You have not failed

You have not failed

I often tell a story in my speech: There is a man carrying a large porcelain bottle on the road, walking and walking, accidentally slipping on the hand, the porcelain bottle fell to the ground and fell. If the person continues to move forward without any problems, he will not look back. Someone looked surprised and asked him: "Your bottle is broken, why don't you look at it?" He said: "The bottle is broken, it is useless, I have to continue on the road, no It is worth the time for it." The bottle is broken, this is an end point, indicating that the road ahead is a failure; but it is a new starting point, returning home empty-handed, continue to work hard, earn money to buy a new one. Bottle, this is success. If you keep your tears in the bottle and you have missed something else, it will continue to fail. We should treat this life and treat the college entrance examination. It should also be such a mentality. From a small point of view, not only the college entrance examination, but also every test in our usual study is not the case? I have a good exam, there is nothing to be proud of, because it is already an end point, now we need to start from a new starting point; once the exam is poor, there is nothing to be sad, because it is already an end point, summing up lessons, preparing The next time you test it, you will be fine. If you lose because of a test, you feel that you are falling apart and your future is awkward. Since then, you have been self-defeating and self-blame. That is the real failure.

The results of this year's college entrance examination have come out. The result is no different from any previous year, and it is still a few happy ones. I am a successful and beneficiary of the college entrance examination, but because of the frequent lectures and the parents of the students, the contacts are more of those who have been overwhelmed by the college entrance examination, and even the students who have fallen short. In the media hotspots are basically locked in the moment of the lucky exam champions, I want to give those unfortunate people a little more words, give them some comfort and encouragement.

Because the format of the college entrance examination is very standardized, the candidates in one test area all use the same test paper, and finally use the total score to accurately quantify. However, everyone has their own characteristics, their own unique strengths and weaknesses, and the state of the exam is good or bad. These are impossible to accurately measure with a total score. There must be flaws in the middle.

For example, Peking University's admission score is 610, so if you only take 609, you can't be accepted. Obviously, between the 609-point tester and the 610-point tester, there is actually no gap in the overall level. It is hard to say who is better than who, and whoever is better than Beijing. But if you don't rely on the score "one size fits all", because you said that since 609 and 610 are not much different, then I should also go to Peking University. If you really let you in, the test 608 will also say that I am not much different from the test 609, I should also go; the test 607 will also say that I have little difference with the test 608 ... and so on, and finally all It is ridiculous to go to Peking University for subjects who have scored 0 points. Therefore, relying on the score “one size fits all” is to help the fairness and efficiency of the college entrance examination. The result is that the average learning ability of people above 610 is higher than that of 610, but there is no guarantee for each. People above 610 have higher learning abilities than those below 610.

If you are unfortunate enough to belong to a small number of students who have high learning ability but have not tested in the college entrance examination, it may be due to the poor state of the college entrance examination day, carelessly wrong with a big question, may be sick, or the most difficult big test It is a point of knowledge that you have not reviewed. Then, you need to believe in yourself. This is just one of the various setbacks that you will encounter on the road of life. The results don’t mean that you can’t do it. It’s impossible to explain that you have been completely in vain for many years of study, and you can’t explain your dream of life. Completely shattered. This is because the college entrance examination is a starting point rather than an end point. It represents an old stage that has passed and a new stage of life is about to begin. Through the college entrance examination, those with excellent grades will enter a better university and get a higher starting point. Those who are lagging behind in the college entrance examination also have plenty of time to catch up and make a fuss.

One of my college undergraduate classmates, surnamed Zhang, is a so-called "failure" in the college entrance examination. Because the gap is not accepted by the first volunteer school, he does not want to repeat it for another year, so he entered. A university that is not very famous, Hangzhou University. After entering the university, he did not abandon himself because he was not a key university. Instead, he worked harder and harder than even high school. As a result of this effort, he published four papers in some core academic journals during his undergraduate studies, one of which has won awards. High school students may not understand the weight of the four papers. They do not require a bachelor's degree to obtain a bachelor's degree from a prestigious university such as Peking University. To obtain a master's degree, only one paper is required. To obtain a doctoral degree, only two papers are required. paper. He is an undergraduate student at Hangzhou University. He has published four articles, and his work is evident. With this achievement, it is like posting a gold medal with the same weight as the Peking University Tsinghua University graduation certificate. After graduation, it was accepted by the Bank of China. After work, he still worked very hard and was promoted in less than two years, such as this year's salary has exceeded 200,000. I believe he will have a brighter future.

In contrast, at Tsinghua University, students commit suicide almost every year, and hundreds of students are forced to drop out or fail to graduate because of poor performance. Each of them has a much better college entrance examination score than the student named Zhang, and some even have the college entrance examination. Through the college entrance examination, they lead many people on the runway of life, but the college entrance examination is not the end. The game is not finished yet. There are still many challenges ahead. If you can't continue to work hard, it will easily change from leading to backward. On the contrary, those who fall behind in the college entrance examination, as long as they have doubled their efforts, strive to run faster on the road ahead than before, and one day they can surpass them.

Since the college entrance examination is a starting point rather than an end point, what is the end point? By absolute standards, only the end of life can be considered the true end. But from a dialectical point of view, life is nowhere is the end, nowhere is not the starting point, the end point is the starting point, the starting point is the end point. The end of a phase is the beginning of a phase. Everything in the past has passed. Whether you are leading or falling behind, you must continue to run. Because, the road behind is still very long.

Li Kaifu wrote in "Being the Best Self": "Under the unified perspective, if only the "achievement" and "fame and fortune" are used to measure the success or failure of individuals, groups and even society, then 99% of the people in this society Can't be among the winners." In his eyes, a good, hard-working, confident, self-conscious student, entering a prestigious university, his chances of success may be 90%, into other key universities, the probability may be Will drop to 85%, into the ordinary colleges and universities, the probability will not be lower than 80%. This principle is also very applicable to high school students. Our definition of failure and success is too simple, and it is easy for us to lose 85% of the opportunities that should belong to us.

So, what is the real success? Since the starting point and the ending point are relative, what criteria should we use to measure the success of our efforts?

In the words of Kai-Fu Lee, many people mentioned that they used "results" and "fame and fortune" to measure and oppose this measure. If it is measured by money, the salary of the Hangzhou University graduate who entered the Bank of China seems to be not low, and it can reflect his personal value, but if he and a lottery ticket are 5 million people Which is more successful than that?

By the same token, we should not use the scores of the exams and the universities we enter to measure success. Let me compare three examples: my high school, middle school and university students:

When I was in high school, there was one thing that sensationalized the whole school. It was a very good boy. Because I was pursuing a beautiful girl, I was repeatedly rejected. It made people not like people, ghosts are not ghosts, and his achievements. Entering a good key university is no problem, but in the end it only entered a normal undergraduate. I still have a classmate in the middle school, and the results are very good, but the family simply can't afford her to go to college, so she didn't even read in high school. After a few years of teaching, she was assigned to a township school. Although the salary is very low, in this small township, it is also a middle income level. The burden on her parents has been greatly alleviated. She used her little money for her brother to study. Now her younger brother has entered the university and is finished. Her dreams for many years. In addition, I have a college student who learns the odds, because the background of the family enters Renmin University, and it is also a daily life in the university. But in the year of his graduation, his father died of illness, and his interpersonal relationship was broken. Because he has no real skills, the current situation is the worst among all the classmates in our class.

The three examples I mentioned above, if you look at the results of the college entrance examination, the most successful entry into the National People's Congress, the second place to enter the ordinary undergraduate, even the university's door to the side of which does not know the natural failure. But in my opinion, the order of success should be reversed. The girl who only studied the teacher is the most successful. Although she is unable to enter the university due to family conditions, she has changed her family's appearance with her own efforts. Let your brother enter the university, this is success. It is a failure to enter the general undergraduate degree. However, entering the ordinary undergraduate course is also the result of his own efforts, and it can be regarded as a certain degree of success. And my college classmate, the family condition is so good, if he is willing to work like other classmates, he could have received more than others, but he failed the most.

Not only "scores" and "fame and fortune" are not the criteria for success. It is wrong to measure success with any unified external scale, because each of our personality, hobbies, interests, ideals are different, family conditions are different, talents are different, starting point Different, it is impossible to "one size fits all". There should be only one real standard, that is, ourselves, there is only one definition of success, that is, to surpass ourselves.

If a person can inherit a huge amount of wealth as soon as he is born, but he will only eat the mountain and the sky, while another person is born in poverty, but through his own efforts to create a career, perhaps his life will not create more wealth than the inheritance of the former, but He is successful, while the former is a failure.

By the same token, if one of your classmates enters the third year of high school, the starting point is very high, and the results are very good. However, after several setbacks, they will not be able to survive. In the end, they will enter the other major universities in Peking University. And your own starting point is very low, the original two lines can not go up, but through their unremitting efforts and finally got two. Then, in the high school stage, you are successful, and he is a failure.

After entering the university, different levels of schools represent different starting points. If people with high starting points can't move on, it is a failure. If people with low starting points persist in their efforts and surpass themselves, it is success. Life is like this, from a starting point to an end point, and an end point represents the next starting point. The starting point and the ending point are constantly alternating and constantly changing. In this process, we constantly challenge ourselves, strive for transcendence, and strive for success. Kai-Fu Lee said that 90%, 85%, and 80% of the universities entering different grades are likely to succeed, which is of course a very inaccurate estimate, but this estimate at least illustrates two reasons:

First, no matter what kind of university you enter, the probability of success is high. Success is not a matter of a few people, but a matter of everyone. Regardless of the starting point, a hard-working person will succeed. This success means surpassing himself;

Second, we should not regard the college entrance examination as the end point, but should regard it as the starting point. This starting point is high or low, but there is no distinction between the nobles, and there is no difference between good and bad. Whether your dream is Peking University Tsinghua University, or other key universities, or ordinary universities and colleges, every dream is worth cherishing. Every dream is respectful. What is really important is that you must work hard to make yourself a Growing up every day, a little progress.