No effort, no one will ever be fair to you

Yu Minhong: If you don't work hard, there will never be someone who is fair to you. Only if you work hard, have resources, and have the right to speak, can you fight for a fair chance for yourself. A lot of reason for life is worth reading.

Core tips:

1. How big your heart is, how far you can go. As long as you keep running, you will run out of your own unexpected distance.

2, we do not know how many times we are learning about what we have learned and what we are doing in the profession.

3. It is often the culprit to destroy a good life. Once a person is caught in a state of being accustomed to, he will lose the ability to perceive and experience good things.

4. If we feel that we are being forced to do something, we don't have to feel helpless or annoyed because it may not be a bad thing in the long run.

5, you do not work hard, no one will be fair to you, only you work hard, have resources, have the right to speak, you can fight for a fair opportunity for yourself.

"Two kinds of mistakes" cannot make everyone's expectation for the future, and have a pursuit of future career, achievement and happiness.

In the face of the future, we are the easiest to make two mistakes: one is that I will not have a big role in my life; the other is that others will not do anything.

I was guilty when I was at Peking University. When the exam was over and the textbook was thrown away, everything would be fine. As far as I am concerned, I have already had a lot of impressions on many teachers in the university age, because these teachers are basically “wide and large” teachers. No matter what the students don’t listen to, the exam papers will be finished at the end of the exam, and the score will be finished. Individuals can pass.

However, there are two teachers I still remember today and I am grateful. One is our dean of the department, Li Funing, and the other is our teacher of English poetry, Wang Shiren. Teacher Li Funing taught us the fourth volume of "New Concept English", asking us to take a lesson in the first lesson, which often makes us "forced", but it has made us a solid English foundation. Teacher Wang Shiren asked us to recite all the English poems he had taught. We were forced to "really" in the West Wind to recite Shelley's "West Wind", but the beauty of the English language was also realized in the back. The more profound. Now think about it, if all the teachers are so strict with us, we may still grow more in college.

I recently read "I am a mother in the United States", which is a book by Yale University Chinese professor Cai Meier about his childcare experience. Her requirements for the two daughters are very strict, even to the point of cruelty. She did not give her children the opportunity to “do not work hard” from the beginning, and eventually cultivated her two daughters into outstanding pianists and violinists. As for whether the two daughters will be more successful in the future, I don't want to comment, but at least it can be said that it is Cai Meier who used his love to "force" the two daughters to success.

I was "forced" by my mother when I was a child. The mother did not know a few words, but asked me to do homework and study every day. I didn't qualify for high school, she went to the world to ask for help; when I failed the college entrance exam, she encouraged me to take another test. In the end, I was admitted to Peking University. Therefore, without a strict mother, there may not be me today.

Life has never been smooth, and success has never been at your fingertips. If we feel that we are "forced" to do something, we don't have to feel helpless or annoyed because it may not be a bad thing in the long run. For example, the teacher "forced" the text and was forced by the classmates. Participating in the activity, being forced by the boss to work constantly, being "forced" by the competition to learn every day... Perhaps, appropriate persecution can "force" our inertia, "force" our mediocrity, and take our courage "Forcing" out, "forced" our future, and "forced" our sense of accomplishment and happiness.

Don't "take it for granted"

It is often the culprit to destroy a good life. Once a person is caught in a state of being accustomed to, he will lose the ability to perceive and experience good things.

However, there are too many habits in our lives: it is common to see light in the dark when you turn on the light; you can get used to borrowing books you want to read at any time in the library; you can use your mobile phone to hear anywhere in the world. The voices of loved ones are accustomed to it; parents care and love for us from small to large. These habits make us lose the happiness and happiness we should have in our lives.

Perception is the source of happiness and happiness. If you can feel the happiness of reading at school, you can feel the sense of accomplishment of work in the unit, and you can feel the warmth of home after returning home, which means that you still retain the ability to feel happiness and happiness. But for many people, this kind of perception is slowly disappearing, and in the end it is inevitable to fall into the habit of taking it for granted.

We all know this sentence: "The Kujulan room does not smell its fragrance, and the city of Baoshu does not smell its smell for a long time." Why is there such a situation? Because the same experience day after day can cause aesthetic boredom and fatigue, the brain can no longer maintain excitement. This is an inevitable result of physical and psychological reactions. It is not transferred by human will, and it is always unconsciously plunged into numbness and even tiredness. So how can we improve this state and re-sensing happiness and happiness?

The answer is: Don't make good things too easy to get. The more difficult it is to get, the more it will be cherished, and the more happiness it will get from it. The happiness of many children is far from being strong when we were young, even though they are much richer in material terms. They want to get something too easy: buy a toy if you want a toy, buy a mobile phone if you want a mobile phone, watch a movie if you want to watch a movie, and eat what you want. As a result, the child quickly became bored with these things.

We were different when we were young. At that time, having a toy pistol or watching a movie was a very extravagant thing. I remember when I was a child, a relative of Shanghai came to the countryside and sent me a toy pistol. As a result, this gun became my personal baby. I have been with me for ten years. Until now I think about it, I can still appreciate that it brought me. The kind of happiness and satisfaction. When I was a child, I watched movies. They were all open-air movies, and I often had to walk in the dark for ten miles. But the happiness and happiness I felt when I watched movies at that time were not comparable to the one hundred movies. Therefore, I am very fortunate to have lived in the countryside since childhood. I spent my childhood and my youth studying in the days when I was kerosene lamps, because it made me cherish the life of today.

Someone told me: I have never lacked anything since I was a child. I lived in a wealthy family and lived a life of sorrow, but gradually lost the ability to feel good life. This is what we often say, "I don't know how to be blessed in the blessing." The best way to improve this situation is to let yourself lose and re-sense first.

How to lose first? Temporarily leave the warmth of the usual home, abandon the convenient life of "turning on the switch is the electric light, turning on the faucet is clear water", hit the backpack, go to the wilderness with no water and no electricity for three days, dry food in the lonely day, at night Fear in the tent. Then, when you get home again, you know how cute your home is and how happy your daily life is.

We can't be too accustomed to good things, otherwise, what remains in life can only be more and more pain. Because people are naturally accustomed to good things, and the perception of pain will only become acute with the accumulation of years and months. If we don't know how to feel happiness and happiness, we can only let pain and resentment fill our hearts.

Therefore, let us eliminate the habits that we take for granted, re-wipe our hearts and eyes, and earnestly feel the happiness in ordinary days, so that every day can be spent in fulfillment, happiness and gratitude.