Yu Minhong: Happiness is between progress and understanding

Yu Minhong: Happiness is between progress and understanding

Once we have the yearning and pursuit, there will be defects and regrets in our lives...
When you live in a world where nothing is missing, what you lack is the pursuit of the soul and the richness of the soul...
What is happiness? Happiness is between progress and understanding, between sorrow and joy...
There is always regret in our lives. In fact, it is impossible to be perfect in a lifetime. It's like climbing a mountain. When you see a mountaintop, you want to climb up and use it as the highest goal of your life, but when you climb to the hill, there are definitely two situations: first, climb to that After the hill, the hill is already at your feet, so your goal is lost. Second, you are surprised to find that there is a higher mountain on the distant horizon, and you definitely want to climb another hill.
In general, our world is full of yearning and pursuit, and your yearning and pursuit of stagnation is the day when your life disappears. The story of Master Hong Yi can illustrate this point. Master Hong Yi married twice and married in Tianjin. Later, she fell in love with a Japanese woman in Japan and married again. She was born with two marriages. He was the most famous literati in China in the 1930s and 1940s. He was the founder of modern Chinese drama. The most familiar song "Farewell" was written by him. But one day, he suddenly left home and went to the temple as a monk, as if he had lost his mind. However, although Master Hongyi abandoned the troubles of the world, he actually entered another realm of yearning and pursuit. Otherwise, he would not do anything when he entered Buddhism. Later, there would be no great religious circle of Hongyi Master. The character is gone. He walked into Buddhism and changed his direction of pursuit. He became a descendant of the Chinese Law School and became a rare great figure in the history of modern Chinese Buddhism. Even if he broke away from the secular, he broke off the relationship with the world, but still has his own yearning and pursuit.
When a person does not yearn for and pursues, it is often the time when his life disappears. Once we have the yearning and pursuit, there will be defects and regrets in our lives. Everyone knows that no one can do everything perfectly, and no one can finish what he wants to do in his lifetime. Even the Hongyi Master I mentioned earlier, when he died, he found that his great career in the religious world was only one tenth of what he expected. However, it is not terrible to have regrets and imperfections. If our life is too perfect, there will be problems, which means you don't have to do anything. Therefore, one of the most terrible situations for a person is to be born in a wealthy home and get everything, but the parents have not instilled in him the idea of ​​fighting for something better. In China, such a situation is increasingly appearing. I have met countless rich children, and I find that their pursuit of the future and their mentality are not correct. Many people I know have to send their children abroad to go to middle school and high school, and the reason for sending children abroad is not to give children a better future, but because there is no way in China. Educate your child. After sending your child abroad, you can at least speak to your friends around. My child is now studying in Australia. My child is now studying in the UK. In fact, a survey will find that many children in Australia and the United Kingdom are not taking drugs or smoking marijuana. They are not driving a BMW to show off their wealth, or they are starting to live together when they are young. You will find that when you live in a world where nothing is missing, what you lack is the pursuit of the soul and the richness of the soul. In China, parents rarely teach children to have the pursuit of the soul and the richness of the soul, which often destroys the child's life. So when the world gives you too much, sometimes it is not a good thing. If you think about Jia Baoyu, you will understand. Jia Baoyu was born with a piece of jade, but the final result was that he had to break into the empty door, because he did not need to work hard in his life, so he became a playboy who was only interested in women.
When we find that we have something missing in our lives, we have no money, no reputation, no status, we still need to work hard, we can't find a perfect boyfriend or girlfriend, and no one around us can understand us. In fact, it is the beginning of a good life. Because of pain and difficulty, because of challenges and responses, we will have poetry and music, and the world will become so beautiful, we will have tragedies and comedies, and we will have progress and understanding. Seeing the same thing and the same person, the wise and the unwise people have different views. What I like the most is the three realms of life in the Song Dynasty Zen master Qingyuan Xingsi. He said that when he was very naive, it was meaningless to see the mountains as mountains and the water as water. When he enters the vague realm of life, no matter how you look at it, the mountains are not mountains, the water is not water, and it feels full of mystery. In the end, he felt that watching the mountains or the mountains, watching the water or the water, when he reached this realm, he had already realized that the landscape had produced a strong resound in his heart, and his heaven and earth had become extremely open.
This is the same as writing poetry. Anyone who has written a poem knows that a person who writes poetry is originally a very ordinary recitation-type poem. For example, "Ah, you are my lover, open in my heart like a rose, how much I love you." Ah!" But when you write down again, you find that such poetry has no taste, and you want to make it more tasteful as much as possible, so you start to write poems, and no one can read them at the end. But when you write to the ultimate realm, you find that you will express your true understanding of life, love, and life in very simple language. For example, Xu Zhimo's poem: "The most gentleness of the bow is better than the shyness of the lotus flower. The road is precious, the road is precious, and the treasure is full of sweet sorrow." This is full of life and death. Feeling, but you find that you can read every sentence.
The progress and understanding of life does not necessarily require you to go to any great place, but to say that even if you are in the same place, even if you are in a room for ten years, in the tenth year, your life essence and the first year are also It's totally different. What is happiness? Happiness is between progress and understanding, between sorrow and joy. Our life sometimes needs to be described as a song. I hope that we should not be too hasty and slow down. Even if you have a pain, you should lick your own wound like a dog and make your wounds become your own eternal memories. When you carefully understand your pain, sorrow, and joy, your life will have more rich connotations. In the early 80s, there was a song, everyone would sing: Horses, you go slower, you go slower... The purpose is to see the scenery along the way, don’t forget that you live forever, there are too many The scenery can be seen for you. You can see your heart inward, you can see the world from the outside, you can see your friends and colleagues from the side, they are all picturesque, as long as you From another angle, you will find their beauty.