Liu Wei's inspirational article selection

Liu Wei's inspirational article selection

Mr. Liu Wei is a wise man in life. He creates the home of human “love” and gives people a valuable and meaningful mental enlightenment to guide us to success. Reading Mr. Liu Wei's essays is like chatting with a wise man and an elder. We can learn his unpretentious language, appreciate his true feelings in the heart, understand his reasoning about the world, and appreciate the realm of his soul. The following five articles are all letters written by Mr. Liu Wei to her daughter, full of the care and expectation of a father, and there is no lack of philosophy that makes us ponder. I hope everyone will calm down and read it deeply.
First, talk about fear: "Choice between life and death"
Today, while you are playing the piano, fly a large fly from the door and string it in several rooms. When the fly flies near you, you will hear your screams.
"I am afraid! I will be scared!" When I blame you for making a fuss, you shout.
"Of course you will be scared." I said: "But you have to control yourself, don't be scared, because 'scare'
Not dangerous, the real danger is 'a big jump'!"
But you still screamed until I killed the flies before I practiced the piano again.
Child, do you know that your brother also had a problem when he was a child?
He is very ticklish, as long as he grabs him a little, he will itch like you are today.
But have you discovered that your brother is not afraid of it at all? Do you know that your mother is training?
Because my brother was a child, once when my mother went to school, I saw a group of children playing on the stairs. You, let me know, I will take a look at you. Everyone is hiding and hiding. It is too dangerous to roll down the stairs at any time.
So from the beginning of the day, my mother trained her brother, itching every day, and ordered him to endure. Unexpectedly, training him for a while, he is not afraid of itching.
My brother never really does not itch, but because he knows how to control himself and does not react excessively.
“Overreaction” often leads to big troubles.
When I first came to the United States, I had a friend who loved to react excessively. He drove and went to any small hole on the road. He would flash over. He said that if he did not escape, the car would be easy to break.
But his car is worse than anyone else, and not only is the car broken, he is always in a car accident.
The reason is very simple - he overreacted, he certainly diddge some small potholes, but because of distraction, neglected other cars on the road, so several times rubbed against other cars, the difference sent a life.
Overreaction, the biggest harm is distraction. You see, TV news is often reported, because the car is flashing small animals, causing a big car accident message. Every time I saw the body of a small animal on the highway, it was crushed into a bloody, thin piece. When you are cruel to the driver, I am not telling you that one day you drive, if you find a small animal lying on the road. When the car is flying fast, can you only choose to drive straight up?
At that critical juncture, you must know the choices, tell yourself with reason, and control your emotional reactions. You must know that when you are in a hurry, you are likely to cause a series of car accidents, and many people will die.
I remember when I was sixteen or seven years old, I often love to climb mountains. Once, in the deep mountains of Wulai, there was heavy downpour. I walked over the wooden bridge that was placed on a small waterfall. Suddenly I rushed down the waterfall and slammed a large snake, and slammed it on the wooden bridge in front of my feet.
God! You think about it, how terrible it is! If it is you, will it scare to fall from the bridge?
The problem is that under the bridge is a mountain tens of meters deep. If I don't control myself and overreact at the time, I won't have you today.
So although I was afraid of snakes, at that moment, I forced myself to calm down, and then the python was completely awake, kicking the snake.
Speaking of this, I want to ask you, if today is your mountain climbing, you only catch a small tree by the mountain, you can not fall, but a small snake wrapped around a small tree, do you catch it, or not?
Of course you catch it, right?
Then I will ask you again, if there is a major earthquake today, I will be crushed by the things I fell, knowing that you can’t help, and when you say "Run, Run!", you are staying with you. I died together, or listened to me, immediately ran out?
I may be too cruel to give such an example. However, children! In our lives, we often have to face cruel choices. At that moment, you can only choose one, you can't choose both sides; the two evils are light, you must overcome the feelings with reason to survive. Come down. As I said to you in the letter "When you meet the Big Wolf", when you are unfortunate enough to fall into the wrong hands, you will be raped. In order to save your life, you have to give up useless resistance. Only in this way, you have to ask for help and ask for help. The possibility of returning to justice.
After listening to so much, do you understand?
Why do I say that you can "scare" but not "scare"!
Second, talk about death: "Keep your mother forever"
Today is the anniversary of my grandmother.
So Dad took the big things on the table early in the morning, first placed two bottles of flowers, and then placed the photo of his grandmother in the middle. Then the father-in-law, mother-in-law, father, mother and you, together in front of three 躬.
Grandma has been dead for three years, just three years ago today, the 93-year-old grandmother left us forever and ever.
The birthday of the Chinese people who are in charge of the dead is called "the birthplace", and the day when the ancestors passed away is the "sacrificial day." Dad thinks that the sacrifice day is more important than the birthday, because the day my grandmother was born, I have not yet come to the world; on the day my grandmother died, both my mother and I went to bed.
In the same February, the same 18th, there is the same winter cold and short sunshine, even the road on the road is as smooth as three years ago. Therefore, the sacrifice day made us more able to recall the scenes at that time, so that we can return to the sadness of the year.
Right! Back to the sadness of the year. Sometimes, we have to forget the bad past, sometimes we have to relive the moment of broken heart.
Not long ago, I received a letter from a Malaysian high school girl. Her mother died. Her brother is only six years old. Do you know what she wants her brother to do? She told her brother to dry her tears and write down the mood with her pen. .
"I want my brother to write a letter to my mother and write down what I want to say to my mother. I hope that when he remembers his mother, he will write it down. If he is older, he can see it and keep his mother in his heart forever..." The girl said this in my letter to me.
As I read her letter, I shed tears and immediately wrote back to her, saying that I lost my mother soon, I could feel her scars, and even more surprised that at her young age, I would think of ways to remember my brother’s mood. .
Therefore, "sacrificial day" is also "remembering the day", which is a day for us to deepen our memory of the dead. As the years go by, when our impression of the deceased gradually fades, if we can use each festival to think about it, then the memory will stay longer.
Dear daughter! When you walked through Grandma’s photo, stop and look at Grandma! It was taken on the steps of the Capitol when Grandma traveled to Washington. At that time, she was eighty-eight, and she was very able to go. You are so embarrassed! She laughs so much.
Also use this day to find the shadow of your grandmother in your mind! Like the little boy in Malaysia, when your grandmother died, you are still too young, I am afraid that the memory will become more and more blurred in the future, so you should take your grandmother’s death. In the year, I want to find a way to deepen my impression of my grandmother.
Think about how my grandmother hurts you; imagine how grandmother gets into your room with her mother-in-law every morning, taking care of you; think about going to the hospital to see Grandma, Grandma sings and opens his eyes, look at your moment . Also think about it, you just fell into the car that day and burst into tears.
Of course, I don't want you to cry again. The days of tears have passed, and we have come out of the grief of bereavement. It’s like we rolled up our sleeves and looked at the scars that were injured before. The scar is no longer painful, but it reminds us of the moment of injury, and also warns ourselves in the heart, the next time you have to be careful.
Dear little girl, do you know what to tell yourself?
When you can't keep your grandmother and the sad grandmother's death, think about the grandmother and mother-in-law in front of me, even think about having parents around, and take the opportunity to gather with us.
I am afraid that afterwards, I will gather more today!
After waving your loved ones, you will return to your loved ones!
This is the grandma's sacrifice day, you really should learn!
Third, talk about caution: "When habits become nature"
Today is a good risk. When my mother and father went out in the afternoon, they almost got out of a car accident.
At that time, the mother drove into the main road from the driveway of our house. She only turned left and did not expect that there was a taxi on the right side. Fortunately, my father saw it and promptly reminded her to step on the car, and the white taxi passed by. The more you are used to, the easier it is to neglect. I really saw this kind of accident in front of my own house.
Twenty-five years ago, I came to the United States and lived in a professor's home in Virginia. One day my friend came to visit and decided to go out to watch a movie together. When I knew that I was going out, the professor’s car slammed into the friend’s car because he was only used to reversing, but he forgot that his friend’s car was parked in the driveway.
Another car accident was said for our uncle Xiao Li, who said that a family had renovated the bathroom and asked him to apply for a garbage bin. The next morning, when the car arrived, the owner drove to work as usual, and then retired, and slammed into the car and smashed the tail of the car.
Uncle Li also said that the most important thing to do when working in a home is definitely not to work outside the garage and in the corner of the yard, because every family is used to reversing out of the garage and driving from outside to their yard. The owner of this road can open his eyes with his eyes closed, so when he suddenly saw the workers, he often ran into it. He also said that there were several friends who were engaged in renovations, and they were injured because they did not pay attention.
We often say that "habits become natural", and many actions that have been done thousands of times will become "habitual actions."
For example, if you enter the room every day, you reach out to the wall to turn on the light switch. One day you go home and open the door. Although the light is bright, you will reach out to the wall and touch it?
But you also have to know that habitual movements often make you forget to use your brain and make a big mistake. For example, one day, you open the door and smell the smell of gas in the house. It is obvious that turning on the light may ignite the gas, but when you think of it, the hand may have already switched.
This is why every time I pick you up at school, take you through the lawn, and cross the parking lot, they are all jealous of you, you have to see clearly, and make sure you don't come when you come.
Because few people go to the side door of the school, and few people walk up the driveway from the lawn. Those who drive are used to reversing the car quickly every day; they are anxious to pick up their children, and you are eager to go home. These are urgent. The actions of the heart and the habit become the most dangerous thing.
Finally, let me tell you the true story published in the two newspapers -
There is a young mother who goes to the supermarket with a newborn doll.
After buying things, put the basket of the doll on the roof, put the things you bought into the trunk, and drive home.
The car went directly to the highway. Suddenly the car around her honked her. She felt strange first. I saw that the doors were closed. Why did everyone rush into it? Then, I thought she brought the doll out, where is the doll? ?
God! The doll is still on the roof of the car. Fortunately, the road is stable, and the bamboo basket for the doll has not fallen.
Another family is not so lucky -
There is a 13-year-old boy who goes out to play tennis with his classmates every afternoon after finishing his homework.
The tennis court is far away. The father of the classmate drives, every time the car goes to the door, and then calls him to go out with his mobile phone.
On this day, his mother is taking a bath to his little brother. Suddenly there is a phone call. He picks up, is a mother, and is called a mother.
Mom said that the younger brother is in the bath, you can help me to look at it, so I will go out to answer the phone. He had to enter the bathroom, but he heard the sound of the door. He was the classmate who came to pick him up, because the phone couldn’t come in and called him outside.
He took the racket and the bag out of the house as usual.
I know that when he finished the game and returned home, the family was empty. The neighbors said that his mother sent his brother to the hospital.
At this time, did he remember that his mother did not ask him to see his brother?
He didn't even think about it. Just when his mother answered the phone and he left home, his younger brother had already died in the bathtub. Think about how the above two accidents are caused?

It’s all because of the habit!
The mother who went to the supermarket was too accustomed to buying things and driving to the car to drive home. The little boy was used to taking the ball every day and jumped into the car. They all forgot that "the day is different!"
Child! When you are fourteen years old, you have accumulated 14 years of habitual action. As you work harder and more, your heart is getting more and more distracted. This is also what I found out from the horror of this afternoon. I can’t help but blame myself.
"The more familiar you are, the more cautious you are."
Fourth, talk about teachers and students: "Hate Teacher"
Today, you are going to school, I ask you to be happy at school? You are happy, but the tone is not as warm as usual. Then I heard you go to the kitchen to talk to my mother, and constantly said "Ihate! Ihate!" I asked the past what you hate, you don't answer, or your mother said:
"She doesn't like sports teachers."
Then you start your temper and slap your feet and say that you hate the physical education teacher.
“What do students hate the teacher and ask the teacher to hear?” I said.
"I heard it when I heard it! Each of our classmates has a hateful teacher. Everyone speaks loudly in the hallway."
"Why do you hate sports teachers?" I asked again.
"Because he is too fierce, he always throws the ball directly to me. I am afraid that I will not be able to get my eyes."
I laughed: "So how do you lose the ball?"
"You should throw it on the ground first, let the ball bounce, don't throw it directly."
God! Child, this is the first time I heard that I hated the teacher because the teacher lost the ball. But when I asked if there were any classmates who liked the teacher, you said that there were sports that were particularly good, and the teachers looked at them differently. Then you said to yourself that in the music class, the teachers are very good to you, you like music teachers.
I understand this! You don't like sports teachers because the teachers didn't give you special treatment.
The question is, is your sport good? If you are not good, why should the teacher be special to you? If you are in the physical education class like the symphony orchestra, sitting on the "chief first violin", can the teacher not look at you?
Also, will you not because the teacher does not pay special attention to you, because if you don't like him, the worse you will not perform well, the less you will cooperate with the teacher. The result is a vicious circle. The less the teacher likes you?
Children! Everyone wants to get the attention of others, but that "get" should be "winning", rather than inexplicably trying to make others look at you.
I also made the same mistake when I was a child. I was just in the sixth grade, and the art class was taught by a new young teacher. He didn't know that I was the best in the class. I didn't give me a special gift. I thought, "Oh my God! I am so good, why didn't you find it? I also said that I am not right there."
So I hated the teacher and resisted the teacher.
As a result, do you know? I was the only student in the class who was beaten by an art teacher because he didn't do his homework well. As of today, I can remember that when I straightened my hand and was punished, the whole class was surprised.
Moreover, that year was also the worst and the least improved in my life.
You said, what is the attitude of this hostile teacher?
There are too many examples of disappointing results because of the dislike of the teacher.
I used to come to the "Youth Consultation Center" in Taipei. I often have students come and say that they hate teachers, so they are regressing.
The good thing is that those students are often the most outstanding in the previous year, just like in our fifth grade. He performed outstandingly in the last school year and was favored by the teacher. He wanted to be a "privileged student" next year. When the teacher of the next year is not special to him, he feels that he is left out, from hateful teachers to negative resistance and no effort.
Of course, there are also the opposite situation -
One student had a bad grade in the school year. In the next school year, his tutor was a good friend of his mother. He paid more attention to him. He worked hard for his face. He was able to jump from the middle of the class to the middle of the class. Several former. It can be seen that the "impression of the teacher" will have a great impact on learning.
However, if your study depends entirely on your teacher, isn’t it too sad?
Learning is your own business, not because you "show" to the teacher, nor is it dedicated to "reward" the teacher or "revenge" teacher. Even if the teacher is badly impressed by you, you should still study hard and even say you. More should be used twice, to prove that they are good, to the teacher to see it!
Finally, let me tell you a story -
There is a student who doesn't like English teachers. He says that he hates English classes and hates the teacher.
He is passively studying, of course, his grades are not good. The English teacher has a headache for him. He always scolds him and he hates the teacher.
One day, the student’s father heard his son and said that he hated the teacher and asked, “Your English is okay?”
"not good."
"No wonder you hate the teacher, because you can't learn well, so use the hate teacher as an excuse." The student's father said: "You can hate him, but you have to be good in English, saying that he hates to listen, otherwise people will only Say you are a sour grape, right?" Then asked his son: "Dad gives you a tutor, teaches you English, and teaches you a lot. Is the teacher good?"
When the child listens to it, he uses English to learn English and his grades rise.
At the end of the semester, the father asked the child again: "You are good at English now, you can go and criticize him. You can even go to the principal to tell him that he is not good."
Unexpectedly, his son smiled:
"Dad! Not only do I not hate the teacher, but I like him, because he is getting better and better for me. I called me to praise it yesterday!"
Ok! My story is over.
Do you want to play tennis with me tomorrow? Do you want to play with me?
But let me tell you first! My ball is also thrown directly to you, not thrown on the ground, and then hit you in front of you.
Fifth, talk about the beginning: "Desperately as a personal person"
"Not only I will drag, the teacher will drag."
Today, I watched the article I wrote yesterday and protested: "The teacher taught slowly at the beginning of the semester, and talked about a bunch of nonsense. Before the end of the semester, I was desperately trying to catch up. The teacher rushed, and we also had to catch up. Very busy before the exam."
After that, you look down and look up and ask: "Why do Taiwanese children have to sleep first? What do you sleep with? You can't sleep at night."
I laughed and said that you are "full of people do not know hungry people, ask if you only sleep for five hours at night, even if you go home for an hour and a half, add up to only six and a half hours, you will not sleep at night I also tell you how hard the children in Taiwan are in the same subject. They often have to read several different versions of textbooks. They are not only going to class earlier than you, classing later than you, and often staying in school for tutoring. Point to go home.
You open your eyes and ask why you are so bitter.
Children! I often blame why the Chinese are so aggressive in pushing their children, pushing their children to wear myopia glasses early, and even pushing their children to commit suicide.
I have also made a comparison and found that the health of my generation is not the same as the previous generation. The reason is that the previous generation was in the environment of the Second World War. They often had to hide from bombing and change schools, and there were many opportunities for “intermediate breathing”. In contrast, I was born in Taiwan in 1949. The war has passed, but there are fewer schools and more students. The pressure for entrance examinations is so great that there is a so-called "bad supplement."
When I was a child, I often had to stay in school for tutoring. In my memory, I always showed the heavy-duty schoolbag, which contained "Graphic Arithmetic" and returned home in the night.
Can you imagine that when you learn to dance, learn to sing, learn piano, and violin, you can easily go to the sixth grade of the National Elementary School every day. Have many Taiwanese children already gone to the tutoring class?
It’s not the children of Taiwan! The same is true in mainland China. I have been to a famous middle school. The principal is proud to say that more than 90% of their graduates can be admitted to key universities. They also said that they built a house on the mountain side, and the students of the third year were sent there to live in the school, just as the former readers often went to the temples in the mountains to study hard.
Not only do famous schools, I have a year to go to a small country in the poor areas of the deep mountains of Guangxi, where the school buildings are dilapidated, and the children are wearing colorful “hundred clothes”. But do you know that the children there actually told me that they only saw the lights and the moonlight?
They said that they would get up when they didn't shine every day. After the sun went down, they had to stay in school, so it was rare to see the sun. It is said that because the land is barren, some students have only one set of clothes that can be used for guests, and everyone wears them; even some people are poor enough to wear clothes, not covered by children, and hide in the grass when they are cold.
But those parents still struggled to send their children to school, and they had to pay "tuition fees" and "substitute teacher fees" for their children.
In the past few years, I ran many schools in the remote areas of mainland China. In addition to the hopes of the small children we donated, we also went to Guizhou minority areas and schools built in Shanxi cave dwellings.
They are all too bitter. A teacher's monthly salary may not be enough to watch two movies; one or two children may go to school because they can't afford the tuition.
However, I found that they all worked hard and their parents could not read, but they all knew that they would force their children to study.
Gradually, I learned that the concept of "no one asked in the cold window for ten years, became famous in the world", "there is a gold house in the book, and the self-owned Yan Ruyu in the book", and the concept of hard work can be rooted in the Chinese. In my heart. Even if there are more schools now, even in Taiwan, the admission rate is over 100%. Everyone still has to fight.
why?
Because I have to get into a good school because I have to be "stronger."
Child, in fact, what do you have to understand?
You look at the classmates around you, especially the Jews and the Chinese. They don't all try their best to give the children tutoring, ask the children to go to the hospital as volunteers, go online to find various subjects for children, participate in science competitions, and even find teachers to teach tennis for their children. Fencing, swimming and skating, set a winning record, so that you can enter the Ivy League school?
Therefore, the Jews can be excluded from the Second World War and develop to this day. Although they are a minority in the American society, they have a pivotal position. The Chinese can become the highest-ranking ethnic group in the United States, with outstanding achievements in all aspects. achievement.
The United States is free, free to choose to be a scavenger or university professor; the United States is also open, scavengers can earn more than university professors, the United States is still equal, positions are not honored, as long as they work hard, Can have a good life.
However, there are some ethnic groups, especially those who have experienced hardships, whether in China or the United States, they have a natural force in their hearts.
Desperately be a personal person!