Only good people can get useful social

Home by their parents, go out to rely on friends. Perhaps because of this sentence, many people never forget to leave a phone call and call. Once upon a time, many people took the call or group photo to others as a show of capital.

Can not help but think of more than 10 years ago, accidentally contacted a "big man", exchanges are very happy, quite a bit, and left each other. I thought this was a very important network of contacts. Soon, just encountered a difficulty, thought of this "big man." So, send a long message, not back! I called another phone. As a result, I heard two words: no time! To be honest, it was frustrating at the time.

Many people have encountered such a refusal, thinking that they have left a phone with the other party and kept WeChat. They should be able to help each other, but they have forgotten one important thing:

Only resources are equal, can help each other!

A lot of social interaction is not very useful. It seems to leave someone else's phone, but when I need help, I just make a phone call. Because you are not good enough - although cruel, who is willing to help a person who is not good?

In 2019, I shared the "Time Management" course for a faculty member at a college in Shanghai. A young doctoral student asked: "I am busy working, often encountering some uninvited guests. Should I refuse? Will I lose? People?" I said:

Only good people can get useful social!

The young doctoral student realized: "Before I got a Ph.D., few people took the initiative to find me. I know why someone is looking for me now." Finally, he affirmed that he should spend more time on his own research projects, and there is no need to waste time on ineffective social interaction.

If you are not good enough, the network is not worthwhile. It is not pursued, but attracted. Only an equivalent exchange can get reasonable help - although it sounds cold, but it is a fact.

There was such a person around me. He spent most of his day with friends, and his name was like making friends and dealing with relationships. For friends, I often ignore my family and spend very little time with my family.

At the beginning, there was indeed a group of friends around me, followed by him. In his heart, there are friends who have everything. Later, the people who were ok were gradually leaving. Why? The main reason is that their careers are getting better and better. Except for the lack of time, I am afraid that it is not necessary. Because when you spend your time on a mixed relationship, you don't have any other hard skills, and you can't lay the foundation of your career.

There was an unexpected situation in the sky. He had a physical condition and got cancer. Doctors say that they have a lot to do with usual habits, such as frequent entertainment, excessive drinking, and irregular life. Sadly, when a friend knows that he has cancer, he is away from him like a plague, and only the family is accompanied by him.

I can't help but feel a word: the world is cool! This situation is more than one person? When Ruan Chenggang was jailed, his "old friends" all over the world disappeared. The old friends were also scattered, and the people who fell into the graves came.

When you are not strong enough and good enough, don't spend too much precious time socializing, spend more time reading and improve your professional skills. Give up those useless social and improve yourself, the world can be bigger!

Of course, there is one exception. When you are in trouble, he said that we are brothers. When you are rich, he still says that we are brothers. This kind of person who never gives up is called a true friend. He does not apply to the above rules. There aren't many people like this. In this exaggerated world, a few are good.

Fan Bingbing once said that I don't marry a giant, I am a giant. To treat the connection, you must also come up with Fan’s fan:

I don't pursue people, I am a network!

Please remember:

1 People are not on others, but hidden in themselves: Only by making yourself strong can you get useful connections!

2 “Cognitive people” is not equal to “popularity”: the first rule of the personal law is to reverse the “view of the heroes”.

The basis of 3 people is your “value of being used”: the more value you use, the more he will help you. Instead of spending time with people, it is better to spend time improving your personal value.

4 Less “Baojie” and more “mutual assistance” and “carrying”: The investment is similar to our level, and everyone is an equal “mutual assistance” relationship. In addition, people who are lower than their own status are like buying low-priced stocks at a low price. Such stocks can really make a lot of money.