Come out and don't care too much about your face.

I don't care too much about my face. It doesn't encourage you to be full of shine, not to trim the edges and scare people. It is to persuade you to walk in the rivers and lakes. The skin is not too thin, and it is a truth to not have a glass heart.

The older you are, the more you will feel that holding the word is worthless.

Others owe you money, you are embarrassed to open your mouth, counting on the other side's conscience, that can only be when the money is broken. You like a boy, but you still can't figure out what the other person is thinking about yourself. So you stick to the tradition and hold on to waiting for the other person to confess. Then you can only continue to be obscenity in the idol drama. The first one. You want to get a good job, hold a word in the group discussion, no matter what you are thinking about - such as courtesy or want to make a blockbuster, then wait for you 80% Was ruthlessly eliminated by HR.

The world is changing every day and changing with each passing day. Who will look at the silent one?

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Or start from the time when I came to the United States to speak English.

My English is very slag, slag to the first sentence and others say Hello, the second sentence wants to say Bye Bye. When I first came here, I didn’t have to do anything to talk to strangers on the road. For example, two uncles from the neighboring state and a four-hour drive to the school to watch the game, I can pull the weather in Shanghai at the entrance of the library for ten minutes. It can be said for so long, and thanks to the other party's brain, which has a very high degree of error compatibility, and a full understanding of the body language. For example, after going to the postgraduate class, the teacher was first called to answer the question. I explained the identity of the teacher for two minutes and the professor did not understand it. In the end, I had to tell me whatever, miss down please. For example, if I am interested in a certain profession, I will go directly to the department head to ask for the application process and suggestions. I will talk for five minutes, and then the first suggestion that the department head gave me is You need try your best to Improve your English.

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The most exaggerated thing happened between me and the insurance company.

One day, I called the eye insurance company's eye examination. My hearing was really fast and the speed of the other party was really fast. I didn't understand it after talking twice. When I asked the other party to pardon for the third time and speak slowly, there was a voice on the phone that I couldn’t understand, and I didn’t hide my impatience. I don't know where to come up with the brains. I used the Chinese to say the question I wanted to ask. The phone was overwhelmed. What happened? I repeated the question again in Chinese. The phone continued to force and What? Then I sweared English is my second language, if you can't understand Chinese, please be more patient for my English, thank you. Finally, the other party had to reply to the question I needed to answer with the speed of one word. Again.

I know that it is not good enough to ask others for trouble because of their own language level, but when you need to solve problems quickly or achieve your goals, you can't help you. All you have to do is find ways to solve the problem, and it is obviously the most convenient and effective one.

Not as you wish, this is not an inspirational story. After all, my English is still very scum. But now even if you let a group of A-three brothers talk to me, I am not embarrassed - if you say slow, I can't understand, then one word, one word, and if I still can't understand it, then write it down to me. Look. Language is the tool of communication, and mutual understanding is the primary goal. It is really not necessary to care too much about twists and turns.

Putting aside your shackles will not necessarily bring you benefits in a short period of time, but at least you can become more brave. In this world, the brave can make the world go.

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Another story begins with an article.

I was rejected by a platform submission "Marriage in <House of Cards". I was very reluctant. Because this article was that I got up at half past six in the morning and spent five hours in one go. When I was in the code, I felt that I couldn’t stop it because of God’s help. It’s simply a slap in the face of the gods. So I checked it again twice, and after I was sure that it was worthy of being published, I wrote a letter to the editor. From the article highlights, the customer group and the platform itself, I listed in detail why I think this article is worthy of being hired by you. For reasons, it is strongly requested to review the manuscript or give reasons for rejection.

It is estimated that the editor has not seen such a brazen and reasonable author. After ten minutes, he replied to the email and said that he was hired.

Later, because this article was reprinted by many public accounts, then some readers and friends added my personal micro-signal, and then they were encouraged to add and wanted them to see my article for the first time, so I had it. Start writing the public number. Although I am tired of knocking my head like a dog every day, I want to know more about it. But after all, I started to do something that I have always been timid, mainly lazy. It feels so bad and cool.

Putting down your shackles, you won't necessarily be able to ensure your success, but at least you can add a solid backing for your unwillingness and will not easily admit defeat.

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Seeing this, some friends may say that it is easy for you to go to this matter, but it is impossible for me. Ok, then let's analyze why you can't let go. I have concluded that there are usually four reasons for not getting out:

First, think too much & self-limit

Is this really feasible? Is this really reliable? What do you think of friends after I do? Is there any other way? I have no experience? How can I do it?...

I don't know how many people are stuck in such a series of negations and doubts.

It's a good habit to think more and think more, but things won't be solved with your Thinking. Unless you have a foolproof strategy after you think about it, leaving 50% or even 70% of the space for action is far better than endless thinking. This is the same as the code word. No matter how excited you are in your mind, you can always encounter stuck or tangled places. At this time, you may want to write the thoughts first. This process can both sort out the ideas and write them. In the process of finding a breakthrough point, or a moment of a flash of light, help you unlock the knot left in the brain.

Second, fear of taking negative consequences or being blamed

I don’t have much face, what do people think of me? Will they be jealous or expelled, then don’t take risks?...

Everyone wants to avoid risks, and everyone is safest in the comfort zone. But this also means that you have only so much progress and space is only that big. As an adult, one of the signs of maturity is the courage to take on your own mistakes. If you can apologize for the mistakes you made when you were young, why do you fear to bow when you grow up? And, are some of the consequences really impossible for you to bear? I believe that for most ordinary people, the destruction of the earth is caused by their own mistakes. The possibility of human demise, corporate failure, and family ruin is almost zero. To put it bluntly, I just care too much about my face.

Take the example of a woman chasing a man. Many girls meet the favorite boys who are embarrassed to act, always feel that being a girl should be reserved and proud. However, the worst result of your confession is simply that you are rejected. If a boy doesn't even care about you, how can you pursue him and confess that he is deeply impressed by what you think is not a lady? It’s the best to take a shot and return to a stranger. Bad results. Your inner weight should not only be.

Third, the lack of external support

Yesterday, Curry won the regular season MVP and became the first person in NBA history. However, the three-pointer with a very high three-point field and a basketball game has lost nine three-pointers in the first three quarters. The counterattack occurred in the fourth quarter and overtime, with five-pointers and five-pointers, helping the Warriors win again. Excluding Curry's own psychological quality and level, if after his loss of nine chances, the team's partner chooses not to trust him and no longer pass him the ball, then there will be no seven-fifth and the team win after the team. It is.

Human beings are both great and small. The greatness is that we can make a lot of things that we can't imagine. The lesson is that our success is hard to leave only our own personal footprint.

Fourth, lack of experience and accumulation

A sophomore who plays games in a dormitory every day and a sophomore who has already done three internships, in the self-promotion of finding a job interview, I believe that the chances of success of the latter must be much greater than the former. No one is brave enough to make a living. It is nothing more than doing more and seeing more. When facing new things, the heart can be more calm and lose.

Just like the two stories about myself that I started at the beginning of the article, the resilience that dares to hook strangers, not worry about being blamed for troublesome people, and the death of the editors is not in the last job. With full exercise, I don't necessarily dare to open my mouth and pull my face down.

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So how can we do it? For the above four reasons, I outline the following four principles, hoping to have some guidance for friends who want to become more open-minded. Although short, they are the key to breaking the above four points.

Finally, I want to say that the fat is not a bite to eat, the same applies to here. You don't have to force yourself to meet people at the beginning to "hook up". It is the first step to be able to smile and ask well with strangers coming on the road.