to make up the part of each other who is "absent".

Write to everyone who is next to your parents, please know how to cherish.

Write to everyone who is not with your parents, please understand.